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  • Standout Authors Unbound with Samantha Gregory
    Feb 17 2026

    Self Care Oasis - Standout Authors Unbound with Samantha Gregory

    Join me, Samantha Gregory, the self-care alchemist, as I chat with host Kevin about my journey from people-pleasing and burnout to becoming an author and advocate for self-devotion and healthy boundaries. In this episode, we unpack my book No More Crumbs, dive into my writing process, discuss the impact of toxic relationships, and explore the power of journaling, personal transformation, and embracing incremental change.

    Timestamps & Chapters:

    00:00 - Introduction & Samantha’s Self-Care Journey01:03 - Pivotal Moments: Early Menopause as a Wake-Up Call02:16 - Overcoming People-Pleasing & Saying No04:04 - Recognizing FOMO and Trusting the Universe05:40 - How Samantha Decides What to Say Yes To08:04 - Discovering Writing and Becoming an Author10:10 - The Importance of Self-Awareness and Journaling16:10 - Samantha’s Book Writing Process17:24 - Interviews & Strategies in “No More Crumbs”26:04 - Promoting the Book & Realities of Book Sales31:47 - Impact: Reader Testimonials & Transformation33:42 - The Key Lesson: Reinventing Yourself42:09 - Advice for Aspiring Authors47:28 - Challenge: Being More Intentional & Self-Aware48:31 - Where to Find Samantha Gregory & Closing

    If you’re ready to shift from surviving to thriving, set boundaries, and cultivate self-love, this episode will empower you with practical tools and inspiration. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a comment, and check out No More Crumbs at nomorecromsdating.com.

    Follow Samantha:Substack: Self-Care OasisLinkedIn: Samantha GregorySelf-Devotion Office Hours: Third Thursdays at noon EST

    #SelfCareOasis #SamanthaGregory #StandoutAuthorsUnbound #SelfLove #NoMoreCrumbs #PersonalGrowth #Podcast



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    50 min
  • From Self-Care to Self-Devotion: A Journey of Radical Self-Responsibility
    Feb 11 2026

    I’m Samantha Gregory, your guide and architect of the Self Devotion Sanctuary, a transformational space designed for women who are ready to transition from merely surviving to living deliberately. Here, we cultivate nervous system wealth, establish real boundaries, and design our lives around capability rather than exhaustion.

    The Path to Self Devotion

    In today’s society, the concept of self-care is often seen as a temporary solution, a bandaid for the deeper issues we face. However, I’ve discovered that true transformation requires more than just self-care; it demands self devotion. Self devotion isn’t a chore or an obligation. It is a lifestyle, an innate embodiment of who we are.

    From Self-Care to Self Devotion

    My journey from self-sacrifice to self-care, and ultimately to self devotion, has been profound. Self-care, while necessary, is not enough. It wasn’t until I became wholly dedicated and devoted to myself that I found lasting change. Self devotion became the path that guided me from burnout and survival mode to a life of joy and intention.

    Daily Practices of Self Devotion

    Every day, I practice self devotion through meditation and mindfulness, resetting myself whenever I feel anxious or frazzled. This process might involve simple acts like folding laundry or taking a stroll. These resets allow me to realign with my purpose and prevent me from living a fragmented life.

    Putting myself first, prioritizing my needs, giving myself grace, and moving away from self-neglect, is essential. Many might find this counterintuitive, but it’s a vital part of nurturing and listening to one’s intuition. By doing so, self-care becomes second nature, and I no longer need to schedule it in. It just happens.

    Living with Radical Responsibility

    Taking radical responsibility for my life has been a transformative step in my journey to self devotion. It means taking ownership of my thoughts, actions, and the life I am creating. This perspective empowers me to let go of external pressures and to focus on my own needs and boundaries.

    Breaking Free from External Validation

    I learned the hard lessons of self-abandonment and the need to please others by carrying the burden of others’ expectations. However, after a pivotal diagnosis, I realized the necessity of radical self-care. I began to focus inward, listening to my body, and allowing myself the grace to let go of unrealistic obligations.

    Empowering Yourself through Self Devotion

    By adopting a mindset of self devotion, I have begun to see and care for myself as the worthy individual I am. Living with intentional self devotion allows me to fill my own cup, leading to an overflow that empowers me to support others without sacrificing my well-being.

    Invitation to the Self Devotion Sanctuary

    I invite you to join me on this journey of shameless self devotion. Within our community on Substack, I share articles, videos, and personal insights to guide you from self-sacrifice to self-care and self devotion. One-on-one mentorship is also available for more personalized guidance.

    Conclusion

    This journey begins and ends with you, empowering you to live your dreams and align your life with your true self. Embrace the fullness of self devotion, and let it transform your life from survival to thriving.

    Until next time, remember to prioritize yourself. Subscribe for more insights into the life of self devotion, and let’s continue this journey together.

    Timestamp

    00:00 Introduction: The Shift from Self-Care to Self-Devotion00:55 Understanding Self-Devotion01:54 Daily Practices for Self-Devotion02:47 The Importance of Resetting and Realigning03:09 Overcoming Self-Neglect and Burnout03:36 Recognizing and Honoring Your Intuition08:47 The Journey to Radical Responsibility12:57 Living a Life of Overflow14:45 Invitation to Join the Community17:24 Conclusion and Call to Action



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    18 min
  • Fix Eldest Daughter Trauma & Overwhelm Without Feeling Guilty
    Jan 29 2026

    In this episode, I sit down with Adaku Mbagwu, a firstborn daughter specialist, to dive deep into the unique challenges and healing journeys of eldest daughters.

    We talk about what it means to be an eldest daughter, the pressures and unspoken expectations we carry, and how those roles shape our identities, boundaries, and relationships.

    If you’ve ever felt like the family fixer or struggled to put yourself first, this episode is for you.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - Introduction & What’s in This Episode00:39 - Meet Adaku Mbagwu: Firstborn Daughter Specialist02:08 - Adaku’s Eldest Daughter Story & Early Responsibilities06:13 - Hitting Rock Bottom: Burnout and Breaking Free10:16 - Recognizing Eldest Daughter Syndrome13:09 - The Power of Boundaries & Re-learning Self Care17:37 - The Trap of Perpetual Caretaking21:01 - Practical Ways to Fill Your Cup24:40 - Healthy Coping vs. Negative Patterns28:29 - The Physical Impact: Back Pain and Suppressed Emotions33:03 - Building Support and Safe Friendships36:32 - How to Know if You Have Eldest Daughter Syndrome38:19 - Signs, Symptoms & How They Show Up42:33 - Mother-Daughter Relationships: Breaking Generational Patterns51:52 - Setting Boundaries Without Justification57:19 - Grieving the Old Self & Moving Forward59:29 - About the Healed Hero Community & Where to Find Adaku1:00:31 - Closing Thoughts & Final Encouragement

    If you’ve ever felt alone in your experience, this episode will help you see yourself in a new light and give you practical tools for your healing journey. 💜

    Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share. Leave a comment below if this resonated with you or if you want to share your own eldest daughter story!

    Find Adaku:

    Grab her free burnout guide on her website: https://www.healedhero.comInstagram & LinkedIn: @adakumbagwu

    Follow the Self Care Oasis Podcast for more heart-opening conversations about boundaries, balance, and bliss.

    #SelfCareOasis #EldestDaughterSyndrome #Boundaries #HealingJourney #SelfCareCommunity



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    53 min
  • Secret Steps I Took to Recover from Functional Depression and Find Joy
    Jan 10 2026

    If you’re reading this, you already know the exhaustion. You’ve felt the weight of being everything for everyone while losing yourself in the process. You’re functioning, maybe even thriving on the surface, but inside? You’re running on empty.

    I’ve been there. Early menopause at 32, functional depression, burnout that crashed my body, mind, and spirit. For years, I’ve been teaching radical self-care as the antidote, but recently, I’ve discovered something even more powerful—self-devotion.

    This isn’t just another self-care trend. It’s the missing bridge between exhaustion and energy, between overwhelm and overflow.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode

    In this raw and honest conversation, I’m sharing why self-devotion is different from self-care, how it activates your Queen Goddess energy, and why giving yourself permission to be “radically selfish” isn’t selfish at all—it’s survival.

    Key Takeaways

    * Self-devotion is an energy shift, not a task list – It’s deciding you matter and declaring your worth through your choices, not adding more “should dos” to your plate

    * You can’t give from an empty cup – Operating below your baseline means you’re giving from depletion; self-devotion fills you to overflow so you give from fullness

    * The bridge from self-sacrifice to sustainable self-care is self-devotion – This middle ground helps you move from survival mode to thriving mode without the overwhelm

    * Permission is everything – Especially for women who’ve been conditioned to serve others 24/7, choosing yourself requires unlearning faulty default settings about your worth

    * Setting boundaries becomes easier when you prioritize yourself first – Self-devotion makes saying “no more” feel less scary and more empowering

    Episode Timestamps

    [00:00] – My burnout story: Early menopause and the perfect storm[00:57] – What you really want (spoiler: it’s relief)[01:33] – Functional depression and losing yourself along the way[02:10] – From survival mode to thriving mode[02:59] – What makes self-devotion different from self-care[03:26] – Activating Queen Goddess energy through decision-making[04:13] – Cutting off what doesn’t serve you (even with kids and responsibilities)[05:25] – The vessel metaphor: Fullness vs. depletion[05:55] – The ER on Thanksgiving night: What happens when you don’t practice self-devotion[07:10] – Unlearning religious and cultural conditioning around service[08:01] – Steps and practices to reach self-devotion[09:36] – Your gift to yourself this season[10:44] – Next steps and the Self-Devotion Protocol

    Why This Matters Now

    If you’ve been waiting for permission to put your name at the top of your gift list, this is it. Self-devotion isn’t an intrusion on your life—it’s an upgrade. It’s energy reclamation.

    When you fill your cup first, you give from overflow. And when you’re happy? Everyone benefits.

    Ready to explore what self-devotion could look like in your life? I’d love to hear your story. Drop a comment and share how you’ve been sacrificing yourself for others’ happiness—and what it would take for you to choose radical self-devotion instead.

    If you’re ready to go deeper, my one-on-one sessions are open for women who want personalized guidance through the Self-Devotion Protocol. Let’s talk about your path from burnout to bliss.​

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    12 min
  • Why ‘Good Girl’ Conditioning Is Keeping You Powerless
    Dec 21 2025
    📥 Get Your Free Guide: Download my 35 Micro Self-Care Practices for Busy Women Guide at SelfCareAlchemist.com/selfcareguide. It’s simple, sustainable practices you can use today.Show Notes:This week on Self Care Oasis, I’m joined by mindset and leadership coach Vibha Vinodrai for a powerful conversation on why self-awareness is the number one predictor of empowered leadership for women—and how the menstrual cycle itself is a radical self-care framework. We unpack the insidious ways people-pleasing, martyrdom, and abandoning ourselves are mistaken for safety, and why reclaiming our energy requires radical self-responsibility, embodied practices, and a supportive circle of women. Whether you’re leading in the boardroom or at the kitchen table, this episode is all about taking your power back and honoring your body’s wisdom every step of the way.Highlights & Takeaways* Self-Awareness as Leadership Superpower: Vibha shares that scientists pinpoint self-awareness as the leadership trait that determines greatness, since it grounds us no matter how much the external world is in chaos.* Radical Responsibility Over Blame: We discuss abandoning people-pleasing and taking radical responsibility for everything we allow or create, shifting from victimhood to true power.* Boundaries & Embodiment: Embodiment—especially understanding cycles, tuning into the womb, and listening to hunger and energy cues—is foundational for sustainable self-care and unshakeable confidence.* Cultural and Workplace Conditioning: Powerful reflections on growing up in environments that relegate women to the background, why support isn’t selfish, and how community is essential for rising together.* Self-Care in Practice: Your body is not an inconvenience. Treating your cycle or post-menopausal changes with reverence unlocks a deeper level of physical and emotional power.Succinct Themed Timestamps0:00 Self-awareness as a leadership superpower2:00 Vibha’s story & coaching methodology4:00 Why grounded women can weather political and social chaos7:00 Radical responsibility vs. blame: ending the people-pleasing cycle12:00 Saying yes, internal betrayal, and reclaiming power16:00 Ambition, support, and the myth of “too much”19:00 Community, inner work, and representation in leadership24:00 Embodiment practice: cycles, boundaries, and the wisdom in your body29:00 Changing the narrative of periods and menopause33:00 When stress sabotages your cycle (Ayurvedic insight)36:00 Trusting the wisdom of the body38:00 How to work with Vibha + CTAExplore Deeper* Connect with Vibha: Find her on Instagram @healherway and at healherway.ca for 1:1 coaching, empowerment programs, and integrative women’s health support.* Join the Self Care Oasis Community: Subscribe and follow for more honest conversations that move you from self-sacrifice to self-devotion.* Download Your Free Gift: Snag my “35 Micro Self-Care Practices for Busy Women Guide” with simple, sustainable ideas for real self-care at SelfCareAlchemist.com/selfcareguide.* Shop the Blyss Boutique: Explore my curated self-care programs including the Sleep Alchemy System, Toxic Relationship Recovery Self-Care System, and the Burnout to Bliss Blueprint on Substack. https://blyss.substack.com/bliss-boutique* Expand Your Circle: Share this episode with a woman who needs encouragement to reclaim her energy and step into her power—and leave us a review if it moved you.* Overwhelmed by Tech?: Visit BlyssTechSolutions.com if tech chaos is draining your energy. I created my tech therapist practice for wellness coaches, consultants, and female founders who are done with tech overwhelm.I’m Samantha Gregory, your Self Care Alchemist, helping women transform burnout into better boundaries, balance, and shameless bliss. Thank you for choosing Self Care Oasis, where you reclaim energy, joy, and leadership through radical self-devotion. Until next time, choose your bliss. Get full access to Self Care Oasis at blyss.substack.com/subscribe
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    41 min
  • The Pipeline from Self-Esteem to Self-Care: A Conversation with Dame Clarissa Burt
    Dec 3 2025
    📥 Get Your Free Guide: Download my 35 Micro Self-Care Practices for Busy Women Guide at SelfCareAlchemist.com/selfcareguide. It’s simple, sustainable practices you can use today.SummaryIn this episode, I had the honor of sitting down with author, actress, and speaker Dame Clarissa Burt to explore a question that’s been on my mind: What is the pipeline between self-esteem, self-care, and self-devotion?This conversation hit close to home for me because I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what would happen if women pulled all the devotion we put into our careers, children, homes, parents, and partners—and poured it into ourselves. Clarissa’s journey from a Philadelphia row home to international modeling runways revealed something profound: even the world’s most beautiful women struggle with the same lack of self-esteem. Her bestselling book, The Self-Esteem Regime, offers practical practices like mirror therapy, boundary-setting, and values clarification that I know will resonate with the Self Care Oasis community.​Inside the Episode (Timestamps)0:00 Introduction & Guest Welcome1:21 What If Women Devoted to Themselves?3:29 Clarissa’s Background: From Philly to Europe7:33 Writing The Self-Esteem Regime & “Pinch Me” Moments10:52 Overcoming Low Self-Esteem: Family and Modeling Stories16:47 Mirror Therapy and The Power of Self-Talk21:41 Self-Esteem, Boundaries, and Soul Care24:14 Toxic Relationships & Redefining Friendship25:50 Emotional Intelligence and The Energy Scale29:38 Growth, Forgiveness, and Reparenting Yourself33:11 Navigating Transitions and the “Extra Mile”34:01 Forgiving Yourself and Others38:06 Takeaways, Advice, and Book Recap41:54 Closing and Where to Learn MoreKey Highlights & TakeawaysThe Oxygen Mask Principle: This is something I preach constantly; self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential. We absolutely must put our own oxygen masks on first before caring for others, and I loved how Clarissa reinforced that self-care needs to be a non-negotiable calendar item just like every other responsibility in our lives.Mirror Therapy: I’ll be honest, I’ve done mirror work before and it was incredibly hard to start. But when I really got into it, it was life-changing because I could finally see my soul, not just my reflection. Clarissa shared how starting with just one minute a day and building to five minutes can create shifts within 21 days. One of her interns couldn’t even speak the first time she tried—that’s how powerful and challenging this work is.Boundaries as Self-Care: This is so important, and I appreciate how Clarissa explained that boundaries don’t have to be violent or confrontational. You’re constantly teaching people how you want to be treated, and you can set boundaries with kindness and grace. When boundaries feel violent, it’s usually because the other person has shown they have no intention of building an authentic relationship with you.The Value System Blueprint: I ask my clients this all the time: What are your values? Most people haven’t clearly defined them, which is why this work is so essential. Your personal values—like honesty, integrity, gratitude, and honor—serve as your blueprint for how you show up in every area of life.The Extra Mile Journey: Clarissa’s description of the self-development path resonated deeply with me—it’s the longest, coldest, darkest, and scariest mile you’ll walk, and you’ll walk it alone. But the light at the end gets bigger, brighter, and more beautiful with every step.Forgiveness is Power: This is something I’ve learned through my own healing journey. Forgiving yourself and others isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful acts of self-care. This includes forgiving yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know and for believing negative messages about yourself.The Comparison Trap: Never compare yourself to others because you haven’t walked in their shoes. As Clarissa said, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side—it might be AstroTurf, or it’s simply greener where you water it.Discovering Your True Self: Before any personal development work can truly transform you, you need to understand who you are at your core—beyond the labels, projections, and conditioning. I’m a personal development queen myself, but the “Who am I really?” question is where the real magic happens.Explore DeeperReady to transform your self-esteem and reclaim your self-devotion?📚 Get the book: The Self-Esteem Regime by Dame Clarissa Burt is available at Barnes & Noble nationwide, Amazon, Kindle, and Audible. I’ve been reading it myself and it’s powerful work.🌟 Connect with Clarissa: Follow Dame Clarissa Burt on all social media platforms and visit ClarissaBurt.com for more resources.💎 Join me at the Self Care Oasis: If this conversation resonated with you, subscribe to my newsletter and podcast for more transformative conversations helping women move from burnout to ...
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    41 min
  • Redefining Success Through Self-Trust and Self-Devotion
    Nov 26 2025
    📥 Get Your Free Guide: Download my 35 Micro Self-Care Practices for Busy Women Guide at SelfCareAlchemist.com/selfcareguide. It’s simple, sustainable practices you can use today.SummaryIn this deeply personal episode, I sat down with Shuang-Min Chang, an intuitive mentor and coach who helps high-achieving entrepreneurs and executives redefine success through self-trust. Shuang-Min’s story resonated with me so much because her burnout didn’t look like what we typically imagine—no mobility, no energy. Instead, she was hyper-energetic, eating for three to four people every meal, sleeping 12 to 16 hours a day during recovery.What struck me most was her realization: My career is here to serve me—I don’t serve my career. This conversation explores the transition periods we all face, the cultural pressures to overwork, how to recognize burnout when it’s disguised as hyperactivity, and how to create success rooted in love, freedom, joy, and peace.Key Highlights & TakeawaysBurnout Doesn’t Always Look Like We Think: Shuang-Min taught me that burnout can show up as hyper-energy, not just exhaustion. She was out of breath after walking five minutes on a small hill, couldn’t surf or climb anymore, and ate massive amounts without gaining weight because her body was so depleted. The key is recognizing when something feels wrong, even if you’re still “functioning”.​The Body Is Conscious: Our bodies have their own consciousness and send us messages. Shuang-Min experienced mysterious, violent illnesses for years that doctors couldn’t diagnose, always conveniently timed after big events so they didn’t disrupt her work. Her body was desperately trying to tell her something, but she didn’t listen until it all crumbled down.The Transition Void Is Precious: Nobody told us about life transitions, and that’s such an important point. If Shuang-Min had known that the void in transition is the most precious thing we can have, she wouldn’t have been so eager to fill it. We need space to let a new identity and definition of success emerge that’s actually aligned with our essence.Career Progress Comes with Boundaries: This resonated deeply—Shuang-Min’s career progressed fastest when she insisted on getting off work on time. People would ask her, “Why do you leave earlier the higher your title gets?” She decided she wanted a life, not just a career, and that her career was there to serve her.Know Your Value Beyond Hours: If your value doesn’t come from how many hours you spend in the office, what is your value? Shuang-Min had to really connect to the value she brought to the company beyond just being physically present the longest. When she hit her goals in nine hours instead of 16, what was the point of those extra seven hours?Interview Your Future Boss: We forget that we’re in a powerful position during job interviews. Shuang-Min interviewed her future colleagues and bosses to make sure they appreciated her and would let her do her thing as long as she hit targets. Everyone told her that kind of boss didn’t exist, but her last two bosses were exactly that, and that’s when her career flew.Acknowledge Dissatisfaction Without Guilt: So many successful women feel guilty admitting they’re not satisfied with the definition of success society handed them. They try to suppress it and get busier, which creates even more dissatisfaction. It’s okay—actually, it’s important—to acknowledge when something feels amiss.Success Is an Ecosystem: Success isn’t just career or parenting—it’s all the relationships we create, how much we enjoy them, and how much money we actually want, not what society says we should want. Some people need a million dollars a year, but some don’t actually want the responsibility that comes with it.​Create Success from Inside Out: When we connect with our innate worthiness and love ourselves enough, success becomes a natural description of our life, like happiness, not something external we have to chase. We create because we want to, not because we need validation.Episode Timestamps0:00 Introduction2:00 From Fashion Exec to Intuitive Mentor3:00 Recognizing Burnout While Hyper-Energetic7:00 When Your Body Crumbles: Recovery Story10:00 The Body Sends Messages We Ignore14:00 The Precious Void of Transition18:00 Menopause, Identity & Reinvention21:00 Working 4 Hours a Day, 4 Days a Week23:00 Cultural Expectations & Sacrifice25:00 Career Boundaries That Accelerate Success26:00 My Career Serves Me29:00 Knowing Your Limit & Creating Life32:00 Finding Bosses Who Appreciate You34:00 Interview Your Future Boss37:00 Redefining Success as Ecosystem42:00 Success: Description vs. Definition45:00 Acknowledging Dissatisfaction48:00 Connect with Shuang-Min & ResourcesExplore DeeperReady to redefine success on your own terms?🌟 Connect with Shuang-Min: Visit ShuangMinChang.com or find her on LinkedIn and Instagram @ShuangMin. Book a discovery call to explore ...
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    51 min
  • Why Your Self-Care Isn't Working: The Overflow Method for Busy Professional Women
    Nov 19 2025
    📥 Get Your Free Guide: Download my 35 Micro Self-Care Practices for Busy Women Guide at SelfCareAlchemist.com/selfcareguide. It’s simple, sustainable practices you can use today.This conversation explores how to follow your inner compass, deconstruct limiting belief systems, and turn the tap on so your cup is constantly overflowing. SummaryIn this soul-stirring episode, I sat down with spiritual teacher and intuitive mentor Ashmita Arora to explore the critical difference between fulfillment and abundance—and why chasing the wrong one leads straight to burnout. This conversation really opened my eyes because we’ve been taught that abundance (the nice car, the big house, the designer goods) equals happiness, but Ashmita helped me see that true fulfillment comes from those flow state moments when time disappears and you’re just completely present. What really resonated with me was her metaphor about being full and someone offering you dessert—you don’t need it, but you could enjoy it. That’s abundance. And if you eat it just to have it when you’re already full, you end up on the treadmill the next week trying to burn it off, stressed about something that never truly satisfied you. About AshmitaAshmita Arora is a Spiritual Teacher and Transformation Guide who helps people move through life’s most pivotal transitions with courage and presence. Whether it’s navigating endings, grief, burnout, or profound spiritual awakenings, she reveals the unseen architecture beneath these experiences creating gateways to growth. Her talks blend deep spiritual insight with practical clarity, provoking audiences to leave inspired and empowered.Timestamps0:00 Introduction1:57 Fulfillment vs. Abundance Explained5:33 Why We’re Conditioned to Chase Abundance7:22 Flow State and Avoiding Burnout11:04 Following Your Inner Compass12:49 Transitioning from Fear-Based Decisions15:46 Piscean vs. Aquarian Era23:30 Deconstructing Limiting Belief Systems27:02 The Overflow Cup Metaphor for Self-Care31:47 How to Practice Fulfillment Today33:25 Permission to Say No and Protect Your Energy36:13 Breaking Free from Cultural Expectations38:36 Ashmita’s Programs OverviewKey Highlights & TakeawaysFulfillment vs. Abundance: True fulfillment is when you’re in flow—time disappears, you’re not thinking about anything else, and you’re doing something that doesn’t drain you because the passion comes from such a divine, expansive place. Abundance is the external stuff we’ve assigned meaning to, and when we chase it thinking it will fulfill us, we blur the lines and end up stressed about losing it. The Inner Compass Practice: Ashmita shared the most powerful tool—when making decisions, ask yourself: Does this make me feel expansive or contracted? Is it coming from fear, guilt, or obligation? If it’s rooted in any of those three, don’t do it. You can’t put black food coloring into something and expect to get white. The Body Is Conscious: Our bodies have their own consciousness and send us messages. Ashmita experienced mysterious, violent illnesses for years that doctors couldn’t diagnose, always conveniently timed after big events so they didn’t disrupt her work. Her body was desperately trying to tell her something, but she didn’t listen until everything crumbled. The Tap Metaphor: This one hit me hard—imagine a tap with water flowing constantly. That’s source; that’s when you’re in flow. If you put a cup under the tap and just hold it there, it overflows constantly so you can give from that overflow. But if you fill your cup, turn the tap off, and keep giving from that one cup without refilling, you will burn out. You cannot give from an empty cup.The Aquarian Era: We’re moving from the Piscean era (all about control, boxes, external validation, building outside ourselves) into the Aquarian era (going internal, self-discovery, understanding who we are at a soul level). Those of us who felt like outsiders or didn’t fit into society’s boxes? Our time has come. Reframe Your Obligations: Most of the burnout happens in our heads. Why do we feel like we have to do everything at 100%? Some days it can be sandwiches for dinner, and that’s fine. Look at your responsibilities from a blessed perspective—these kids you prayed for, this job you wanted so badly—and if you can’t change the outside, you can always change how you perceive it. The Power of No: When you say no to protect your energy, you’re not just helping yourself—you’re giving the other person an opportunity for spiritual growth. If it bothers them that you cancel to take a day for yourself, they need to find out why that bothers them. By following your own path, you’re actually serving their higher self even if they don’t understand it in this realm. Stop Giving from Obligation: When you put effort into something nobody asked you to do and then get upset they don’t appreciate it, that’s on you. You did that for ...
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