In this episode, I’m talking about something many women experience during sex but rarely feel safe naming: numbness.

If you’ve ever wondered why you know you’re supposed to feel something….but your body just isn’t responding....this episode is for you!! And there's a SOLUTION!

I explain why numbness during sex isn’t a personal failure, a libido problem, or a sign that something is “wrong” with you. It’s a nervous system state and once you understand that, everything changes.

I share my own journey with sexual numbness, how I misunderstood it for years, and what actually helped me reconnect to sensation without forcing pleasure or chasing orgasms.

We talk about why the body goes numb in the first place and how intimacy begins to return when the nervous system feels supported instead of pushed.

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about understanding your body and giving it the conditions it needs to feel again

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: sexual numbness, numbness during sex, women’s pleasure, sexual disconnect, intimacy issues, somatic awareness, sexual healing, women’s sexual wellness, pleasure education

Society taught women that pleasure comes from harsh, aggressive conditions....that intensity equals success. That belief wasn’t chosen. It was inherited from a model that never explained how women's pleasure actually works!

In this episode, we explore why one-and-done orgasms are a pleasure error for women....like climbing a mountain in terrible weather. Exhausting. Risky. Unnecessary.

Orgasm is a high-output neurological event.

If the system isn’t:

fully warmed

emotionally safe

internally receptive

…the drop afterward can feel abrasive instead of settling, which is why sex often needs to stop....and that's not the normal flow when we are inside of pleasure.

Think:

purring-kitten intimacy that builds into multiple waves

vs.

pit-bull intensity that delivers one peak and shuts everything down.

This episode isn’t about trying harder, it’s about understanding why pleasure was never meant to be one-and-done.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: nervous system safety, feminine pleasure, embodied intimacy, soft pleasure, orgasm without pressure, pleasure confusion, female arousal safety, intimacy without force, feminine nervous system, slow pleasure, regulated pleasure, body trust, pleasure without performance, sensual safety, women’s pleasure education

Trying harder won’t bring you closer to orgasm. Thinking your way into pleasure doesn’t work either.

In this one, I explain why willpower is the wrong access point for women's pleasure and orgasm....and how mental effort often creates tension, pressure, and shutdown in the body.

Many women have been taught to focus, push, concentrate, or “get there” using the mind. But orgasm isn’t a mental achievement. It’s a biological response that depends on nervous system regulation and internal safety.

Pleasure turns on when the body stays online....when attention drops into sensation instead of performance or thought. This episode introduces a new orientation to pleasure: one that replaces effort with understanding and pressure with presence. Ayeeee! :)

You don’t need to try harder. You need the right internal conditions.

If you’d like a place to begin exploring pleasure education, I created a free starting point here:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/free-offer

If you’ve been listening and feeling something shift, this page exists to support that:

https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here

Keywords: female pleasure, willpower and pleasure, orgasm education, nervous system regulation, pleasure, sex education for women, arousal science, Desire Different Podcast, somatic pleasure, body-based pleasure