Most relationships don’t fail because you chose the wrong person.
They fail because you chose without clarity.

If you don’t know what your values are, you don’t really know what you’re saying yes to. And that’s when people start negotiating their needs, tolerating incompatibility, and calling it love.

In this episode of The Art of Beautiful Thinking Podcast, we have a very honest conversation about why relationship patterns repeat — and how understanding your values changes everything.

We explore:

• why chemistry isn’t the same as alignment

• how values shape attraction, commitment, and long-term compatibility

• why many people enter relationships out of loneliness, obligation, or expectation

• the importance of self-honesty before choosing a partner

• and how clarity with yourself leads to healthier relationships with others

This episode isn’t about blaming yourself or anyone else.
It’s about slowing down, getting honest, and learning how to choose in a way that actually supports the life you want to live.

If you want to go deeper into this work, the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is designed to help you clarify your values, understand your patterns, and build a stronger relationship with yourself — which changes every other relationship in your life.

Workbook link: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

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Take what resonates.
Reflect honestly.
And as always — think beautifully and live brilliantly.

• (00:00:00) - Intro
• (00:00:42) - Understanding Relationship Failures
• (00:03:04) - The Importance of Values in Relationships
• (00:05:43) - Identifying Personal Values
• (00:08:42) - The Role of Chemistry and Compatibility
• (00:11:42) - Navigating Relationship Dynamics
• (00:14:40) - Finding the Right Partner
• (00:16:59) - Aligning Values with Relationship Goals
• (00:20:03) - The Impact of Values on Life Choices
• (00:24:12) - Understanding Values in Relationships
• (00:27:34) - The Chemistry of Attraction
• (00:28:36) - The Importance of Deep Conversations
• (00:30:37) - Recognizing When to Leave a Relationship
• (00:31:59) - The Power of Self-Discovery
• (00:36:10) - Expressing Yourself in Relationships
• (00:41:48) - The Journey of Self-Discovery
• (00:45:41) - Implementing Values in Daily Life

When you start changing, relationships shift. Some deepen. Some naturally fade. And if you’re not prepared for it, it can feel confusing, lonely, or even like you’re doing something wrong.

In Episode 3 of the Integration Series — Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing, we unpack how to move through this season with self-respect and emotional maturity: clearer boundaries, less people-pleasing, and more honesty about what you’re no longer available for.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• Personal growth can lead to changes in relationships.
• Setting boundaries is crucial during personal transformation.
• True friends will support your growth and changes.
• It's important to recognize when relationships have served their purpose.
• Compassion for oneself and others is key during growth.
• Healthy relationships challenge you without tearing you down.
• Self-love is the foundation for all other relationships.
• The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and essential.
• Creating a supportive community enhances personal growth.
• Letting go of unhealthy relationships is a natural part of growth.

If you’re ready to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself (so your relationships stop running your life), the Authentic Life Blueprint workbook will guide you step-by-step back into alignment.

Grab the workbook here: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298 Stay connected

Listen / watch the Integration Series: Part 1 – When You’re Doing All the Inner Work and Nothing Seems to Be Changing Part 2 – How to Rebuild Self-Trust When You’ve Broken Promises to Yourself (future episode) Part 3 – Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing (future episode)

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• (00:00:00) - Navigating Change in Relationships
• (00:03:03) - The Impact of Personal Growth on Friendships
• (00:06:12) - Identifying Surface-Level Relationships
• (00:08:44) - The Role of Family in Personal Growth
• (00:11:50) - Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships
• (00:14:40) - Self-Love and Personal Growth
• (00:17:48) - Finding Supportive Relationships
• (00:20:45) - The Importance of Boundaries
• (00:23:40) - Embracing Change and New Connections
• (00:25:32) - Supportive Relationships and Personal Growth
• (00:27:56) - Identifying Healthy Challenges vs. Negative Influences
• (00:31:23) - The Importance of Clarity in Relationships
• (00:34:11) - Navigating Personal Growth with Partners and Friends
• (00:39:10) - Compassion Through Personal Growth
• (00:42:15) - Understanding Your Authentic Blueprint
• (00:45:57) - The Journey of Self-Discovery and Change

If you’ve broken promises to yourself, you’re not “undisciplined.” You’re dealing with something deeper: self-trust.

In Part 2 of The Integration Series, we unpack why self-trust breaks (and the patterns that keep reinforcing it), then walk through how to rebuild it in a way that actually holds up in real life—when you’re tired, busy, triggered, or stretched thin.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• Why self-trust erodes (and how self-abandonment shows up)

• How shame keeps you stuck, and what accountability really looks like

• Why consistency beats intensity every time

• Practical ways to start rebuilding self-trust immediately (without setting yourself up to fail)

Go deeper with The Authentic Life Blueprint If you want a structured way to rebuild self-trust (not just insight), the workbook gives you a clear framework to reconnect with yourself, reset your standards, and follow through.

The Authentic Life Blueprint workbook is designed to help you rebuild self-trust by giving you a clear, structured way to:

• Reconnect with who you are at the core (so you’re not making promises from pressure or people-pleasing)

• Get radically honest about what you truly want (and what you’re no longer available for)

• Identify where you’re out of alignment—and where you’ve been abandoning yourself

• Map out realistic, aligned next steps you can actually follow through on

• Build new patterns and beliefs that support consistency, not self-sabotage

Grab the workbook here: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/alb_workbook_lp-684298

Stay connected

Listen / watch the Integration Series:

Part 1 – When You’re Doing All the Inner Work and Nothing Seems to Be Changing

Part 2 – How to Rebuild Self-Trust When You’ve Broken Promises to Yourself (future episode)

Part 3 – Navigating Relationships While You’re Changing (future episode)

Join our Facebook community – The Art of Beautiful Thinking A space for like-minded humans doing this work together and creating a slow, steady ripple effect. https://www.facebook.com/groups/aobtpodcast

✅ Subscribe for weekly episodes on inner work, intuition, purpose and living an authentic life.

Free Tools & Resources: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/freeresources

Contact Yvette & Cat: https://theartofbeautifulthinking.com.au/inquiry

• (00:00:00) - Understanding Self-Abandonment
• (00:02:33) - The Roots of Self-Abandonment
• (00:05:20) - The Impact of Negative Self-Talk
• (00:08:21) - Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
• (00:10:23) - Navigating Guilt and Relationships
• (00:13:18) - Empathy and Personal Growth
• (00:16:04) - Recognizing Physical Signs of Self-Abandonment
• (00:19:10) - Reflection and Rebuilding Self-Trust
• (00:19:39) - Overcoming Self-Doubt and Building Confidence
• (00:21:26) - The Power of Education and Self-Investment
• (00:23:41) - Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
• (00:27:48) - Teaching Independence and Boundaries to Others
• (00:29:26) - The Dangers of Self-Abandonment