In Snack Size Deep Dive 7, we talk about one of the most uncomfortable truths in adult friendships: loving your friends deeply while secretly feeling competitive, jealous, or resentful when they get things you want.

This short, snackable episode unpacks why these feelings are far more common than we admit and why they don’t mean you’re a bad friend or a bad person. Through psychology-backed insights on social comparison, self-esteem, scarcity mindset, and identity threat, you’ll learn why your friends’ success can feel like a personal failure, and how to turn that discomfort into self-awareness instead of shame.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why jealousy and love can coexist
• The psychology behind comparison in close friendships
• How low self-worth fuels competitiveness
• Why your friends’ wins trigger insecurity
• How to stop letting comparison damage meaningful relationships

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In Episode 18 of Things We Say in Therapy, we dive into why so many of us tolerate disappointing ourselves but panic at the thought of letting others down. Discover the psychological roots of people pleasing, the impact of childhood conditioning, and why your fear of disappointing others may be sabotaging your self-worth. Learn practical steps to set boundaries, validate yourself, and break free from self-neglect and self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt torn between your own needs and others’ expectations, this episode is a must-listen for your mental health journey.

Key topics covered:

• The differences between disappointing yourself vs. others
• How fear of abandonment and rejection shapes your decisions
• The emotional costs of people pleasing
• Steps to build self-awareness and healthy boundaries
• Why self-validation is crucial for lasting growth

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Why does imagining life feel safer than actually living it?

In Snack Size Deep Dive 5, we explore maladaptive daydreaming: the habit of retreating into imagined scenarios, worst-case outcomes, or fantasy worlds as a way to cope with discomfort, anxiety, or trauma.

If real life feels unsafe, overwhelming, or unpredictable, your mind may have learned to escape inward. While imagination can feel protective, relying on it too heavily can quietly keep you stuck, disconnected, and avoiding growth.

If you struggle with:

• Avoidance and escapism
• Living in your head instead of the present
• Social anxiety or fear of embarrassment
• Feeling safer imagining life than participating in it
• Wanting to heal but feeling stuck

This episode is for you.

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Struggling to make decisions? Episode 17 of Things We Say in Therapy breaks down how to choose the right path even when self-doubt, overthinking, and fear of getting it wrong feel overwhelming. We explore the psychology behind decision-making, how to separate intuition from anxiety, and practical strategies to build confidence in your judgment. You’ll learn how to create clarity, reduce mental noise, and make choices you can stand behind. If you’re navigating uncertainty or constantly second-guessing yourself, this episode offers grounded guidance for self-reflection and self-compassion as well as mindset tools to help you move forward with more trust, confidence, and self-awareness.

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Do you find yourself constantly comparing your life to others? In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy: Snack Size Deep Dives, we explore the hidden cost of comparison and how it quietly affects your confidence, focus, and mental health.

This is what you will learn in today's episode:

• why we compare
• the impact it has on your self-worth
• practical strategies to shift focus to your own growth

This episode is perfect for anyone looking to boost confidence, reduce anxiety, and to learn how comparison affects us psychologically, without us even knowing.

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Some people seem kind, caring, and thoughtful...but are they truly good, or just trying to look good? In Episode 16 ofThings We Say In Therapy, we dive into the difference between authentic goodness and performing kindness for appearances.

Learn about psychological concepts like moral licensing, cognitive dissonance, and shame avoidance, and discover how these behaviors show up in everyday life and relationships. I'll share some personal experiences, practical advice, and self-reflective questions to help you spot patterns in yourself and others, and move toward authentic growth and integrity.

Other key concepts you'll learn in this episode:

• Why some people become defensive and blame-shift when they’re held accountable, and what that reveals psychologically
• How moral licensing allows people to justify harmful behaviour while still seeing themselves as “good”
• How focusing on image can damage relationships
• Signs that someone prioritises reputation over emotional repair
• How to reflect on your own patterns without self-shaming
• Practical ways to move from image-management to integrity and emotional maturity

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Why do some people stay stuck in our minds long after they’ve hurt us? In Snack-Size Deep Dive 4 on the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast, we break down the psychology behind rumination, negativity bias, and why hate can feel impossible to let go of.

This episode explores:

• Why your brain obsesses over people you dislike
• The role of anxiety, control, and perceived threats
• Why rumination feels protective but actually keeps you stuck
• How to stop replaying the same thoughts without forcing them away
• Practical ways to redirect anger and reclaim your mental space

You don’t need closure, forgiveness, or justice to move on. You need awareness, acceptance, and new mental habits.

This is perfect for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts, overthinking, resentment, or emotional burnout.

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Many of us were taught that being “selfless” makes us loveable, but when self-sacrifice replaces self-respect, it slowly destroys your mental health.

In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore the psychology behind chronic self-sacrifice, people-pleasing, and the need for validation. We unpack how childhood conditioning, attachment styles, and emotional neglect can wire you to over-give, abandon your needs, and tie your worth to how useful you are to others.

This episode is for anyone who:

• Feels responsible for everyone else’s emotions
• Struggles to set boundaries
• Feels guilty prioritising their own needs
• Is exhausted from always being “the strong one”

Self-sacrifice is not noble when it costs you your self-respect.

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