In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the realities of modern dating — from choosing the right first date outfit to being labeled "intimidating," navigating today's dating epidemic, and having honest conversations about sex. Carla explores how emotional intelligence, presence, and clear sexual communication impact attraction, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. This episode offers clarity around shifting dating dynamics and empowers listeners to communicate their needs without shame.

What You'll Learn

• First date outfits can set the emotional tone

• A go‑to outfit helps reduce dating anxiety

• Being called "intimidating" often reflects others' insecurities

• Dating dynamics are rapidly changing

• Emotional intelligence is essential for healthy relationships

• Sexual communication improves satisfaction

• Presence, foreplay, and enthusiastic consent matter

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

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Sound Bites

• "You're intimidating."

• "Clear consent is sexy."

• "You just need to be present."

Chapters

00:00 — What to Wear on a First Date

04:52 — "You're Intimidating"

14:14 — The Dating Epidemic and Carla's Viral TikTok

28:57 — No Orgasm? Here's What's Actually Going On

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we're attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating "picker." From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns.

What You'll Learn

• Trust your gut — it's usually right

• Attraction is not the same as compatibility

• Your picker is shaped by past experiences

• Self-regulation improves relationships

• Clear communication about sex matters

• Rejection after intimacy is not about your worth
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "Always listen to your damn gut."

• "You are literally limiting yourself."

• "You can change your picker."

Chapters

00:00 — Carla's Awkward First Date Experience

06:57 — "They're Not My Type"

15:26 — 'Your Picker Is Off'

27:26 — Why They Pulled Away After Sex

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Terrible dates don't define your love life. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why one bad date doesn't mean you're the problem, why someone never being in a relationship isn't automatically a red flag, and how emotional unavailability shows up in dating. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo dives into sexual compatibility: why sex evolves, how communication matters, and why you shouldn't panic if it's not amazing the first time.

What You'll Learn

• Why one bad date doesn't define your dating journey

• Why being single for a long time isn't a red flag

• How emotional unavailability shows up in subtle ways

• Why vulnerability matters more than perfection

• How communication creates sexual compatibility

• Why sex evolves over time

• Why you shouldn't compare yourself to dating expectations

• How self-worth and resilience boost dating success
  
  

Work with me:

1:1 Coaching program

Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session

Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session

Proven Dating Courses:

Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide

No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs

Book:

Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good

Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo

Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

Youtube: @iamcarlaromo

FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions

Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On

Sound Bites

• "I'm gonna tap out of the dating game."
  
  

• "Sex evolves; the purpose is to enjoy it."
  
  

• "Don't freak out if it wasn't that great."

Chapters

00:00 — Terrible First Dates

05:31 — "Never Been in a Relationship" Isn't a Red Flag

10:21 — Emotional Unavailability in Dating

20:24 — TACO: Sexual Compatibility

Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.