How you relate to your past self determines how free you are today. Many women are living under guilt that quietly turned into shame, especially around roles that matter deeply like motherhood, marriage, caregiving, and calling. This episode names what’s really happening, exposes the lie of condemnation, and invites you into freedom that is already paid for.

In this episode, we continue the February Relationships Series by looking at one of the most overlooked relationships of all: your relationship with yourself across time. We unpack the difference between guilt and shame, how fear causes guilt to harden into shame, and why shame keeps you disconnected from God, yourself, and others. You’ll learn how hindsight plus fear fuels self condemnation, how Romans 8 reframes your story, and what it looks like to release shame and walk in redemption.

• Guilt addresses behavior. Shame attacks identity.
• Guilt can lead to conviction, repentance, and restoration. Shame leads to hiding and disconnection.
• Fear is what turns guilt into shame by making mistakes feel permanent and personal.
• You are not meant to judge your past self by information she did not have.
• Shame keeps you focused on yourself instead of God and makes grace feel inaccessible.
• Romans 8 declares no condemnation and ongoing redemption.
• How you treat your past self directly impacts your present relationships.
• Love dissolves shame. Fear fuels it.

You are not disqualified. Your story is not finished. God is still working, redeeming, and restoring what you have been condemning yourself for. Freedom is available when you release shame and trust what God has already promised.

If this episode stirred something tender or heavy, you do not have to work through it alone. Coaching can help you identify shame, release self punishment, and walk in freedom. Schedule a right fit call or continue listening as we practice renewing our minds together.

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Your relationships are not shaped primarily by what other people do or say. They are shaped by what you believe, what you think, and how you interpret what happens. If you have ever felt disconnected, resentful, overly responsible, or emotionally exhausted in your relationships, this episode will help you see why and show you where your power actually is.

In this episode, we continue the February relationship series by shifting the focus from your relationship with yourself to your relationship with others. We explore how beliefs, expectations, people-pleasing, comparison, and identity shape the way you experience connection. You will learn how to reclaim emotional responsibility, stop outsourcing your feelings, and decide intentionally what kind of relationships you want with the people in your life including strained relationships and even relationships with people who are no longer here.

• A relationship is the experience you have with someone, and that experience is created internally

• You do not experience people as they are. You experience them through what you believe about them

• Other people do not create your feelings. Your thoughts about them do

• People-pleasing is an attempt to control how others feel and it prevents real connection

• Unspoken expectations lead to disappointment and resentment

• Boundaries are not about controlling others. They are about deciding how you will respond

• Comparison never leads to connection. It leads to judgment or insecurity

• Other people’s behavior is information, not a verdict about you

• You get to decide the kind of relationship you want to have with each person in your life

• Renewing your mind is how relationships begin to change

You are not powerless in your relationships. You are responsible for how you think, how you feel, and how you show up. When you take ownership of that, connection becomes clearer, cleaner, and more honest.

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You are in a relationship you cannot escape. You wake up with her. You go to bed with her. You live inside her thoughts every single day. And the quality of that relationship quietly shapes how you relate to God, to others, and to yourself. If your inner relationship is harsh, critical, or distrustful, it will leak into every other relationship you have. This episode is about changing that from the inside out.

February is all about relationships, and we are starting at the foundation. In this episode, we talk about your relationship with yourself. Not self obsession. Stewardship. How your thoughts create your emotional climate. How identity drives behavior. And why you cannot shame yourself into becoming the woman God created you to be. You will learn how to recognize unhelpful self talk, how to filter your thoughts through truth and love, and how to intentionally decide the kind of relationship you want with yourself.

• Your relationship with yourself is formed by your thoughts, not your circumstances

• How you treat yourself reflects who you believe you are and what you believe you deserve

• You cannot hate yourself into transformation

• Shame is not a motivator, it is a blocker

• Thoughts are the most powerful determiner of every relationship in your life

• Truth without love leads to harshness, love without truth leads to drift

• You get to decide the tone of your inner relationship and practice it daily

You are not broken. You are not a problem to be fixed. You are a daughter of the King learning how to lead herself with truth, grace, and responsibility. This work takes practice, humility, and intention, and it is worth it.

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