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  • 366: [Soapbox] Should i tell her about the viagra?

    366: [Soapbox] Should i tell her about the viagra?
    Feb 19 2026

    In this soapbox episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman responds to a coaching-call question: whether to tell a partner when you’ve taken Viagra. She describes a client who has a prescription, experiences no negative side effects, and has been taking the medication without telling his wife to avoid creating pressure or expectations for sex. Jessa explains that Viagra helps maintain an erection rather than automatically causing one, so taking it without having sex isn’t inherently harmful, but guessing can lead to mismatches—sometimes he’s prepared and sometimes he isn’t—potentially leaving his wife confused or personalizing inconsistent erections. She suggests considering a daily medication like Cialis for more spontaneity and encourages an honest conversation that leads with the intention to avoid pressure, clarifies there are no adverse effects if sex doesn’t happen, and invites the partner into shared decision-making, including the option for the partner to initiate by suggesting he take a pill if she’s interested in sex. She closes by encouraging listeners to communicate in ways that reduce pressure while increasing collaboration and connection.


    00:00 Welcome to Better Sex (Podcast Intro)

    00:45 Soapbox Topic: Should You Tell Your Partner You Took Viagra?

    01:35 The Real Issue: Guessing, Mixed Signals & Partner Anxiety

    02:08 Quick Viagra Myth-Busting: What It Does (and Doesn’t) Do

    03:31 Practical Options: Daily Cialis vs. Planning Ahead

    03:55 How to Bring It Up Without Creating Pressure

    05:01 Invite Your Partner In: Shared Decision-Making & Desire Signals

    05:59 Wrap-Up: Communicate About ED Meds as a Team

    06:18 Outro, Links, Reviews & Credits

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    Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

    Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




    How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

    The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

    Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    8 min
  • 365: Polyagony - Common Mistakes in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Candace Sjogren

    365: Polyagony - Common Mistakes in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Candace Sjogren
    Feb 16 2026
    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Candace Sjogren about the intricacies and common mistakes involved in polyamory, as addressed in Sjogren’s book, 'Polyagony'. They discuss personal experiences, motivations behind polyamorous relationships, and essential strategies for maintaining healthy open relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, ethical non-monogamy, agreements, and navigating the dynamics of multiple partners, including poly parenting. Sjogren emphasizes the importance of communication, consent, and the continuous evolution of relationship agreements.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:49 Guest Introduction: Candace Sjogren on Polyamory01:25 Candace's Personal Journey with Polyamory02:13 Challenges and Advocacy in Polyamorous Relationships03:34 The Rise of Ethical Non-Monogamy07:09 Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy08:33 Common Mistakes in Open Relationships12:42 Forming Agreements in Open Relationships16:43 Exploring Hopes and Fears in Relationships16:59 The Importance of Moving at the Slowest Pace17:30 Maintaining Relationship Cadence18:02 Invitation to Share Personal Stories18:31 Dealing with Stagnation in Relationships20:19 Understanding Consent Within and Outside the Couple22:26 Navigating the Role of a Hinge in Polyamory25:04 Challenges of Poly Parenting28:31 Group Dynamics in Polyamory30:12 Conclusion and ResourcesIf you want to share your story on the show, email us at info@intimacywithease.comBio: Candace Sjogren is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and transformational leader whose work spans finance, technology, and human development. Born in Cincinnati, Ohio, she graduated from the Salmon P. Chase College of Law and practiced law before founding and leading multiple mission-driven companies. She served as CEO of Bad Girl Ventures, a microfinance firm investing in female founders, and later founded Somolend, one of the first nationally available crowdfunding platforms. Through this work, Candace played a key role in shaping the JOBS Act, the legislation that made securities-based crowdfunding legal in the United States.Over the past fifteen years, Candace has served in senior executive and C-suite roles across venture-backed startups and global payments companies, including Chief Commercial Officer of Lynx, a healthcare payments company, and Senior Vice President of Embedded Finance at FIS, a global payments firm with more than 66,000 employees. She is also the former co-author of Typhoon Honey: The Only Way Out Is Through, a book on emotional intelligence and transformational growth. Today, Candace leads The Liberation Company, where she facilitates emotional intelligence, somatic healing, and identity-based workshops designed to support deep personal and collective transformation. She lives on Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with her husband Andrew, their son Ivar, and their two dogs, Pan and Cinder.Website: https://www.polyagony.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@candacesjogren7056Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidethemindofcandaceklein/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candacesjogren/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candace.klein/Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    33 min
  • 364: [Soapbox] Avoid the Quota Trap

    364: [Soapbox] Avoid the Quota Trap
    Feb 12 2026

    In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing on frequency can often lead to feelings of obligation and resentment, particularly for lower desire partners. Instead, Jessa advises couples to create flexible, pressure-free spaces to nurture desire and intimacy naturally.


    00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

    00:46 Welcome and Episode Overview

    01:02 Discussing Reasonable Amounts of Sex

    02:11 The Problem with Setting Quotas

    04:05 Creating Flexibility in Intimacy

    05:09 Avoiding Obligation and Duty

    05:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    05:59 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

    06:47 Credits and Acknowledgements

    Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.



    More info and resources:


    Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

    Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




    How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

    The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

    Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    7 min
  • 363: Anal Sex for Beginners with Dr. Evan Goldstein

    363: Anal Sex for Beginners with Dr. Evan Goldstein
    Feb 9 2026
    In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners, focusing on key aspects such as muscle relaxation, preparation, and safety. They delve into common myths around anal sex, the anatomical considerations, and the importance of using the right products for a pleasurable experience. The conversation also explores the performance of safe hygiene practices, effective communication with partners, and techniques to mitigate potential issues. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the importance of proper education and preparation to enhance the anal sex experience, debunking societal taboos and misconceptions.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex00:48 Exciting Topic: Anal Sex for Beginners01:32 Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein02:50 The Birth of Bespoke Surgical03:46 Common Anal Issues and Myths06:40 Anal Play for All Genders08:21 Understanding Anal Anatomy14:01 The Future Method and Anal Dilating Kit20:45 The Importance of Uniformity in Vaginal Dilators21:33 Jessa's Quick Break: How to Get Help22:01 Misconceptions About Anal Preparation22:35 Solo Anal Play: Learning Your Body23:20 Incorporating Dilators into Sex Play24:17 Positions for Anal Success26:56 Choosing the Right Lube for Anal Sex29:06 Gut Health and Anal Play31:48 Douching: Best Practices and Misconceptions34:59 Post-Play Hygiene Tips36:36 Final Thoughts and ResourcesWant to work with Jessa? https://www.intimacywithease.comBio:Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He holds a perennial spot on the list of top doctors for the New York metro area and Crain’s New York Business listed him as one of their notable LGBTQ+ leaders and executives. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between published in May 2024.www.bespokesurgical.comwww.futuremethod.comwww.buttseriously.comWant to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    41 min
  • 362: [Soapbox] What “My Love Language Is Touch” Gets Wrong

    362: [Soapbox] What “My Love Language Is Touch” Gets Wrong
    Feb 5 2026

    In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on the concept of love languages and their impact on intimate relationships. Zimmerman discusses the common misunderstanding that having 'touch' as a love language equates to a need for sex, and how this misconception can create pressure and resistance in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of exploring various kinds of touch and incorporating all love languages into a satisfying sexual relationship. Listeners are encouraged to visit the podcast's website for show notes and additional episodes, and to rate and review the show on iTunes.


    00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

    00:55 Exploring Love Languages and Touch

    02:15 Misconceptions About Love Languages and Sex

    02:49 Integrating Love Languages into Sex

    03:38 Avoiding Entitlement and Pressure in Relationships

    04:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

    Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.



    More info and resources:


    Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

    Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




    How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

    The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

    Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    6 min
  • 361: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved with Joan Price

    361: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved with Joan Price
    Feb 2 2026
    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers34:39 Promoting the Book and Final ThoughtsBio:Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers34:39 Promoting the Book and Final ThoughtsBio:Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big ...
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    39 min
  • 360: [Soapbox] They put effort into every other problem

    360: [Soapbox] They put effort into every other problem
    Jan 29 2026

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores the common misunderstanding surrounding lower desire partners in relationships. She discusses how a lack of evident effort towards sexual intimacy problems is often misinterpreted as indifference. Jessa explains that it's more about a lack of hope and feeling stuck rather than a lack of care. The episode provides insightful reframing strategies for higher desire partners, emphasizing understanding and teamwork to address intimate relationship challenges. Listeners are encouraged to connect to the idea that change is possible and to approach these issues with optimism and shared goals.


    00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

    01:02 Understanding Lower Desire Partners

    03:21 The Importance of Hope in Sexual Relationships

    04:11 Encouragement and Resources

    04:28 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

    Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.



    More info and resources:


    Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

    Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




    How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

    The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

    Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    6 min
  • 359: [Personal Story] Working through vaginismus with a surrogate partner

    359: [Personal Story] Working through vaginismus with a surrogate partner
    Jan 26 2026

    In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Junvi Ola, who shares her personal story of overcoming vaginismus, a condition that prevented her from having intercourse until the age of 36. Junvi discusses her journey, which included working with a sex therapist, using dilators, and eventually hiring a surrogate partner. The episode provides insights and inspiration for those facing similar struggles, highlighting the bravery and determination required to break through such challenges.


    00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

    01:46 Junvi's Personal Story Begins

    02:30 The Impact of Early Experiences

    03:42 Struggles with Intimacy and Seeking Help

    06:09 Discovering Vaginismus

    07:46 Therapy and Overcoming Mental Barriers

    14:28 Exploring Sex Surrogacy

    19:37 Choosing a Therapist

    19:53 The Triad Therapy Experience

    20:42 Invitation to Share Your Story

    21:11 Overcoming Fear and Dilator Use

    22:16 First Steps with the Surrogate Partner

    23:18 Sensate Touching and Emotional Challenges

    24:22 The Turning Point

    25:43 Achieving Penetration

    28:25 Focusing on Pleasure and Education

    32:03 Reflecting on the Journey

    34:07 Normalizing Vaginismus and Surrogate Use

    38:02 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

    Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.



    More info and resources:


    Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

    Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




    How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

    The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

    Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

    Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
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    40 min