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  • Emotional Granularity: The Many Shades of Our Emotions

    Emotional Granularity: The Many Shades of Our Emotions
    Jan 20 2026

    Episode 13: Emotional Granularity

    Emotional Granularity: The Many Shades of Our Emotions

    In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores emotional granularity, the ability to notice, distinguish, and name your emotional experiences with greater clarity, nuance, and compassion.

    Most people don’t struggle because they feel too much. They struggle because they were never taught how to understand what they’re feeling. Emotional granularity offers a gentle, practical way to build that understanding, not by fixing emotions, but by expanding the language you have available to describe what’s already happening in your body.

    In this episode, you’ll explore:

    • The difference between emotions (body sensations) and feelings (the meaning we assign to them)

    • How emotional concepts shape the way we experience and interpret feelings

    • Why more emotional language creates more choice, clarity, and self-trust

    • How emotional granularity exists on a spectrum — and why wherever you are makes sense

    • Why this work is invitational, not something you need to “get right”

    Through accessible examples and thoughtful metaphors, Lauren invites you to see your emotional world not as something to control, but as a rich landscape to explore, one shade at a time.

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    If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course offers practical tools to help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life.

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    Resources Mentioned

    • How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett

    • Untamed by Glennon Doyle

    • Feelings & Needs Reference Guide (Nonviolent Communication)

    • Emotions Wheel

    Take the next step in your self-care journey

    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

    Connect with Lauren

    • Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

    • Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

    • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

    • Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE
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    25 min
  • How to Trust Your Inner Nudges: Learning Your Body’s Yes and No

    How to Trust Your Inner Nudges: Learning Your Body’s Yes and No
    Jan 13 2026

    Episode 12: How to Trust Your Inner Nudges: Learning Your Body’s Yes and No

    Welcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends.In this episode, Lauren explores how to tune out cultural noise, especially around the New Year, and reconnect with your own inner timing, rhythm, and wisdom. Instead of making decisions from pressure, trends, or “shoulds,” this conversation invites you to learn how to listen to your body and emotions as reliable guides.This episode is about developing the skill of discernment: knowing when something is a true yes, a true no, or simply a not-right-now.


    ✨ In this episode, you’ll explore:

    • Why calendar dates and cultural trends don’t override your biology or emotional state
    • How urgency and pressure can pull you out of alignment
    • The difference between external influence and internal wisdom
    • How emotions function as an inner compass
    • What a subtle yes vs. a subtle no feels like in the body
    • Why pausing is often the most powerful choice you can make

    🧭 A Key Takeaway

    You don’t need louder guidance, better discipline, or the “right” plan.You need attunement.When you slow down enough to include your body and emotions in the conversation, you stop building your life from pressure and start building it from truth.


    🌿 Try This This WeekT

    he next time you’re making a small, low-pressure decision, pause and ask:Does this feel like a yes in my body right now—or a no?Notice sensations like lightness, openness, or gentle buzzing versus heaviness, tightening, or closing. This is how you begin learning your body’s language.


    Take the next step in your self-care journey

    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

    Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE


    Connect with Lauren

    • Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
      Website: laurencarlislebrown.com
      Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    28 min
  • Co-Regulation — How Calm Calms and Stress Stresses

    Co-Regulation — How Calm Calms and Stress Stresses
    Jan 6 2026

    🎧 Episode 11: Co-Regulation — How Calm Calms and Stress Stresses


    Welcome back to All the Feels with Lauren Carlisle Brown. 💛
    If you’re listening in real time, this is the first week of January 2026, and Lauren is kicking off the new year by shifting the podcast into a powerful next chapter.


    The first 10 episodes were designed to lay the foundation: the philosophy, the tools, and the how of feeling—not just why feelings matter, but how to work with them in real life.
    Now we’re moving from self-focused emotional skill-building into something deeply relational: co-regulation.


    Co-regulation is the (often invisible) process of one person’s nervous system influencing another’s—through breath, tone, posture, eye contact, presence, touch, and even silence. It’s why someone’s steadiness can soften your body… and someone’s stress can spike your nervous system instantly.

    This episode explores both sides of that dynamic:

    • Co-regulation: calm calms
    • Co-dysregulation: stress stresses

    And most importantly, Lauren teaches how co-regulation is not just “sweet” or “supportive”—it’s biological, deeply wired into your system, and also a skill you can practice.

    ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn

    • Why Lauren doesn’t love the term “emotional regulation” (and what she teaches instead)
    • What co-regulation is and how it works beneath the surface
    • The difference between co-regulation and co-dysregulation
    • How your nervous system constantly asks: “Am I safe here?”
    • The cues your body reads—breath, tone, posture, proximity, eye contact, touch, silence
    • Why calm people can help you soften (and why dysregulated people can tighten your whole system)
    • How trauma and unpredictable environments can lead to hypervigilance
    • How to begin noticing who helps your system soften vs. who you brace around
    • How to become a co-regulating presence without absorbing someone else’s overwhelm

    🧠 Co-Regulation, Explained Simply

    Co-regulation is what happens when one nervous system helps another nervous system settle.It’s the “exhale” you feel around someone steady.

    It’s the way your child calms when you stay grounded.It’s why a hug, a handhold, or a quiet presence can undo you in the best way.It’s also why tension spreads fast—because your body is always reading the room and adjusting.

    🌿 Reflection Practice for the Week:

    As you move through this week, notice:

    • Who helps your breath slow down?
    • Who helps your shoulders drop?
    • Who do you feel safe enough to “melt” around?
    • Who do you chronically brace around?
    • When are you the grounding presence in the room?

    This isn’t about judgment. It’s about honoring your body’s wisdom.

    Take the next step in your self-care journey:

    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE


    Connect with Lauren

    • Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

    • Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

      • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    31 min
  • Inside the Feeling Room: Processing Emotions in Real Time

    Inside the Feeling Room: Processing Emotions in Real Time
    Dec 30 2025

    Episode 10: Inside the Feeling Room: Processing Emotions in Real Time

    Welcome back to All the Feels. 💛

    Today, Lauren Carlisle Brown invites you into “the feeling room” — a rare, unedited look at what emotional processing actually sounds like in real time.

    In this deeply vulnerable episode, Lauren shares a real recording of herself working through self-doubt, fear, and comparison on the very first day she sat down to record this podcast. You’ll hear how she uses breath, compassion, and truth-telling to move from overwhelm to calm — and how creating safety in the body allows emotions to shift and release instead of staying stuck.

    This isn’t a conversation about feelings. It’s a demonstration of how to be with them, how to meet what’s hard with softness, curiosity, and care.


    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • What emotional processing actually sounds like in real life

    • How to talk to your emotions instead of about them

    • Simple ways to regulate your nervous system when emotions feel intense

    • Why compassion and curiosity create emotional safety

    • How to move through self-doubt without letting it take over

    Reflection for You

    As you listen, notice what comes up in your own body. Which emotions feel familiar? Which ones do you resist?

    Remember — you can do this work too. You can learn to hold space for your emotions in a way that heals.


    TIME SENSITIVE OFFER:

    🔥 Ready for a real shift? I’m offering a one-hour, highly focused private session: the Emotional Breakthrough Session.

    It’s designed to help you stop looping in the same emotional patterns, feel deeply seen, access your inner wisdom, and begin stepping into a new version of yourself.

    Let’s move from stuck to alive, one hour can make all the difference.

    SIGN UP HERE


    Take the next step in your self-care journey:

    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE


    Connect with Lauren

    • Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

    • Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

    • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    25 min
  • The Art of Allowing Your Emotions

    The Art of Allowing Your Emotions
    Dec 23 2025
    🌿 Episode 9: The Art of Allowing Your EmotionsWelcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends. 💛In today’s episode, Lauren guides you into the final (and most transformational) part of the Emotional Flow Map: Allowing.If reacting, resisting, and avoiding create distance between you and what you feel… allowing is the moment you turn toward yourself. Allowing is how you complete emotional experiences, integrate what you’ve been carrying, and build the self-trust that creates real emotional freedom.Lauren shares why allowing isn’t about liking an emotion, fixing it, analyzing it, or trying to “get over it.” Allowing is simply the willingness to be with what’s happening in your body — one small moment at a time — with compassion instead of argument.You’ll also learn the foundational four-step framework that sits underneath every emotional processing tool Lauren teaches: Notice it. Name it. Narrate it. Nurture it.This episode includes grounding practices to create internal safety before you go inward, plus relatable examples (anxiety, joy, grief) so you can hear what allowing sounds like in real life.💫 In this episode, you’ll learn:What “allowing” emotions actually means (and what it doesn’t mean)Why allowing is the pathway to emotional freedom, resilience, and self-trustHow to recognize which emotions feel familiar vs. foreign (and why that matters)Why safety must come first before deep emotional workA simple “safe place” visualization to calm your nervous systemThe foundational allowing process: Notice, Name, Narrate, NurtureHow to shift from story → sensation (and let the body speak)How to ask your emotions for their message and respond with real support🧭 The 4 Steps of AllowingLauren teaches the simplest, most accessible version of allowing, something anyone can begin practicing today:Notice it Acknowledge something is here — without needing to understand it yet.Name it Give your brain orientation. Guessing is allowed. Simple words are enough.Narrate it Move from story to sensation. Where is it in your body? What does it feel like? How is it moving?Nurture it Ask the emotion what it’s trying to tell you, then give yourself the support you need in real time.🌬️ A Safety-First ReminderBefore allowing, Lauren emphasizes the importance of grounding:If safety isn’t available, emotionally, physically, or relationally it may not be the right moment to go inward.In those moments, you can draw from other tools like:emotional microdosingconscious reactinggentle, conscious resistancea supportive pausereaching out for help from a trusted person✨ Examples You’ll HearLauren walks through what allowing can look like with:Anxiety (tight chest, fast energy, learning what it needs)Joy (and the sneaky habit of foreboding joy / bracing for what could go wrong)Grief (slow, heavy waves that don’t need to be forced)TIME SENSITIVE OFFER:🔥 Ready for a real shift? I’m offering a one-hour, highly focused private session: the Emotional Breakthrough Session. It’s designed to help you stop looping in the same emotional patterns, feel deeply seen, access your inner wisdom, and begin stepping into a new version of yourself.Let’s move from stuck to alive, one hour can make all the difference.SIGN UP HERETake the next step in your self-care journeyDownload The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook, Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HEREConnect with LaurenInstagram: @the_emotionscoachWebsite: laurencarlislebrown.comFreebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    29 min
  • When We Don’t Want to Feel - The Truth About Avoiding Our Emotions

    When We Don’t Want to Feel - The Truth About Avoiding Our Emotions
    Dec 16 2025
    Episode 8: When We Don’t Want to Feel - The Truth About Avoiding Our EmotionsWelcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends. 💛In this episode, Lauren Carlisle Brown takes a compassionate, honest look at one of the most common — and misunderstood — ways we handle our emotions: avoiding them.Lauren explains what emotional avoidance really is, how it shows up in everyday life (often without us realizing), and why behaviors like overworking, overeating, scrolling, overdrinking, shopping, or “keeping busy” can become default ways of coping when feelings feel like too much.She also acknowledges that some of the topics in this episode — like addiction and overuse of substances or behaviors — can feel heavy. With deep care, Lauren invites you to listen with an open heart, reminding you that avoidance is not a sign of failure but a very human attempt to find relief.From there, she gently guides you into a powerful reframe: while unconscious avoiding can create problems over time, there is a way to work with this pattern more lovingly through something she calls a supportive pause — a form of conscious avoiding that protects your system without numbing you out.In this episode, you’ll learn:What emotional avoidance actually is (and what it looks like day-to-day)Why we instinctively reach for distractions, numbing, and “over-” behaviorsHow Western culture normalizes and even glorifies avoidanceThe role dopamine plays in numbing patterns — and why this is deeply human, not a character flawHow unconscious avoiding can range from mild overdoing to strong habits and, in some cases, addictionWhy compassion (not shame) is the only doorway to real changeWhat conscious avoiding / a supportive pause is — and how to use it wiselyWhat Is a Supportive Pause?Lauren introduces the idea of a supportive pause — an intentional, gentle way to step back from overwhelming feelings without abandoning yourself.A supportive pause might look like:Taking a walk or stepping outside for fresh airWatching something light or funny for a few minutesListening to music, dancing, or moving your bodyDoing a simple grounding or somatic practiceEnjoying a small, safe pleasure that doesn’t create negative fallout laterThe key is that a supportive pause:Soothes rather than numbsHas no harmful consequences on the other sideAnd is paired with the intention to return to your emotions when you have more capacityIt’s not about escaping your feelings forever. It’s about creating enough space so you can eventually come back to them with more steadiness, clarity, and care.A Gentle Invitation for the WeekThis week, Lauren invites you to notice:Where do you tend to “over-” something? (Overwork, overspend, overeat, over-scroll…)When does it feel like you might be unconsciously avoiding a feeling?Could a supportive pause serve you more than an autopilot numbing pattern?No judgment. Just compassionate awareness.Every moment of noticing is a step toward deeper emotional safety and self-trust.TIME SENSITIVE OFFER:🔥 Ready for a real shift? I’m offering a one-hour, highly focused private session: the Emotional Breakthrough Session. It’s designed to help you stop looping in the same emotional patterns, feel deeply seen, access your inner wisdom, and begin stepping into a new version of yourself.Let’s move from stuck to alive, one hour can make all the difference.SIGN UP HERETake the next step in your self-care journeyDownload The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook, Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HEREConnect with LaurenInstagram: @the_emotionscoachWebsite: laurencarlislebrown.comFreebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    25 min
  • Not All Resistance Is Bad: The Gentle Art of Holding Your Emotions

    Not All Resistance Is Bad: The Gentle Art of Holding Your Emotions
    Dec 9 2025

    Episode 7: Not All Resistance Is Bad, The Gentle Art of Holding Your Emotions


    Welcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends. 💛


    In today’s episode, Lauren Carlisle Brown takes you into the second part of the Emotional Flow Map: resistance, and why it’s not the villain it’s often made out to be.


    Resisting emotions is one of the most misunderstood parts of emotional life. Many of us have been taught that pushing feelings away is “wrong” or “unhealthy,” but Lauren offers a compassionate reframe: resistance can be harmful when it’s unconscious… and incredibly supportive when it’s intentional.


    This episode explores how culture, family systems, and personal conditioning teach us to resist our emotions, why resisting becomes a reflex, and how conscious resistance can actually be a form of wisdom, stability, and self-protection.


    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • What emotional resistance actually is
    • Why resisting feelings is such a natural human response
    • How cultural norms shape our instinct to suppress emotions
    • The difference between unconscious and conscious resistance
    • When “not now” is the most emotionally mature choice
    • How to return to a postponed feeling with safety and care
    • A gentle practice to help you notice resistance without judgment

    When Conscious Resistance Is Helpful


    Lauren shares three moments when resisting on purpose is the right move:


    • Functional moments: When life requires steadiness and presence


    • Boundaried moments: When the environment or people around you aren't safe for emotional vulnerability


    • Caring moments: When pausing your emotion allows you to show up for someone else


    This isn’t avoidance, it’s emotional discernment.


    Conscious resistance says: “I feel this. I’ll tend to it later.”


    That’s emotional maturity, not emotional suppression.


    A Practice for Your Week


    When you notice yourself resisting a feeling, simply name it:
    “I’m holding something right now. I’ll come back to it.”

    Then, when you have the capacity, return to it gently.
    This small act builds deep emotional trust and self-connection.


    TIME SENSITIVE OFFER:


    🔥 Ready for a real shift? I’m offering a one-hour, highly focused private session: the Emotional Breakthrough Session.


    It’s designed to help you stop looping in the same emotional patterns, feel deeply seen, access your inner wisdom, and begin stepping into a new version of yourself.


    Let’s move from stuck to alive, one hour can make all the difference.

    SIGN UP HERE


    Take the next step in your self-care journey


    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook, Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.


    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.


    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE


    Connect with Lauren

    • Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
    • Website: laurencarlislebrown.com
    • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook
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    22 min
  • From Outbursts to Awareness: The Art of Conscious Reacting

    From Outbursts to Awareness: The Art of Conscious Reacting
    Dec 2 2025

    Episode 6: From Outbursts to Awareness — The Art of Conscious Reacting


    Welcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends. 💛In today’s episode, Lauren Carlisle Brown takes you deeper into the first part of the Emotional Flow Map: Reacting. While reacting often gets labeled as “bad,” Lauren helps reframe it as something completely human, extremely common, and often misunderstood.


    Emotions are energy in motion, so it makes perfect sense that reacting — slamming a door, snapping, venting, stomping your feet — becomes our default when that energy has nowhere else to go. The goal isn’t to stop reacting altogether. It’s to understand why it happens and to learn how to shift from unconscious reacting (the kind that leaks out sideways) to conscious reacting (the kind that releases emotion without harm).


    This episode explores why reacting feels so instinctive, how culture trains us into reactivity, and how to create new patterns rooted in intention, awareness, and compassion. Lauren also walks you through powerful examples of what conscious reacting actually looks like — and how repair helps rebuild trust after inevitable messy human moments.


    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why reacting is such a natural part of emotional life
    • How culture, family systems, and the nervous system shape reactive habits
    • The difference between unconscious and conscious reacting
    • What healthy emotional release actually looks like
    • Practical examples of conscious reacting you can try today
    • A simple repair process for those moments when your unconscious reaction gets the best of you
    • The “I need a minute” walk
    • Pillow punching or screaming (safely + intentionally)
    • Car singing at full volume
    • Shaking the body to release emotional charge
    • Venting to a consenting friend
    • Using movement, workouts, yoga, or dance as emotional release

    Conscious Reacting Tools You’ll Hear About

    These aren’t about suppressing your feelings. They’re about letting your body do what it’s trying to do anyway — with awareness and intention.

    A Gentle Reminder

    You will still have moments of unconscious reacting.

    We all do.

    What matters next is repair, circling back with honesty, softness, and accountability. Repair strengthens connection, builds trust, and reconnects you with yourself and the people you love.


    TIME SENSITIVE OFFER:

    🔥 Ready for a real shift? I’m offering a one-hour, highly focused private session: the Emotional Breakthrough Session.

    It’s designed to help you stop looping in the same emotional patterns, feel deeply seen, access your inner wisdom, and begin stepping into a new version of yourself.

    Let’s move from stuck to alive…one hour can make all the difference.

    SIGN UP HERE
    Take the next step in your self-care journey:

    Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

    It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

    👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE


    Connect with Lauren

    Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
    Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

    Freebie: ⁠⁠The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook⁠⁠
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    25 min