The year you became invisible to men on the street is the year your body became capable of pleasure you couldn’t access at twenty-five.

If you’re a woman over 50 who feels dismissed, overlooked, or disconnected from desire, this episode flips the cultural lie about aging and sex—and explains why your nervous system is finally primed for deeper intimacy, stronger orgasms, and real embodiment.

You’re not declining.
You’re upgrading.

In this episode of Sexy After 50, I explain why most women were neurologically blocked from deep pleasure earlier in life—and why post-menopause creates the exact conditions required for full-body, emotionally connected sex.

You’ll learn how decades of performance, visibility, and self-monitoring kept your nervous system in survival mode, why arousal and hypervigilance cannot coexist, and how aging out of sexual surveillance creates unprecedented erotic freedom.

This episode weaves neuroscience, psychology, and somatic insight to explain what’s actually happening in your brain, pelvis, and nervous system after 50.

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand:

• Why post-menopausal brains are wired for deeper, longer, more sustained orgasms
• How “erotic invisibility” reduces cortisol and increases oxytocin, creating nervous-system safety for intimacy
• Why sensation-based sexuality replaces performance-based sexuality after 50
• How pelvic floor awareness—not tightening—dramatically increases arousal
• Why presence, not technique, is the foundation of satisfying sex and emotional connection

If sex has felt mechanical, obligatory, or absent, this episode explains why—and why that chapter is closing.

This episode reframes aging, desire, and intimacy through the body rather than appearance—offering a radically different understanding of sex after 50 rooted in nervous system regulation, embodiment, and sensation.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, sexless marriage, intimacy struggles, hormonal changes, and feeling invisible or disconnected, offering nervous system–based somatic healing, embodied sexuality, emotional connection, and pleasure-focused practices to restore desire, confidence, and intimacy.

You were over-observed.

And now—for the first time in your adult life—your body is finally yours to feel.

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Let’s wake up what never left.

You are not "Post-Desire." You are Pre-Revolution.

They told you that the fire has an expiration date. They were wrong. Your "Second Spring" is meant to be your most erotic, creative, and audacious era yet. My 72-Hour Erotic Awakening is for the woman who refuses to be tamed, dimmed, or told that her time has passed. It’s time to move from "Invisible" to "Incredible."

👉 Access the Erotic Awakening

Burn bright. Refuse to fade.

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New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

You’re confident everywhere else in your life.
But when it comes to sex, you go quiet.

If you’re a woman over 50 feeling bored, disconnected, or unsatisfied in bed—and terrified to ask for what you want—this episode names exactly why.

Your desire didn’t disappear.
Your voice shut down.

In this episode of Sexy After 50, I explain why so many capable, accomplished women struggle to speak up about sex, even in long-term relationships—and how that silence quietly leads to:

• Low libido
• Sexless or routine intimacy
• Emotional disconnection
• Shame around desire and pleasure

You’ll learn how nervous system conditioning, fear of rejection, and a blocked throat chakra make sexual communication feel unsafe—no matter how loving your partner is.

This is not about techniques or tips.
It’s about why your body freezes when it’s time to speak.

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand:

• Why women who communicate sexual needs report 58% higher sexual satisfaction
• Why hoping your partner will “just know” keeps intimacy stuck
• Why sexual conversations must happen outside the bedroom
• The exact Sandwich Script that lets you ask for more foreplay, slower sex, or something new—without blame, awkwardness, or shame

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to hurt his feelings” or “It’s too late to change things now,” this episode explains what’s really happening—and what actually works.

Listen now and learn how to speak your desires with clarity, safety, and confidence.

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If this episode made you think “This explains exactly how I feel,” share it with a woman who needs her voice back.

Your desire isn’t too much.
And it’s not too late.

Dr. Juls

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, sexless marriage, intimacy struggles, hormonal changes, and feeling disconnected or unwanted, offering nervous system–based somatic healing, sexual communication tools, throat chakra activation, and emotional connection practices to restore desire, pleasure, and confidence.

Subscribe now.
Let’s wake up what never left.

You are not "Post-Desire." You are Pre-Revolution.

They told you that the fire has an expiration date. They were wrong. Your "Second Spring" is meant to be your most erotic, creative, and audacious era yet. My 72-Hour Erotic Awakening is for the woman who refuses to be tamed, dimmed, or told that her time has passed. It’s time to move from "Invisible" to "Incredible."

👉 Access the Erotic Awakening

Burn bright. Refuse to fade.

Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com

New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

You’re not frigid.
And you’re definitely not “just old now.”

If you’re a woman over 50 who looks successful on the outside—but inside feels numb, disconnected, or quietly resentful of intimacy—this episode will stop you in your tracks.

Because what’s killing your desire has nothing to do with lingerie, hormones alone, or “trying harder.”

It’s your nervous system.

In this episode of Sexy After 50, I dismantle the most damaging lie women’s health has sold midlife women:

That if you don’t want sex anymore, something is wrong with you.

Drawing from neuroscience, somatic psychology, and the work of Emily Nagoski, along with research from the Kinsey Institute, I explain why most women after 50 no longer experience spontaneous desire—and why that’s not a failure, but a shift into a more sophisticated form of arousal.

You’ll finally understand:

• Why your labs can look “normal” while your body feels shut down
• Why chronic stress, resentment, and emotional overload suppress desire faster than aging ever could
• Why being high-functioning, capable, and constantly “on” is the fastest way to lose access to pleasure

This is intimacy, sensuality, and women’s sexual health explained through the nervous system—without shame, fluff, or fixing.

I also share the story of a high-achieving woman who believed her sex life was over—until she realized her body didn’t need more effort.

It needed safety.

You’ll hear how desire returned not because she forced it, performed for it, or fixed herself—but because she learned how to bring her nervous system out of survival mode.

I’ll also guide you through a simple somatic practice designed to gently reawaken your hips, pelvis, and pleasure center—without pressure, expectation, or obligation.

Research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that chronic stress dramatically lowers sexual desire and satisfaction—even when hormones are stable.

Translation:
It’s not that your desire is gone.
It’s that your body has been protecting you.

And once you hear this, you won’t be able to unhear it.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “This explains exactly how I feel.”
• “Why did no one tell me this sooner?”
• “I need to send this to a friend.”

Do it.

Listen with your body - not your to-do list. Share this episode with a woman who feels invisible, ashamed, or hopeless. And let this be the moment you stop blaming yourself.

I’m Dr. Juls and this is Sexy After 50.

Your desire didn’t disappear.
It’s been waiting for safety.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, intimacy struggles, hormonal changes, painful sex, sexless marriage, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or unwanted—using nervous-system-based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore desire, pleasure, and emotional connection.

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Let’s wake up what never left.

The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™
The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date.
👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™

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New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

If you’ve started flinching when your partner reaches for you—not because you don’t love them, but because sex has started to hurt—this episode may save your intimacy.

Painful sex after 50 isn’t rare. And it’s not “just menopause.” But it is something most women were never warned about.

In this episode of Sexy After 50, I name the experience so many women silently endure: “sandpaper sex." Burning. Dryness. Pain. Avoidance. Shame.

I explain what’s actually happening in your body, including:

• Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) and why it affects up to 50% of women
• Why estrogen alone is not the full answer—and where testosterone fits in
• How chronic stress and a guarded nervous system amplify physical pain
• Why “just use more lube” fails most women over 50

This is women’s health and intimacy education without dismissal, embarrassment, or minimizing your experience.

You’ll also hear a real client story that shows what becomes possible when:

• Pain is taken seriously
• Penetration pressure is removed
• The nervous system is allowed to feel safe again

I introduce The Silk Road, a somatic, non-penetrative intimacy practice that helps retrain the body away from pain and toward pleasure—without forcing desire or overriding your body’s signals.

Because your body isn’t rejecting intimacy. It’s protecting itself.

If sex has become painful, avoidant, or emotionally loaded, this episode gives you a new path forward—one rooted in safety, consent, and healing.Listen now.
Share this with a woman who needs language for what she’s experiencing.
And remember: You are allowed to feel good.

I’m Dr. Juls and this is Sexy After 50.
We don’t normalize suffering here.
We restore pleasure.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, painful sex, intimacy struggles, sexless marriage, hormonal changes, vaginal dryness, feeling disconnected or unwanted, and loss of desire—using nervous-system–based somatic healing, women’s health education, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, emotional connection, and confidence.

Subscribe now.
Let’s wake up what never left.

The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™
The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date.
👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™

Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com

New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

Feeling numb below the waist? Your body isn't broken—it's protecting you. After decades of managing everyone else's needs, your nervous system has shut down the "pleasure center" to conserve energy. But here's what no one tells you: You can't think your way back to desire. You have to feel your way back.

In this episode, I'm revealing the exact science behind why "trying harder" to want sex is the fastest way to kill your libido—and the 5-minute Somatic Desire Mapping practice that moves you from frozen to feeling again.

What You'll Learn:

• The Biological Brake: Why your nervous system literally blocks blood flow to your pelvis when it detects "threat" (yes, even if that threat is just your mental to-do list)
• The Vagus-Sacral Bridge: The hidden connection between your throat, your gut, and your pelvic floor that controls your capacity for pleasure
• The Desire Map: A gentle, body-led practice to locate where sensation lives in YOUR body (not where porn or romance novels say it should be)

This isn't about "fixing" you. This is about rewilding you. About remembering that your body knows exactly how to feel pleasure—it's just been waiting for the all-clear signal from your nervous system.

Ready to stop guessing and start feeling? Download the FREE Desire & Fire Reset in the show notes below. It includes the complete Somatic Desire Mapping practice from today's episode PLUS two bonus nervous system regulation techniques.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating intimacy struggles, low libido, hormonal changes, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or alone, offering nervous system–based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, desire, emotional connection, and confidence after painful sex, sexless marriage experiences, or years of feeling unwanted or ashamed.

Subscribe now.
Let’s wake up what never left.

The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™
The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date.
👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™

Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com

New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.

When was the last time you felt real desire?

Not obligation.
Not “I should want this.”
But actual, embodied, I want you desire.

If you can’t remember, this podcast is for you.

For women over 50, low libido isn’t just about hormones.

It’s about a nervous system that’s been stuck in survival mode for decades.

Chronic stress, caregiving, professional responsibility, emotional labor, and burnout quietly shut down the body’s capacity for sex, intimacy, and pleasure. When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, arousal becomes biologically impossible.

Welcome to Sexy After 50—the podcast for women who refuse to believe numbness, painful sex, or sexless marriages are “just what happens” with age.

Dr. Juls, a PhD-trained counselor and midlife expert. This show blends nervous system healing, somatic work, and honest conversations about sex and intimacy after 50—without shame, pressure, or quick fixes.

In this trailer, you’ll discover:

• Why your libido didn’t die—it went into protective shutdown
• How “trying harder” actually blocks desire
• Why nervous system healing, not willpower, restores pleasure
• What functional freeze is—and why so many women over 50 live there
• What this podcast will (and will not) offer you

This is not about spicing things up.
It’s about helping your body feel safe enough to want again.

If you’re done blaming hormones
If you’re ready to stop forcing sex and start feeling intimacy again

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, sexless marriage, painful sex, and intimacy struggles, teaching nervous system healing, somatic practices, and emotional reconnection to restore desire, pleasure, and confident sexuality after menopause.

Subscribe now.
Let’s wake up what never left.

The Reignite Your Desire & Fire Reset™
The A 72-Hour Erotic Awakening for Women Over 50 Who Refuse to Be Tamed, Dimmed, or Told That Their Fire Has an Expiration Date.
👉 Download Reignite Your Desire & Fire™

Contact Dr. Juls. - info@juliemerrimanphd.com

New Episodes drop every Wednesday at 5am.