In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we're attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating "picker." From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns.

What You'll Learn

• Trust your gut — it's usually right

• Attraction is not the same as compatibility

• Your picker is shaped by past experiences

• Self-regulation improves relationships

• Clear communication about sex matters

• Rejection after intimacy is not about your worth
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

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Sound Bites

• "Always listen to your damn gut."

• "You are literally limiting yourself."

• "You can change your picker."

Chapters

00:00 — Carla's Awkward First Date Experience

06:57 — "They're Not My Type"

15:26 — 'Your Picker Is Off'

27:26 — Why They Pulled Away After Sex

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