#8 The Jealousy You Created (And How To Fix It)

You spend an hour coaching Maria through a difficult project. The next day, Daniel won't make eye contact. He's distant in meetings. Cold in emails. When you ask what's wrong, he says "nothing" - but you know exactly what's wrong.

Your team members are competing for your attention because you made your attention valuable. And now they're freezing you out when someone else gets it.

In this episode, we talk about the dynamic most managers create without realizing it and how to fix it:

• Why treating everyone "equally" is impossible and why that advice fails
• How managers accidentally make their time and attention feel like a prize
• The exact script to name the pattern without forcing someone to admit they're jealous
• What your team actually needs when they shut down (it's clarity, not an apology)
• How to make your attention predictable and professional instead of special
• The boundary-setting conversation that validates feelings while requiring professional behavior
• Why you have to change first before expecting your team to stop competing

This isn't about managing difficult personalities or handling immaturity. It's about recognizing that you taught your team to measure their worth by your attention, and now you need to guide them out of that pattern with actual leadership instead of just telling them to "be professional."

#Leadership #Management #TeamDynamics #PeopleManagement #LeadershipDevelopment #ManagerTips #WorkplaceLeadership #LeadershipPodcast

"#7 Master Your January"

You're back at your desk. There are 800+ emails waiting. Your boss wants Q1 plans. Your team looks present but feels distant. And you're already wondering why you're not hitting the ground running like you thought you would.

Here's the truth: January isn't a sprint month. It's a setup month. And the managers who treat it like any other month are the ones scrambling by March.

In this episode, we talk about the three-week strategy that builds real momentum instead of fake productivity:

• Week 1: Get your baseline clear - why asking questions matters more than announcing plans
• Week 2: Talk to your people, really talk - how to understand actual capacity instead of wishful capacity
• Week 3: Plan based on what's real - setting goals your team actually believes in
• The conversation with your boss that changes everything (and why realistic plans make you look stronger, not weaker)
• Why foundation beats proof every single time
• How to build momentum that lasts through Q1 instead of burning out by February

This isn't about lowering your standards. It's about using January the way it actually works so you deliver results in March while other managers are still explaining why they're behind.

Thirty minutes this week to rethink your approach could make your entire quarter.

#Leadership #Management #January #LeadershipDevelopment #ManagerTips #TeamManagement #Q1Planning #LeadershipPodcast #NewYear #WorkStrategy

"#6 This Week Is Weird. You're Allowed to Feel Weird About It"

It's December 29th. You're sitting at your desk. Your team chat is silent. Nobody's answering emails. You feel guilty for not working hard enough, but also guilty for not properly resting because you're technically still working.

That's not work. That's not rest. That's just existing in limbo and feeling bad about it.

In this episode, we talk about why this week is actually perfect for something valuable and how to use it:

• Why your brain is in reflection mode this week and fighting it is pointless
• The five questions to ask yourself that will change how you lead next year
• What drained you most as a manager and how to protect yourself from it
• The conversations you avoided that you need to have in January
• The three promises every leader should make for the new year: hard conversations within 48 hours, protect your energy like it's gold, change your mind out loud
• Why elaborate goal-setting fails and what actually creates clarity

This isn't about New Year's resolutions you'll abandon by February. It's about using thirty minutes this week to get real clarity that will guide you better than any corporate planning framework ever could.

Hashtags: #Leadership #Management #NewYear #Reflection #LeadershipDevelopment #ManagerTips #WorkLifeBalance #LeadershipPodcast

Congratulations, You're on Vacation. Now Stop Working.

It's December. You're planning time off. But you're already thinking about which emails you'll check, how often you'll stay available "just in case," and how to make sure nothing falls apart while you're gone.

That's not a vacation. That's just working from a different location.

In this episode, we talk about why managers are terrible at disconnecting and how to actually rest:

• Why changing your mind when context shifts is good leadership, not weakness
• The three things stopping you from disconnecting (guilt, fear, and identity crisis)
• How to set boundaries without asking for permission
• Why turning off notifications isn't optional – it's essential
• What to do if you're a GM or senior leader who genuinely can't fully disconnect
• Your holiday homework: read fiction, do nothing for 20 minutes, notice your work anxiety

This isn't about being lazy. It's about coming back in January actually rested instead of just marginally less exhausted.

#Leadership #Management #Burnout #WorkLifeBalance #MentalHealth #LeadershipPodcast #Holidays #RestAndRecovery

"Managing the December Chaos When Half Your Team is Gone"

It's December. Half your team has vacation emojis next to their names. The other half is sick or working from their parents' house with terrible wifi. The work hasn't stopped. And you're supposed to keep everything running smoothly.

In this episode, we skip the theoretical advice and talk about what actually works:

• Why something will drop and you need to choose what
• Building a skeleton team that works when people are gone
• The simple one-page plan that prevents disasters
• Training your team to decide without you (before you burn out)
• Why protecting your energy isn't selfish – it's survival

This isn't about perfect planning. December doesn't care about your plans. This is about choosing what matters when you have limited control and limited time.

#Leadership #Management #December #TeamManagement #WorkLifeBalance #LeadershipPodcast

"Delegation Matrix & The Conversation Nobody Wants To Have"

Friday, 6 PM. The report you delegated isn't done. So you go home and finish it yourself at 10 PM. Because you can't let it fail.

Your team member learns: "My boss will save me." You learn: "I can't trust them."

Everyone talks about delegation frameworks. But the framework isn't your problem. Your problem is the rescue cycle—and the conversation you're avoiding when someone doesn't deliver.

In this episode: the delegation matrix that works, plus the exact conversation to have the first time it happens, so it doesn't become a pattern.

What you'll learn:

• Why the delegation matrix isn't solving your problem
• What to say immediately when someone misses a deadline
• How to stop rescuing without letting work fail
• The Wednesday warning rule
• When to remove autonomy and rebuild trust

This is What No One Tells You - honest conversations about managing people.

"Giving feedback that lands"

You prepared the feedback carefully. You delivered it professionally. And then... nothing changed.

Here's what no one tells you: feedback fails not because you're doing it wrong, but because you're doing it at the wrong time, in the wrong way, and for the wrong reasons.

Most leaders give feedback during formal reviews or after something goes wrong. By then, it's too late. The best feedback? It doesn't even feel like feedback—it feels like partnership.

In this episode, I'm giving you 12 immediately actionable strategies that will transform how your team responds to feedback starting tomorrow.

What you'll learn:

• The 60-second window for praise (and why waiting kills impact)
• The exact words that invite conversation instead of triggering defense
• How to handle tears, defensiveness, and the moments that make leaders sweat
• The Friday ritual that creates a culture of excellence
• Why "but" erases praise and what to say instead

These aren't tips. These are tools. The difference between where you are now and where you want to be is simply using them.

This is What No One Tells You - honest conversations about leadership for managers who want real results.

"Your Team Is Lying To You In Every Meeting"

In yesterday's meeting, someone said "That sounds great, I'm happy to take that on." What they were actually thinking: "This is a terrible idea and I'm already drowning."

Your team isn't being honest with you. Not because they're bad people, but because you've accidentally created an environment where agreement is safe and honesty feels risky.

In this episode, I'll show you the five signs your team is performing agreement instead of telling you the truth—and the research-backed actions you can take this week to change it.

What you'll learn:

• The five signs your team is lying to you
• Five specific actions to create psychological safety
• Why "Any questions?" never works (and what to ask instead)

This is What No One Tells You - honest conversations about leadership for managers who want the truth.