Trying to forgive after he cheated on you but still feel emotionally disconnected?

Trying to keep it all together, but unsure what you actually want anymore?

Feeling stuck or resigned in your marriage even though you chose to stay?

After infidelity, most women focus on forgiveness, rebuilding trust, and holding the marriage together.

But rarely do we stop to ask:

What do I want?

In this episode, I sit down with a licensed therapist to unpack the question that created a breakthrough in my own healing journey.

When I was asked, “What do you want?” — I couldn’t answer.

Not because I didn’t care.

But because somewhere along the way, I had absorbed the belief that I didn’t get to choose always. It seemed to me a selfish and not enough of an urgent question to ask with all I had to do already.

In this conversation, we explore:

Why asking “What do you want?” feels challenging after betrayal

How broken trust impacts emotional connection in marriage

How reclaiming your ability to choose is foundational to rebuilding trust

If you’re navigating infidelity and want to rebuild trust while strengthening your own voice, this episode will challenge and steady you at the same time.

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

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If you’re navigating infidelity and feel disconnected, reactive, or stuck, I’m opening five free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Sessions.

In this focused conversation, we’ll clarify what’s keeping you unsettled and map your next step toward rebuilding trust.

If you’re ready for structured support, book your session here:

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You stayed after the affair… but still feel emotionally disconnected?

Wonder why you’re “not over it” even though some time has passed since the infidelity?

Feel unsettled in your marriage even when things look stable on the outside?

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple but powerful Heart Check to help you reconnect with your emotional needs after infidelity so you can rebuild trust from the inside out.

Whether the betrayal happened recently or years ago, many women who choose to stay still find themselves bracing, guarding, or feeling quietly disconnected. This episode walks you through a practical 4-step exercise rooted in self-awareness that helps you move from emotional reactivity to grounded clarity.

You’ll learn:

1. Why disconnection can linger long after an affair
2. How survival patterns affect emotional connection in marriage
3. The link between feelings and unmet needs
4. One small step you can take this week to begin rebuilding emotional safety

This is not about reopening old wounds.

It’s about tending to the places that never fully closed — so reconciliation becomes possible without losing yourself in the process

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

→ Book a Free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Session

If you’re navigating infidelity and feel disconnected, reactive, or stuck, I’m opening five free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Sessions.

In this focused conversation, we’ll clarify what’s keeping you unsettled and map your next wise step toward rebuilding trust.

If you’re ready for structured support, book your session here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

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After infidelity in marriage, it’s not just trust that breaks — it’s your heart.

• Did you feel like your entire life collapsed in that single moment when the affair was out — and with it, your sense of who you are?

• After betrayal, have you found yourself quietly asking, “Was I not enough?”

• Does it feel like your emotions are running the show, and you don’t fully trust your own heart anymore?

In this episode, we go deeper than communication strategies or surface-level forgiveness. We talk about what betrayal actually disrupts: the heart — the center of your will, identity, and direction.

Drawing from Scripture and the work of Dallas Willard, you’ll learn:

• What the heart really is

• Why infidelity shakes your identity so deeply

• How shame quietly takes leadership

• And what it looks like to live from victory instead of defeat

This is not about pretending the pain isn’t real. It’s about reclaiming your heart so betrayal doesn’t define your worth.

If you are navigating infidelity in your marriage and struggling with loneliness, forgiveness, or emotional disconnection, this episode will help you begin reordering your heart around truth — so you can live led, not defeated, even in the middle of heartbreak

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

Connect → Join the private HEART WORK Telegram group - email me to join!

Book a Free 1:1 Coaching Call with me - for the 5 women who book with me first! → https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Next Steps

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women healing from infidelity and betrayal in the private Telegram group, where we encourage each other towards hope and reconciliation.

Step 2: Sign up for the weekly HEART WORK newsletter to receive encouragement, biblical and practical heart work.

Step 3: Get more personalized support with 1:1 betrayal recovery coaching, designed to help you rebuild inner leadership, trust yourself again, and find clarity about your marriage at your own pace. I’m giving away five free 1:1 coaching sessions for the first five women who schedule with me here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

• After infidelity or betrayal, do you feel unsure where your heart even is anymore?
• Do you notice your week starting in survival mode before you’ve had a chance to breathe?
• Have you been told to “trust God” or “forgive,” but inside you feel guarded, tired, or disconnected?

In this Monday Heart Check, we slow things down and focus on the heart as the center of trust, direction, and choice.

Using a gentle practice from the Book of Psalms, this episode invites you to pause, settle your body, and notice where your heart truly is after betrayal or infidelity. This is not about making decisions, rebuilding trust, or forcing forgiveness. It’s about beginning the week grounded — allowing your heart to be honest in God’s presence as you continue healing.

This Heart Check is for women navigating marriage after betrayal who want spiritual grounding without pressure, and a safe place to begin again.

Resources and Links Mentioned:

• Psalm 62:5–8 AMP (read during the Heart Check)
• Episode 03 | Haunted by Nightmares or Intrusive Thoughts After Infidelity? A Heart Check for Betrayal Trauma

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

Connect → Join the private Telegram group - email me to join!

Book a Free 1:1 Coaching Call with me - for the 5 women who book with me first! → https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Next Steps

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women healing from infidelity and betrayal in the private Telegram group, where we encourage each other towards hope and reconciliation.

Step 2: Sign up for the weekly Heart Work After Betrayal newsletter to receive encouragement, biblical and practical heart work.

Step 3: Get more personalized support with 1:1 betrayal recovery coaching, designed to help you rebuild inner leadership, trust yourself again, and find clarity about your marriage at your own pace. I’m giving away five free 1:1 coaching sessions for the first five women who schedule with me here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Afraid that if you speak up after infidelity, the conversation will spiral?

Do you hold things in because you don’t want to make things worse — but feel yourself slowly disappearing?

Want to communicate honestly without escalating conflict or abandoning yourself in the process?

In this Thursday Deep Dive, we explore how to communicate after infidelity in a way that honors your truth without escalating conflict or losing yourself.

After an affair — and the lying or hiding that often comes with it — communication can feel unsafe. Your body may react before your words, leaving you stuck between saying too much or saying nothing at all.

In this episode, I walk you through a clear, trauma-informed framework to help you communicate with wisdom and emotional safety — even when anxiety, fear, or anger are still present. We also talk about the difference between requests and demands, what real reassurance looks like after betrayal, and how to stay connected to yourself while speaking honestly.

This episode is for Christian women who want to rebuild trust, communicate with clarity, and move forward without rushing their healing or silencing their needs.

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

Next Steps

Step 1: Join a supportive community of Christian women healing after infidelity in my private telegram group Step 2: Sign up for the Heart Work Weekly Newsletter for encouragement and practical tools Step 3: Get personalized support through 1:1 coaching to help you heal, rebuild emotional safety, and communicate with clarity - book a free call here: https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Afraid to talk after infidelity because you’re worried you’ll say the wrong thing?

Do you replay conversations in your head — wondering if speaking up will make things worse?

Feel stuck between wanting connection and wanting to protect your heart?

In this episode, I’m sharing a gentle Monday Heart Check to help you pause before speaking after infidelity, so you can approach hard conversations with more emotional safety, clarity, and self-trust.

After betrayal, communication can feel risky — especially when your body reacts faster than your words. This short, grounding practice will help you check what you’re really needing in the moment, assess your emotional capacity, and give yourself permission to slow down instead of forcing a conversation before you’re ready.

This episode is for Christian women who want to honor their healing, stay connected to God, and communicate with wisdom — without abandoning themselves or escalating conflict.

• Monday Heart Check Series – short, gentle practices to help you feel steadier at the start of each week

• Join my weekly newsletter for encouragement, faith-based healing tools, and updates

• Learn more about private coaching and upcoming group support opportunities

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com and let me know you want to join!

Next Steps

Step 1: Join a supportive community of Christian women healing after infidelity in my private telegram group Step 2: Sign up for the Heart Work Weekly Newsletter for faith-based encouragement and practical healing tools Step 3: Get more personalized support through 1:1 coaching designed to help you heal, rebuild emotional safety, and move forward with clarity, book a free call with me here: https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Do your emotions feel out of control after infidelity or betrayal?

Are you still experiencing emotional triggers, anxiety, or intense reactions even though you’re trying to heal?

Do you worry that if you can’t regulate your emotions, you’ll never trust again or know whether to heal your marriage or move on?

In this Thursday Deep Dive, we’re talking about emotional wholeness after betrayal and why your emotions feel so intense after infidelity. If you’re struggling with emotional triggers, trauma responses, lack of trust, or feeling disconnected from yourself, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening inside your heart. You’ll learn why emotional chaos after betrayal is not a failure, how infidelity disrupts emotional safety and inner leadership, and what it looks like to begin healing emotionally without rushing forgiveness, trust, or decisions about your marriage.

This episode is for Christian women navigating betrayal, infidelity, and emotional healing who want clarity, emotional safety, and a healthier relationship with their emotions.

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Related Episode: When Your Emotions Feel Out of Control After Betrayal (Monday Heart Check)

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Step 1: Join a supportive community of women healing after betrayal inside the private telegram group Heart Work Support Step 2: Sign up for the weekly Heart Work newsletter for gentle support and encouragement Step 3: Get more personalized support through betrayal recovery coaching, book a free call with me here: https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Feel like your emotions come out of nowhere lately?

Wonder why you can feel “fine” one moment and completely undone the next?

Ever tell yourself, “I should be past this by now,” but your heart doesn’t agree?

In this Monday Heart Check, I’m sharing a gentle reframe for emotions — especially when they feel overwhelming or out of control after betrayal. We’ll talk about what emotions actually are, why they get so intense after trust is broken, and one small practice to help you relate to them without shame or pressure. This episode is for you if you want emotional wholeness without rushing your healing or forcing yourself to “be okay."

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

→ Book a Free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Session

If you’re navigating infidelity and feel disconnected, reactive, or stuck, I’m opening five free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Sessions.

In this focused conversation, we’ll clarify what’s keeping you unsettled and map your next wise step toward rebuilding trust.

If you’re ready for structured support, book your session here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Spots are limited to five.