If you’ve started flinching when your partner reaches for you—not because you don’t love them, but because sex has started to hurt—this episode may save your intimacy.

Painful sex after 50 isn’t rare. And it’s not “just menopause.” But it is something most women were never warned about.

In this episode of Sexy After 50, I name the experience so many women silently endure: “sandpaper sex." Burning. Dryness. Pain. Avoidance. Shame.

I explain what’s actually happening in your body, including:

• Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) and why it affects up to 50% of women
• Why estrogen alone is not the full answer—and where testosterone fits in
• How chronic stress and a guarded nervous system amplify physical pain
• Why “just use more lube” fails most women over 50

This is women’s health and intimacy education without dismissal, embarrassment, or minimizing your experience.

You’ll also hear a real client story that shows what becomes possible when:

• Pain is taken seriously
• Penetration pressure is removed
• The nervous system is allowed to feel safe again

I introduce The Silk Road, a somatic, non-penetrative intimacy practice that helps retrain the body away from pain and toward pleasure—without forcing desire or overriding your body’s signals.

Because your body isn’t rejecting intimacy. It’s protecting itself.

If sex has become painful, avoidant, or emotionally loaded, this episode gives you a new path forward—one rooted in safety, consent, and healing.Listen now.
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And remember: You are allowed to feel good.

I’m Dr. Juls and this is Sexy After 50.
We don’t normalize suffering here.
We restore pleasure.

Sexy After 50 is a podcast for women over 50 navigating low libido, painful sex, intimacy struggles, sexless marriage, hormonal changes, vaginal dryness, feeling disconnected or unwanted, and loss of desire—using nervous-system–based somatic healing, women’s health education, feminine energy reconnection, and sexual healing to restore pleasure, emotional connection, and confidence.

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