Episode 13: Emotional Granularity

Emotional Granularity: The Many Shades of Our Emotions

In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores emotional granularity, the ability to notice, distinguish, and name your emotional experiences with greater clarity, nuance, and compassion.

Most people don’t struggle because they feel too much. They struggle because they were never taught how to understand what they’re feeling. Emotional granularity offers a gentle, practical way to build that understanding, not by fixing emotions, but by expanding the language you have available to describe what’s already happening in your body.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• The difference between emotions (body sensations) and feelings (the meaning we assign to them)
  

• How emotional concepts shape the way we experience and interpret feelings
  

• Why more emotional language creates more choice, clarity, and self-trust
  

• How emotional granularity exists on a spectrum — and why wherever you are makes sense
  

• Why this work is invitational, not something you need to “get right”
  

Through accessible examples and thoughtful metaphors, Lauren invites you to see your emotional world not as something to control, but as a rich landscape to explore, one shade at a time.

Want to Go Deeper? ⁠Join The Emotions Crash Course⁠

If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course offers practical tools to help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life.

✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE

Resources Mentioned

• How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett

• Untamed by Glennon Doyle

• Feelings & Needs Reference Guide (Nonviolent Communication)

• Emotions Wheel

Take the next step in your self-care journey

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

• Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

• Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE

Episode 12: How to Trust Your Inner Nudges: Learning Your Body’s Yes and No

Welcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends.In this episode, Lauren explores how to tune out cultural noise, especially around the New Year, and reconnect with your own inner timing, rhythm, and wisdom. Instead of making decisions from pressure, trends, or “shoulds,” this conversation invites you to learn how to listen to your body and emotions as reliable guides.This episode is about developing the skill of discernment: knowing when something is a true yes, a true no, or simply a not-right-now.

✨ In this episode, you’ll explore:

• Why calendar dates and cultural trends don’t override your biology or emotional state
  
• How urgency and pressure can pull you out of alignment
  
• The difference between external influence and internal wisdom
  
• How emotions function as an inner compass
  
• What a subtle yes vs. a subtle no feels like in the body
  
• Why pausing is often the most powerful choice you can make

🧭 A Key Takeaway

You don’t need louder guidance, better discipline, or the “right” plan.You need attunement.When you slow down enough to include your body and emotions in the conversation, you stop building your life from pressure and start building it from truth.

🌿 Try This This WeekT

he next time you’re making a small, low-pressure decision, pause and ask:Does this feel like a yes in my body right now—or a no?Notice sensations like lightness, openness, or gentle buzzing versus heaviness, tightening, or closing. This is how you begin learning your body’s language.

Take the next step in your self-care journey

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
  Website: laurencarlislebrown.com
  Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

🎧 Episode 11: Co-Regulation — How Calm Calms and Stress Stresses

Welcome back to All the Feels with Lauren Carlisle Brown. 💛
If you’re listening in real time, this is the first week of January 2026, and Lauren is kicking off the new year by shifting the podcast into a powerful next chapter.

The first 10 episodes were designed to lay the foundation: the philosophy, the tools, and the how of feeling—not just why feelings matter, but how to work with them in real life.
Now we’re moving from self-focused emotional skill-building into something deeply relational: co-regulation.

Co-regulation is the (often invisible) process of one person’s nervous system influencing another’s—through breath, tone, posture, eye contact, presence, touch, and even silence. It’s why someone’s steadiness can soften your body… and someone’s stress can spike your nervous system instantly.

This episode explores both sides of that dynamic:

• Co-regulation: calm calms
• Co-dysregulation: stress stresses

And most importantly, Lauren teaches how co-regulation is not just “sweet” or “supportive”—it’s biological, deeply wired into your system, and also a skill you can practice.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why Lauren doesn’t love the term “emotional regulation” (and what she teaches instead)
• What co-regulation is and how it works beneath the surface
• The difference between co-regulation and co-dysregulation
• How your nervous system constantly asks: “Am I safe here?”
• The cues your body reads—breath, tone, posture, proximity, eye contact, touch, silence
• Why calm people can help you soften (and why dysregulated people can tighten your whole system)
• How trauma and unpredictable environments can lead to hypervigilance
• How to begin noticing who helps your system soften vs. who you brace around
• How to become a co-regulating presence without absorbing someone else’s overwhelm

🧠 Co-Regulation, Explained Simply

Co-regulation is what happens when one nervous system helps another nervous system settle.It’s the “exhale” you feel around someone steady.

It’s the way your child calms when you stay grounded.It’s why a hug, a handhold, or a quiet presence can undo you in the best way.It’s also why tension spreads fast—because your body is always reading the room and adjusting.

🌿 Reflection Practice for the Week:

As you move through this week, notice:

• Who helps your breath slow down?
• Who helps your shoulders drop?
• Who do you feel safe enough to “melt” around?
• Who do you chronically brace around?
• When are you the grounding presence in the room?

This isn’t about judgment. It’s about honoring your body’s wisdom.

Take the next step in your self-care journey:

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
  

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

  • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook