Most relationships don’t fail because you chose the wrong person.
They fail because you chose without clarity.

If you don’t know what your values are, you don’t really know what you’re saying yes to. And that’s when people start negotiating their needs, tolerating incompatibility, and calling it love.

In this episode of The Art of Beautiful Thinking Podcast, we have a very honest conversation about why relationship patterns repeat — and how understanding your values changes everything.

We explore:

• why chemistry isn’t the same as alignment

• how values shape attraction, commitment, and long-term compatibility

• why many people enter relationships out of loneliness, obligation, or expectation

• the importance of self-honesty before choosing a partner

• and how clarity with yourself leads to healthier relationships with others

This episode isn’t about blaming yourself or anyone else.
It’s about slowing down, getting honest, and learning how to choose in a way that actually supports the life you want to live.

If you want to go deeper into this work, the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is designed to help you clarify your values, understand your patterns, and build a stronger relationship with yourself — which changes every other relationship in your life.

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Take what resonates.
Reflect honestly.
And as always — think beautifully and live brilliantly.

• (00:00:00) - Intro
• (00:00:42) - Understanding Relationship Failures
• (00:03:04) - The Importance of Values in Relationships
• (00:05:43) - Identifying Personal Values
• (00:08:42) - The Role of Chemistry and Compatibility
• (00:11:42) - Navigating Relationship Dynamics
• (00:14:40) - Finding the Right Partner
• (00:16:59) - Aligning Values with Relationship Goals
• (00:20:03) - The Impact of Values on Life Choices
• (00:24:12) - Understanding Values in Relationships
• (00:27:34) - The Chemistry of Attraction
• (00:28:36) - The Importance of Deep Conversations
• (00:30:37) - Recognizing When to Leave a Relationship
• (00:31:59) - The Power of Self-Discovery
• (00:36:10) - Expressing Yourself in Relationships
• (00:41:48) - The Journey of Self-Discovery
• (00:45:41) - Implementing Values in Daily Life

When you start changing, relationships shift. Some deepen. Some naturally fade. And if you’re not prepared for it, it can feel confusing, lonely, or even like you’re doing something wrong.

In Episode 3 of the Integration Series — Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing, we unpack how to move through this season with self-respect and emotional maturity: clearer boundaries, less people-pleasing, and more honesty about what you’re no longer available for.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• Personal growth can lead to changes in relationships.
• Setting boundaries is crucial during personal transformation.
• True friends will support your growth and changes.
• It's important to recognize when relationships have served their purpose.
• Compassion for oneself and others is key during growth.
• Healthy relationships challenge you without tearing you down.
• Self-love is the foundation for all other relationships.
• The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and essential.
• Creating a supportive community enhances personal growth.
• Letting go of unhealthy relationships is a natural part of growth.

If you’re ready to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself (so your relationships stop running your life), the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook will guide you step-by-step back into alignment.

Grab the workbook here: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298 Stay connected

Listen / watch the Integration Series: Part 1 – When You’re Doing All the Inner Work and Nothing Seems to Be Changing Part 2 – How to Rebuild Self-Trust When You’ve Broken Promises to Yourself (future episode) Part 3 – Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing (future episode)

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• (00:00:00) - Navigating Change in Relationships
• (00:03:03) - The Impact of Personal Growth on Friendships
• (00:06:12) - Identifying Surface-Level Relationships
• (00:08:44) - The Role of Family in Personal Growth
• (00:11:50) - Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships
• (00:14:40) - Self-Love and Personal Growth
• (00:17:48) - Finding Supportive Relationships
• (00:20:45) - The Importance of Boundaries
• (00:23:40) - Embracing Change and New Connections
• (00:25:32) - Supportive Relationships and Personal Growth
• (00:27:56) - Identifying Healthy Challenges vs. Negative Influences
• (00:31:23) - The Importance of Clarity in Relationships
• (00:34:11) - Navigating Personal Growth with Partners and Friends
• (00:39:10) - Compassion Through Personal Growth
• (00:42:15) - Understanding Your Authentic Blueprint
• (00:45:57) - The Journey of Self-Discovery and Change

If you’ve broken promises to yourself, you’re not “undisciplined.” You’re dealing with something deeper: self-trust.

In Part 2 of The Integration Series, we unpack why self-trust breaks (and the patterns that keep reinforcing it), then walk through how to rebuild it in a way that actually holds up in real life—when you’re tired, busy, triggered, or stretched thin.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• Why self-trust erodes (and how self-abandonment shows up)

• How shame keeps you stuck, and what accountability really looks like

• Why consistency beats intensity every time

• Practical ways to start rebuilding self-trust immediately (without setting yourself up to fail)

Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint If you want a structured way to rebuild self-trust (not just insight), the workbook gives you a clear framework to reconnect with yourself, reset your standards, and follow through.

The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is designed to help you rebuild self-trust by giving you a clear, structured way to:

• Reconnect with who you are at the core (so you’re not making promises from pressure or people-pleasing)

• Get radically honest about what you truly want (and what you’re no longer available for)

• Identify where you’re out of alignment—and where you’ve been abandoning yourself

• Map out realistic, aligned next steps you can actually follow through on

• Build new patterns and beliefs that support consistency, not self-sabotage

Grab the workbook here: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

Stay connected

Listen / watch the Integration Series:

Part 1 – When You’re Doing All the Inner Work and Nothing Seems to Be Changing

Part 2 – How to Rebuild Self-Trust When You’ve Broken Promises to Yourself (future episode)

Part 3 – Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing (future episode)

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• (00:00:00) - Understanding Self-Abandonment
• (00:02:33) - The Roots of Self-Abandonment
• (00:05:20) - The Impact of Negative Self-Talk
• (00:08:21) - Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
• (00:10:23) - Navigating Guilt and Relationships
• (00:13:18) - Empathy and Personal Growth
• (00:16:04) - Recognizing Physical Signs of Self-Abandonment
• (00:19:10) - Reflection and Rebuilding Self-Trust
• (00:19:39) - Overcoming Self-Doubt and Building Confidence
• (00:21:26) - The Power of Education and Self-Investment
• (00:23:41) - Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
• (00:27:48) - Teaching Independence and Boundaries to Others
• (00:29:26) - The Dangers of Self-Abandonment

You’re journaling, meditating, saying the affirmations, listening to all the podcasts… but your life still looks and feels pretty much the same.

In this first episode of The Integration Series, we get honest about that frustrating place where you’re “doing the work” and not seeing the results you expected – and what might really be going on underneath.

We explore:

• Why you can’t rewire decades of conditioning in 30 days

• How change often happens internally (beliefs, nervous system, self-image) before it shows up in your external reality

• The real cycle of change – wobbling, “falling off”, doubting yourself, and then coming back again

• Why rest, integration days (and even “rest months”) are part of the work, not proof you’re lazy

• The tiny “2mm shift” from being in the drama to becoming the observer

• Why radical self-honesty about your goals, lifestyle and relationships is the true starting point

• Returning to who you were before the heavy programming – and living from that place now, with wisdom and boundaries

This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought:

“Maybe this inner work just doesn’t work for me.”

Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint
If you’re ready to move from consuming more content to actually integrating it, the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook gives you a practical framework to reconnect with who you are, clarify what you truly want and design aligned next steps in your real life.

https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

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• (00:00:00) - The Struggle of Inner Work
• (00:00:24) - Welcome
• (00:02:33) - The Importance of Action in Personal Growth
• (00:05:30) - The Role of Trust and Patience
• (00:08:30) - Building a Routine for Success
• (00:11:26) - Navigating Stressful Environments
• (00:13:35) - The Power of Perspective and Breaks
• (00:16:04) - The Impact of Personal Growth on Relationships
• (00:18:47) - Measuring Progress in Personal Development
• (00:23:37) - Unexpected Opportunities in Career Development
• (00:25:24) - The Journey of Personal Growth and Coaching
• (00:26:43) - Abundance Mindset and Its Surprises
• (00:27:23) - Clarity in Manifestation and Goal Setting
• (00:29:30) - Navigating Life Changes and Hormonal Shifts
• (00:30:29) - Aligning Mind, Body, and Spirit
• (00:31:57) - Trusting Interactions and the Power of Forgiveness
• (00:33:44) - Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self
• (00:35:01) - Living with Possibility and Adaptability
• (00:37:14) - Self-Honesty and Authenticity in Personal Growth
• (00:39:32) - Understanding Your Core Values and Purpose

What do you do when life has worn down your “spidey senses” and you’re not sure you can trust yourself anymore?

This listener-requested episode (from our beautiful community member Suz) dives into how to rebuild self-trust and reconnect with your intuition after seasons of self-doubt, burnout, or just too many hard things. Suz asked us how to trust and act on her inner cues again – and this conversation is our answer.

We talk about why overthinking explodes when you don’t trust yourself, how your body is often the first to signal what’s really going on, and practical ways to move from anxious spirals back into grounded inner guidance.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why a lack of self-trust turns every decision into confusion and second-guessing

• How your body (tight chest, shaky legs, gut feelings, headaches) often tells the truth before your mind does

• The difference between intuition, ego and fear – and why your first instinct is usually right

• Using questions like “What would love do right now?” to shift out of reactivity and into aligned action (without becoming a doormat)

• Becoming your own best friend instead of your harshest critic – and how that impacts your ability to hear your inner guidance

• Why you give great advice to others and then ignore your own wisdom (and how to start taking your own advice)

• Letting go of old “programming” – the beliefs with tentacles in your nervous system – and replacing them with new experiences that build confidence and self-trust

• Simple practices to reconnect with yourself: breathwork, mirror work, becoming the observer, and self-realisation in everyday life

This is Part 3 of The Authentic Life Activation Series – a 3-part journey back to your true self, and it’s all about getting out of your head, rebuilding self-trust and learning to listen to that deep inner “knowing” again.

Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook

If this conversation lands and you’re ready to do the inner work, The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook will guide you to:

• Get honest about what you truly want

• Untangle the fears, stories and patterns that keep you stuck

• Rebuild self-trust through small, doable actions

• Map out your next aligned steps – even when the future feels uncertain

Get the workbook here:
https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

Listen to the full mini-series:

• Part 1 – Authentic Life Activation Series

• Part 2 – Authentic Life Activation Series

• Part 3 – How to Stop Overthinking & Trust Your Intuition Again (this episode)

If you’re 40+ and tired of living in your head, this series is your invitation to come back home to yourself.

• (00:00:00) - Intro
• (00:00:37) - Understanding Self-Trust
• (00:03:19) - The Role of Intuition
• (00:05:44) - Body Awareness and Energy
• (00:07:20) - Navigating Difficult Situations
• (00:10:02) - The Importance of Reflection
• (00:12:29) - Self-Realization and Inner Work
• (00:15:22) - Responding with Love
• (00:17:15) - Building a Supportive Environment
• (00:21:31) - Reframing Self-Talk and Positive Mindset
• (00:23:03) - Reflecting on Daily Interactions
• (00:24:47) - Building Self-Trust Through Reflection
• (00:26:00) - Aligning Mind and Body
• (00:28:04) - The Power of Self-Love
• (00:29:27) - Connecting with Intuition
• (00:32:01) - Techniques for Self-Trust
• (00:34:20) - The Role of Coaching in Personal Growth
• (00:38:35) - Commitment to Personal Growth

Stepping into something new can feel exciting and terrifying at the same time – especially when you can’t see every step ahead.

In this episode, we dive into overcoming fear of the unknown: that mix of anxiety, control, self-doubt and “what if it all goes wrong?” that can keep you stuck exactly where you are.

We explore:
• How fear of the unknown shows up in everyday life (and quietly runs the show)
• “False Evidence Appearing Real” – why so much of our fear is a story, not the truth
• Shifting from worst-case to best-case thinking and feeling
• Trusting yourself to handle what comes, even when you do not have all the answers
• Remembering times you did not let fear win – and bringing that version of you into the present

If you are standing on the edge of a big change, or feel like you keep talking yourself out of the life you actually want, this conversation will support you to take aligned steps forward with more courage and self-trust.

The Authentic Life Activation Series (3-part mini-series)
This episode is Part 2 of our Authentic Life Activation Series:
• Part 1: Reconnecting with who you truly are
• Part 2: Overcoming fear of the unknown (this episode)
• Part 3: Getting out of your head and following your intuition

Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook
If this episode is landing and you are ready to work through this in your own life, the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is for you. It is a guided process to help you:

• Get honest about what you truly want
• Untangle the fears and stories that keep you stuck
• Map out your next aligned steps (even when the future feels uncertain)
• Reconnect with your authentic self and design a life that actually feels like yours

Get your copy of The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook:
https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

Book mentioned in this episode
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers

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• (00:00:00) - Intro
• (00:00:24) - Facing Fear and Embracing the Unknown
• (00:06:13) - Taking Action Against Fear
• (00:09:05) - Breaking Down Fears and Their Origins
• (00:12:01) - Common Fears and Their Impact
• (00:14:44) - Manipulation Through Fear in Society
• (00:17:35) - Learning from Mistakes and Embracing Growth
• (00:23:14) - Embracing Fear and the Unknown
• (00:26:57) - Calculated Risks and Personal Growth
• (00:28:37) - Trusting Yourself and Overcoming Doubts
• (00:29:53) - The Importance of Ignorance in Success
• (00:30:58) - Conquering Fears for Personal Growth
• (00:32:20) - The Ripple Effect of Taking Action
• (00:33:48) - Finding Fulfillment Beyond Comfort Zones
• (00:35:42) - The Role of Support Systems
• (00:37:15) - Resolving to Move Forward Despite Fear
• (00:39:01) - Advocacy and the Power of Support
• (00:40:23) - Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences
• (00:42:14) - Stepping into the Unknown with Confidence
• (00:44:49) - The Cosmic Timing of Opportunities
• (00:46:38) - Tools for Overcoming Fear and Making Decisions

You are not here to live life on autopilot.
You are the co-creator of your reality.

In this first episode of our 3-part Authentic Life Activation Series, Cat and Yvette unpack what it really means to consciously create your life – not from pressure or perfectionism, but from small, intentional choices that honour who you truly are.

In this conversation, we explore:

• The difference between “knowing the concepts” and actually using them in your day-to-day life
• How your current programming (beliefs, patterns, self-talk) is shaping your reality – and how to change it
• Designing your day so you set yourself up the night before instead of self-sabotaging in the moment
• The power of tiny actions, healthy routines and “sharpening your axe” through rest, reflection and self-care
• The universal law of cause and effect – and why your thoughts are the cause behind your current results
• Visualising and feeling into your future self so you can bring that version of you into the present

If you’ve been feeling stuck, off-track or like you’re living someone else’s version of success, this episode is your invitation to come back to yourself and remember that you always have a choice.

This is Part 1 of 3 in our Authentic Life Activation Series:
1️⃣ You Are the Co-Creator of Your Life
2️⃣ Good Ole Fear & Stepping Into the Unknown
3️⃣ Getting Out of Your Head & Following Your Intuition

✨ Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint
If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start intentionally co-creating your life, our Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is for you. It will help you:

• Reconnect with who you really are
• Identify the beliefs and patterns that are holding you back
• Map out your future self and bring that energy into your daily life
• Design aligned routines, habits and actions that support the life you actually want

Explore The Authentic Life Blueprint here:
https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

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Come hang out with us in The Art of Beautiful Thinking Podcast Community on Facebook – a space for like-minded humans who are ready to break old patterns, think beautifully and live brilliantly:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/aobtpodcast

• (00:00:00) - Co-Creating Your Life
• (00:02:48) - Understanding the Algorithm of Life
• (00:04:51) - Setting Intentions and Daily Routines
• (00:08:36) - Changing Habits and Mindsets
• (00:12:09) - The Importance of Self-Care
• (00:15:39) - Breaking Cycles of Programming
• (00:19:48) - The Law of Cause and Effect
• (00:24:03) - Self-Reflection and Responsibility
• (00:28:38) - Time as a Construct
• (00:29:45) - Reflecting and Tweaking for Improvement
• (00:32:15) - Creating Daily Habits That Serve You
• (00:35:16) - Finding Your Personal Growth Routine
• (00:37:58) - Integrating Purpose with Business
• (00:39:55) - Listening to Your Inner Voice
• (00:41:20) - Embracing Change and Letting Go
• (00:44:02) - Building a Strong Relationship with Yourself
• (00:45:42) - Manifesting Your Future Self
• (00:49:56) - The Power of Flow and Action
• (00:53:52) - Co-Creating Your Desired Change

Are you waiting for success to happen to you, or are you stepping into it?

The fear of the unknown—leaving a job that doesn't serve you, or pursuing a dream like a full-time artist—can keep you stuck in a miserable comfort zone.

In this powerful episode, Yvette and Cat share a real-life success story of a friend who was on the verge of quitting until she made one crucial mindset shift: moving from wanting success to expecting it.

You'll learn:
Why you need to let your purpose be the driver, not your fear and self-doubt.
How to stop your current reality from dictating what you can or cannot do.
The difference between 'I want' and 'I am' and how it impacts your results.
Why failure is just a First Attempt In Learning and not a final stop.

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• (00:00:00) - Stepping Through Fear and Embracing the Unknown
• (00:03:20) - The Journey of an Artist: Overcoming Doubts
• (00:06:11) - Mindset Shifts: The Power of Belief and Expectation
• (00:09:12) - Finding Options: The Importance of Perspective
• (00:12:10) - Breaking Free from Corporate Constraints
• (00:15:11) - The Energy of Change: Letting Go of Control
• (00:18:07) - Embracing Failure: Learning from Setbacks
• (00:21:04) - Navigating Change: The Comfort of the Known vs. the Unknown
• (00:24:09) - The Learning Journey: Every Path Has Value
• (00:28:56) - Cognitive Distortions and All-or-Nothing Thinking
• (00:30:28) - Cultural Perspectives on Failure and Success
• (00:32:33) - The Importance of Taking a Step Back
• (00:34:32) - Embracing the Learning Process
• (00:36:33) - Overcoming Fear and External Validation
• (00:38:26) - Recognizing the Pain of Stagnation
• (00:41:19) - Challenging Limiting Beliefs
• (00:43:26) - The Power of Self-Belief
• (00:45:25) - Visualizing Your Future
• (00:48:24) - Living with Purpose and Avoiding Regrets