Trying to forgive after he cheated on you but still feel emotionally disconnected?

Trying to keep it all together, but unsure what you actually want anymore?

Feeling stuck or resigned in your marriage even though you chose to stay?

After infidelity, most women focus on forgiveness, rebuilding trust, and holding the marriage together.

But rarely do we stop to ask:

What do I want?

In this episode, I sit down with a licensed therapist to unpack the question that created a breakthrough in my own healing journey.

When I was asked, “What do you want?” — I couldn’t answer.

Not because I didn’t care.

But because somewhere along the way, I had absorbed the belief that I didn’t get to choose always. It seemed to me a selfish and not enough of an urgent question to ask with all I had to do already.

In this conversation, we explore:

Why asking “What do you want?” feels challenging after betrayal

How broken trust impacts emotional connection in marriage

How reclaiming your ability to choose is foundational to rebuilding trust

If you’re navigating infidelity and want to rebuild trust while strengthening your own voice, this episode will challenge and steady you at the same time.

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

→ Book a Free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Session

If you’re navigating infidelity and feel disconnected, reactive, or stuck, I’m opening five free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Sessions.

In this focused conversation, we’ll clarify what’s keeping you unsettled and map your next step toward rebuilding trust.

If you’re ready for structured support, book your session here:

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You stayed after the affair… but still feel emotionally disconnected?

Wonder why you’re “not over it” even though some time has passed since the infidelity?

Feel unsettled in your marriage even when things look stable on the outside?

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple but powerful Heart Check to help you reconnect with your emotional needs after infidelity so you can rebuild trust from the inside out.

Whether the betrayal happened recently or years ago, many women who choose to stay still find themselves bracing, guarding, or feeling quietly disconnected. This episode walks you through a practical 4-step exercise rooted in self-awareness that helps you move from emotional reactivity to grounded clarity.

You’ll learn:

1. Why disconnection can linger long after an affair
2. How survival patterns affect emotional connection in marriage
3. The link between feelings and unmet needs
4. One small step you can take this week to begin rebuilding emotional safety

This is not about reopening old wounds.

It’s about tending to the places that never fully closed — so reconciliation becomes possible without losing yourself in the process

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

→ Book a Free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Session

If you’re navigating infidelity and feel disconnected, reactive, or stuck, I’m opening five free 1:1 HEART Reset Coaching Sessions.

In this focused conversation, we’ll clarify what’s keeping you unsettled and map your next wise step toward rebuilding trust.

If you’re ready for structured support, book your session here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Spots are limited to five.

After infidelity in marriage, it’s not just trust that breaks — it’s your heart.

• Did you feel like your entire life collapsed in that single moment when the affair was out — and with it, your sense of who you are?

• After betrayal, have you found yourself quietly asking, “Was I not enough?”

• Does it feel like your emotions are running the show, and you don’t fully trust your own heart anymore?

In this episode, we go deeper than communication strategies or surface-level forgiveness. We talk about what betrayal actually disrupts: the heart — the center of your will, identity, and direction.

Drawing from Scripture and the work of Dallas Willard, you’ll learn:

• What the heart really is

• Why infidelity shakes your identity so deeply

• How shame quietly takes leadership

• And what it looks like to live from victory instead of defeat

This is not about pretending the pain isn’t real. It’s about reclaiming your heart so betrayal doesn’t define your worth.

If you are navigating infidelity in your marriage and struggling with loneliness, forgiveness, or emotional disconnection, this episode will help you begin reordering your heart around truth — so you can live led, not defeated, even in the middle of heartbreak

Contact → julia.carlton@starke-intelligenz.com

Connect → Join the private HEART WORK Telegram group - email me to join!

Book a Free 1:1 Coaching Call with me - for the 5 women who book with me first! → https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min

Next Steps

Step 1: Join a supportive community of women healing from infidelity and betrayal in the private Telegram group, where we encourage each other towards hope and reconciliation.

Step 2: Sign up for the weekly HEART WORK newsletter to receive encouragement, biblical and practical heart work.

Step 3: Get more personalized support with 1:1 betrayal recovery coaching, designed to help you rebuild inner leadership, trust yourself again, and find clarity about your marriage at your own pace. I’m giving away five free 1:1 coaching sessions for the first five women who schedule with me here:

https://calendly.com/julia-carlton-starke-intelligenz/45min