Your relationships are not shaped primarily by what other people do or say. They are shaped by what you believe, what you think, and how you interpret what happens. If you have ever felt disconnected, resentful, overly responsible, or emotionally exhausted in your relationships, this episode will help you see why and show you where your power actually is.

In this episode, we continue the February relationship series by shifting the focus from your relationship with yourself to your relationship with others. We explore how beliefs, expectations, people-pleasing, comparison, and identity shape the way you experience connection. You will learn how to reclaim emotional responsibility, stop outsourcing your feelings, and decide intentionally what kind of relationships you want with the people in your life including strained relationships and even relationships with people who are no longer here.

• A relationship is the experience you have with someone, and that experience is created internally

• You do not experience people as they are. You experience them through what you believe about them

• Other people do not create your feelings. Your thoughts about them do

• People-pleasing is an attempt to control how others feel and it prevents real connection

• Unspoken expectations lead to disappointment and resentment

• Boundaries are not about controlling others. They are about deciding how you will respond

• Comparison never leads to connection. It leads to judgment or insecurity

• Other people’s behavior is information, not a verdict about you

• You get to decide the kind of relationship you want to have with each person in your life

• Renewing your mind is how relationships begin to change

You are not powerless in your relationships. You are responsible for how you think, how you feel, and how you show up. When you take ownership of that, connection becomes clearer, cleaner, and more honest.

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