In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the realities of modern dating — from choosing the right first date outfit to being labeled "intimidating," navigating today's dating epidemic, and having honest conversations about sex. Carla explores how emotional intelligence, presence, and clear sexual communication impact attraction, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. This episode offers clarity around shifting dating dynamics and empowers listeners to communicate their needs without shame.

What You'll Learn

• First date outfits can set the emotional tone

• A go‑to outfit helps reduce dating anxiety

• Being called "intimidating" often reflects others' insecurities

• Dating dynamics are rapidly changing

• Emotional intelligence is essential for healthy relationships

• Sexual communication improves satisfaction

• Presence, foreplay, and enthusiastic consent matter

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You're intimidating."

• "Clear consent is sexy."

• "You just need to be present."

Chapters

00:00 — What to Wear on a First Date

04:52 — "You're Intimidating"

14:14 — The Dating Epidemic and Carla's Viral TikTok

28:57 — No Orgasm? Here's What's Actually Going On

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we're attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating "picker." From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns.

What You'll Learn

• Trust your gut — it's usually right

• Attraction is not the same as compatibility

• Your picker is shaped by past experiences

• Self-regulation improves relationships

• Clear communication about sex matters

• Rejection after intimacy is not about your worth
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "Always listen to your damn gut."

• "You are literally limiting yourself."

• "You can change your picker."

Chapters

00:00 — Carla's Awkward First Date Experience

06:57 — "They're Not My Type"

15:26 — 'Your Picker Is Off'

27:26 — Why They Pulled Away After Sex

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Terrible dates don't define your love life. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why one bad date doesn't mean you're the problem, why someone never being in a relationship isn't automatically a red flag, and how emotional unavailability shows up in dating. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo dives into sexual compatibility: why sex evolves, how communication matters, and why you shouldn't panic if it's not amazing the first time.

What You'll Learn

• Why one bad date doesn't define your dating journey

• Why being single for a long time isn't a red flag

• How emotional unavailability shows up in subtle ways

• Why vulnerability matters more than perfection

• How communication creates sexual compatibility

• Why sex evolves over time

• Why you shouldn't compare yourself to dating expectations

• How self-worth and resilience boost dating success
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "I'm gonna tap out of the dating game."
  
  

• "Sex evolves; the purpose is to enjoy it."
  
  

• "Don't freak out if it wasn't that great."

Chapters

00:00 — Terrible First Dates

05:31 — "Never Been in a Relationship" Isn't a Red Flag

10:21 — Emotional Unavailability in Dating

20:24 — TACO: Sexual Compatibility

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Modern dating gets complicated fast, especially after a toxic relationship. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why looking someone up before a date can create unnecessary pressure, why "dating to be friends" keeps you stuck, and how old wounds show up as triggers when you start dating again. Carla Romo also shares how to spot real red and green flags and, in the TACO segment, how small things like your environment and vibe can completely shift the mood in intimacy.

What You'll Learn

• Why Googling someone before a date can backfire

• Why you're dating for partnership, not friendship

• How toxic ex triggers show up when dating again

• The importance of knowing your red flags & green flags

• Why intentional dating leads to better relationships

• How emotional healing affects new connections

• Why ambience, hygiene, and environment matter for intimacy

• Weird mood killers to avoid (yes… including your sheets)
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "You are dating to find your person."

• "Look inward after a toxic relationship."

• "Know your red flags and deal breakers."

Chapters

00:00 — The Dangers of Online Dating Research

05:23 — Intentional Dating vs. Friendship

09:33 — Dating After a Toxic Relationship

22:48 — TACO: Setting the Mood & Avoiding Mood Killers

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

A great date can feel amazing, but attachment style determines what happens next. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why you should never "match their energy," how anxious and avoidant attachment styles create the fall-fast/pull-away cycle, and how to break out of those patterns. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo explores whether you're having sex to feel loved or to feel good, and how that choice shapes intimacy and connection.

What You'll Learn

• Why you shouldn't "match their energy" — they should match yours

• How anxious attachment creates chasing and overthinking

• How avoidant attachment creates distance and mixed signals

• The push-pull cycle and how to break it

• How attachment styles shape emotional connection

• Why "falling fast" isn't always chemistry — sometimes it's anxiety

• How to communicate needs early and clearly

• The difference between sex for intimacy vs. sex for validation

• How to build a more secure dating pattern

• Why you're not stuck in your attachment style

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "You want them to match your energy."

• "Believe that shit straight."

• "You are not asking for too much."

Chapters

00:00 — Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

06:23 — TURNED OFF: Match Their Energy? No.

12:29 — Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away

28:58 — TACO: Sex for Love vs. Sex for Pleasure

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Dating in your 30s plus can make you feel like you're running out of time, but Carla Romo is here to shut that down. In this episode, she breaks down why people comment on her marriage, the awkward pressure of splitting the bill, and the fear of "settling". Carla Romo explains how societal expectations shape self-worth, why emotional intelligence matters, and what it means when the sex isn't as good as it was with someone from your past.

What You'll Learn

• Why you feel "out of time" when dating in your 30s

• How societal pressure influences your dating choices

• Why comments about your relationship can trigger insecurity

• The real reason splitting the bill feels so loaded

• Why self-worth matters more than timelines

• How emotional intelligence improves your dating decisions

• What it means when sex isn't as good as it was with someone from your past

• Why trust and connection make intimacy grow

• How to communicate sexual needs without shame

• Why you're in control of your dating pace
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites:

"Time is BS right now."

"You are doing the choosing."

"Pleasure grows with trust."

Chapters

00:00 — Choosing Yourself in Dating

05:24 — TURNED OFF: Splitting the Bill

14:05 — Feeling Out of Time in Your 30s Plus

28:21 — TACO: When the Sex Isn't as Good as Someone From Your Past

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Dating nerves are normal, but rushing a connection can wreck it fast. In this episode, Carla breaks down why people feel anxious before dates, how to set healthy boundaries with opposite-sex friends, and the biggest red flag in relationships: moving too quickly. She also unpacks the truth about sexual desire in the TACO segment, asking whether men are really more horny than women and how communication shapes intimacy.

What You'll Learn

• Why dating nerves are normal (and healthy)

• How to navigate opposite-sex friendships with boundaries

• The red flag of moving too quickly and why it matters

• How emotional intimacy builds slowly, not instantly

• The truth about sexual desire between men and women

• How communication shapes connection and desire
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites:

"You're nervous because you care."
"Moving things way too quickly is a red flag."
"You want to take your time to get to know someone."

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Date Anxiety

04:09 Turned Off Friendship Dynamics in Dating

10:03 Recognizing Red Flags

20:12 TACO: Understanding Men and Women's Sexual Desires

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Dating feels messy, confusing, and downright exhausting…until you realize you might actually be the green flag you're looking for. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why modern dating feels so hard and what actually shifts when you date with intention, boundaries, self-worth, and real communication.

She shares personal stories, calls out outdated dating "rules," and dives into the conversations people avoid, especially around sexual health, consent, and pleasure. If you're tired of red flags, codependent patterns, or waiting hours to text back, this episode gives you the mindset and tools to date better starting today.

What You'll Learn

• Why dating feels harder than it needs to

• How to stop repeating toxic patterns

• The power of communication (and ditching the "wait to text back" rule)

• What real green-flag behavior looks like

• How boundaries and sexual health conversations build real intimacy

• Why vulnerability is a dating superpower
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "We also don't have to make it suck."

• "Having sex is vulnerable as fuck."

• "You can always make it better."

Chapters

00:00 The Struggles of Modern Dating

06:12 Turned Off Texting

10:12 You are the GREEN flag

23:04 Conversation Sleeping Together

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.