If you’re reading this, you already know the exhaustion. You’ve felt the weight of being everything for everyone while losing yourself in the process. You’re functioning, maybe even thriving on the surface, but inside? You’re running on empty.

I’ve been there. Early menopause at 32, functional depression, burnout that crashed my body, mind, and spirit. For years, I’ve been teaching radical self-care as the antidote, but recently, I’ve discovered something even more powerful—self-devotion.

This isn’t just another self-care trend. It’s the missing bridge between exhaustion and energy, between overwhelm and overflow.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

In this raw and honest conversation, I’m sharing why self-devotion is different from self-care, how it activates your Queen Goddess energy, and why giving yourself permission to be “radically selfish” isn’t selfish at all—it’s survival.

Key Takeaways

* Self-devotion is an energy shift, not a task list – It’s deciding you matter and declaring your worth through your choices, not adding more “should dos” to your plate

* You can’t give from an empty cup – Operating below your baseline means you’re giving from depletion; self-devotion fills you to overflow so you give from fullness

* The bridge from self-sacrifice to sustainable self-care is self-devotion – This middle ground helps you move from survival mode to thriving mode without the overwhelm

* Permission is everything – Especially for women who’ve been conditioned to serve others 24/7, choosing yourself requires unlearning faulty default settings about your worth

* Setting boundaries becomes easier when you prioritize yourself first – Self-devotion makes saying “no more” feel less scary and more empowering

Episode Timestamps

[00:00] – My burnout story: Early menopause and the perfect storm[00:57] – What you really want (spoiler: it’s relief)[01:33] – Functional depression and losing yourself along the way[02:10] – From survival mode to thriving mode[02:59] – What makes self-devotion different from self-care[03:26] – Activating Queen Goddess energy through decision-making[04:13] – Cutting off what doesn’t serve you (even with kids and responsibilities)[05:25] – The vessel metaphor: Fullness vs. depletion[05:55] – The ER on Thanksgiving night: What happens when you don’t practice self-devotion[07:10] – Unlearning religious and cultural conditioning around service[08:01] – Steps and practices to reach self-devotion[09:36] – Your gift to yourself this season[10:44] – Next steps and the Self-Devotion Protocol

Why This Matters Now

If you’ve been waiting for permission to put your name at the top of your gift list, this is it. Self-devotion isn’t an intrusion on your life—it’s an upgrade. It’s energy reclamation.

When you fill your cup first, you give from overflow. And when you’re happy? Everyone benefits.

Ready to explore what self-devotion could look like in your life? I’d love to hear your story. Drop a comment and share how you’ve been sacrificing yourself for others’ happiness—and what it would take for you to choose radical self-devotion instead.

If you’re ready to go deeper, my one-on-one sessions are open for women who want personalized guidance through the Self-Devotion Protocol. Let’s talk about your path from burnout to bliss.​

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