In this episode, I’m talking about something many women experience during sex but rarely feel safe naming: numbness.

If you’ve ever wondered why you know you’re supposed to feel something….but your body just isn’t responding....this episode is for you!! And there's a SOLUTION!

I explain why numbness during sex isn’t a personal failure, a libido problem, or a sign that something is “wrong” with you. It’s a nervous system state and once you understand that, everything changes.

I share my own journey with sexual numbness, how I misunderstood it for years, and what actually helped me reconnect to sensation without forcing pleasure or chasing orgasms.

We talk about why the body goes numb in the first place and how intimacy begins to return when the nervous system feels supported instead of pushed.

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about understanding your body and giving it the conditions it needs to feel again

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

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If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

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Keywords: sexual numbness, numbness during sex, women’s pleasure, sexual disconnect, intimacy issues, somatic awareness, sexual healing, women’s sexual wellness, pleasure education

Society taught women that pleasure comes from harsh, aggressive conditions....that intensity equals success. That belief wasn’t chosen. It was inherited from a model that never explained how women's pleasure actually works!

In this episode, we explore why one-and-done orgasms are a pleasure error for women....like climbing a mountain in terrible weather. Exhausting. Risky. Unnecessary.

Orgasm is a high-output neurological event.

If the system isn’t:

fully warmed

emotionally safe

internally receptive

…the drop afterward can feel abrasive instead of settling, which is why sex often needs to stop....and that's not the normal flow when we are inside of pleasure.

Think:

purring-kitten intimacy that builds into multiple waves

vs.

pit-bull intensity that delivers one peak and shuts everything down.

This episode isn’t about trying harder, it’s about understanding why pleasure was never meant to be one-and-done.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: nervous system safety, feminine pleasure, embodied intimacy, soft pleasure, orgasm without pressure, pleasure confusion, female arousal safety, intimacy without force, feminine nervous system, slow pleasure, regulated pleasure, body trust, pleasure without performance, sensual safety, women’s pleasure education

Trying harder won’t bring you closer to orgasm. Thinking your way into pleasure doesn’t work either.

In this one, I explain why willpower is the wrong access point for women's pleasure and orgasm....and how mental effort often creates tension, pressure, and shutdown in the body.

Many women have been taught to focus, push, concentrate, or “get there” using the mind. But orgasm isn’t a mental achievement. It’s a biological response that depends on nervous system regulation and internal safety.

Pleasure turns on when the body stays online....when attention drops into sensation instead of performance or thought. This episode introduces a new orientation to pleasure: one that replaces effort with understanding and pressure with presence. Ayeeee! :)

You don’t need to try harder. You need the right internal conditions.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

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If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: female pleasure, willpower and pleasure, orgasm education, nervous system regulation, pleasure, sex education for women, arousal science, Desire Different Podcast, somatic pleasure, body-based pleasure

In this episode, I share my personal pleasure story and the moment I realized I didn’t want anyone else telling me what kind of pleasure I was capable of. I was done with the zero orgasm bit!

For years, I was handed explanations about women's pleasure that felt limiting, confusing, or disconnected from my actual body. Sex could feel good, but something was missing and I knew it wasn’t because I was broken or "messed up".

So, I share with you how misinformation, performance-based sex education, and external expectations pulled my attention out of my body and what changed when I stopped trying to do pleasure and learned how to stay present instead.

I also share how this was a part of the journey that led to my upcoming premium audio series, created for women who feel the pull to understand their bodies more deeply and to learn the conditions that allow orgasm to flow.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: pleasure literacy, female pleasure, women’s pleasure, sexual embodiment, orgasm education, body awareness, sexual self-trust, nervous system, embodied sexuality, women’s orgasm, sexual empowerment for women, pleasure education

Okay, THIS is where the initial error lives...in this episode I talk about the first structural error most women learn in their sex education....the assumption that our pleasure should behave like a man’s.

When women are taught to model their bodies after a linear, goal-based orgasm pattern, pleasure becomes something to monitor and evaluate instead of embody! What often gets labeled as numbness, low desire, or difficulty orgasming is not a personal failure, but a nervous system response to the wrong framework.

This episode is about learning that the map needs correcting and offering a re-orientation that changes how women relate to their bodies, their pleasure, their orgasm and themselves.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

female pleasure, women’s sexuality, orgasm education, sex ed, nervous system, sex education for women, orgasm awareness, embodiment and pleasure, female arousal, sexual confidence for women, feminine pleasure, women’s arousal patterns, pleasure and safety, orgasm myths

In this episode, I explore how performance-based sex education trained women to place their attention outside of their bodies and why that’s where disorientation begins. Because....the distraction is real! 😮‍💨

We were taught how sex should look and how to do it “right,” but not how to stay connected to what we’re feeling while it’s happening.

I talk about what traditional sex education left out, how this disconnect impacts pleasure and intimacy, and why so many women feel something is missing even when everything appears fine.

This episode invites you to question the framework you were given and to consider a new way of orienting toward pleasure that begins inside your body. And....inside my new series coming this month! 😆

If you’d like a quiet place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: sex education, new year new me, 2026, women’s pleasure, performance-based sex, embodiment, intimacy, body awareness, somatic connection, nervous system, healing, low libido, libido

EEEEKKKKKKKKK!!!!! 😆 This is episode 100 of Desire Different Podcast!!!!....which feels honestly a little WILD to say out loud!

Okay, so Happy New Year! Happy 2026!!!

So in this milestone episode ☺️ I reflect on how my work with women’s pleasure has evolved over time. Ya'll we have evolved honey! What started as teaching about pleasure/orgasm....turned into something much deeper: helping women orient their bodies toward pleasure in a way that actually feels safe, intelligible, and doable, not performative or confusing.

I discuss what I’ve learned through years of study in sacred sexuality, personal experience, and consistency (lots of consistency), and why chasing orgasm has never been the answer. When pleasure perception shifts, orgasm stops being a fluke. It becomes a natural outcome of alignment….not try this, try that.

There’s reflection, a little perspective, and yeah....a moment where I realize my daughter has quietly witnessed this entire evolution! Which honestly......aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! 😆😍🥰

This episode is both a marker and an invitation as I prepare to open a new pleasure series and keep walking this path with you.

Visit the listeners page to browse the product suite & free offers or to sign up for email notifications for the new pleasure series coming soon!

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If you’d like a quiet place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

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And if you’re not too busy, as a celebration for us! Please rate the show! It helps my reach 🧸💃🏽

Keywords:

100th episode, 100 episodes, 100, women’s pleasure, orgasm education, pleasure, sex education for women, orgasm, sacred sexuality, sacred sex, female orgasm, Desire Different Podcast, episode 100, women and sexuality, pleasure orientation, orgasm capacity, new year, new years, new year new me, 2026

What happens when women stop trying to make pleasure happen??!

In this episode, I explore what shifts when pressure and performance fall away and why forcing pleasure often disconnects us from it. We look at the difference between chasing sensation and allowing the body to respond naturally, and how receptivity and relaxation play a central role in women's pleasure systems.

This conversation offers a gentler, more intelligent approach to pleasure....one rooted in presence, safety, and self-trust.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords:

women’s pleasure, feminine embodiment, orgasm gap, pleasure, healing, female sexuality education, sex education, embodiment practices, desire and receptivity, intimacy and presence,