Feeling numb below the waist? Your body isn't broken—it's protecting you. After decades of managing everyone else's needs, your nervous system has shut down the "pleasure center" to conserve energy. But here's what no one tells you: You can't think your way back to desire. You have to feel your way back.

In this episode, I'm revealing the exact science behind why "trying harder" to want sex is the fastest way to kill your libido—and the 5-minute Somatic Desire Mapping practice that moves you from frozen to feeling again.

What You'll Learn:

• The Biological Brake: Why your nervous system literally blocks blood flow to your pelvis when it detects "threat" (yes, even if that threat is just your mental to-do list)
• The Vagus-Sacral Bridge: The hidden connection between your throat, your gut, and your pelvic floor that controls your capacity for pleasure
• The Desire Map: A gentle, body-led practice to locate where sensation lives in YOUR body (not where porn or romance novels say it should be)

This isn't about "fixing" you. This is about rewilding you. About remembering that your body knows exactly how to feel pleasure—it's just been waiting for the all-clear signal from your nervous system.

Ready to stop guessing and start feeling? Download the FREE Desire & Fire Reset in the show notes below. It includes the complete Somatic Desire Mapping practice from today's episode PLUS two bonus nervous system regulation techniques.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating intimacy struggles, low libido, hormonal changes, weight gain, and feeling disconnected or alone, offering nervous system–based somatic healing, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, desire, emotional connection, and confidence after painful sex, sexless marriage experiences, or years of feeling unwanted or ashamed.

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