In this episode, Rob explores The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle, a book recommended by one of his coaching clients, and why its core ideas resonated so deeply with his work. He breaks down the science of myelin and how intentional, mistake-driven practice builds lasting skills and habits. Rob draws parallels between deep practice, the holistic pool work done through Neptune Warrior, and the way real change happens in coaching—especially for clients with ADHD. The episode connects neuroscience, coaching, and lived experience to show how small, consistent actions create meaningful, lasting growth.

I would love to walk beside you on this journey. Reach out to www.StandSureCoaching.com and book your free discovery call.

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We either make ourselves happy or miserable—the amount of work is the same. This episode explores how that truth plays out in marriage, especially for men choosing to be intentional husbands, and how wives can support that growth through encouragement, softness, and partnership.

What This Episode Covers

• Why avoiding emotional effort in marriage is not rest, but hidden stress
• How neuroscience explains the difference between purposeful effort and avoidance
• The biological and psychological cost of micro-avoidance in relationships
• Why alignment between values and actions creates peace at home
• How men wire identity through consistent leadership and presence
• The role wives play in supporting growth through warmth, encouragement, and belief
• How softness and nurturing create safety that accelerates growth
• Why encouragement fuels consistency more effectively than criticism

Key Insights

• Marriage requires work either way; intentional effort builds connection, avoidance builds stress
• Purposeful effort produces adaptive stress and bonding chemicals; avoidance fuels rumination and shutdown
• Men respond neurologically to respect, affirmation, and trust during growth
• Softness is not weakness—it is nervous-system regulation
• Encouragement reinforces positive behavior and builds confidence during change

Three Science-Backed Tips for Husbands

1. Initiate before resentment builds to reduce emotional load and stress
2. Treat emotional presence as a skill that can be practiced and strengthened
3. Act from identity rather than mood by choosing the next right step

Supportive Practices for Wives

• Lead with warmth, calm tone, and emotional steadiness
• Acknowledge effort, even when execution isn’t perfect
• Offer genuine compliments to reinforce growth and confidence
• Create space for progress without constant correction
• Use softness and nurturing to build safety and connection

Core Message

The work doesn’t go away in marriage. It simply changes shape. When husbands lead with intention and wives respond with encouragement and warmth, the same effort produces trust, peace, and connection instead of distance and regret.

I would love to walk beside you on this journey. Reach out to www.StandSureCoaching.com and book your free discovery call.

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In this episode, I dive into Emergenetics—where it came from, the science behind it, and how I use it as a coaching tool to help people understand how they think and how they show up under pressure. Emergenetics isn’t a personality test. It’s a framework for awareness, choice, and alignment.

I share how I’ve used Emergenetics in the past through Neptune Warrior with veterans in scuba diving environments, where stress, breath control, and sensory change naturally reveal thinking and behavioral preferences. Instead of trying to “fix” reactions, we coached to wiring—adjusting pacing, instruction, and connection to restore safety, confidence, and agency.

In this episode, I cover:

• How Emergenetics originated and the concept of “emergence”
• The science behind thinking and behavioral attributes
• Why separating preference from capability matters
• What happens to the brain and nervous system under stress
• How Emergenetics shows up clearly in scuba diving and real life
• How I apply Emergenetics in one-on-one and leadership coaching
• Why I’m getting recertified and what that unlocks going forward

At its core, Emergenetics helps people stop fighting themselves and start leading from how they’re actually wired.

Learn more about my coaching work:

Stand Sure Coaching

https://www.standsurecoaching.com

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This episode we are talking how the brain can hijack your emotions and spiral out of control and play videos in your head that are quite powerful

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Job searching feels harder than it should — and for many people, it is.

Hiring has become automated. Resumes are scanned before they’re read. AI is now used on both sides of the hiring process. And while tools can help, many job seekers feel overwhelmed, discouraged, or disconnected from their own voice.

In this episode, Rob Anderson breaks down how to use AI without losing your confidence, values, or identity — and why tools alone are never enough. You’ll learn where AI fits, where it falls short, and how coaching creates clarity, direction, and sustainable momentum.

This episode is for job seekers, career changers, and high performers who want to move forward with intention — not desperation.

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Did 2025 kick your ass?

This episode is for the year that came in heavy, relentless, and unapologetic. The kind of year that didn’t care how prepared you were, how tired you felt, or how much you were already carrying. It applied pressure—on your mind, your nervous system, your identity, your patience, and your hope.

We talk about what real resilience looks like when motivation disappears and quitting feels reasonable. Not hype. Not toxic positivity. But the quiet, brutal decision to stay in the fight when no one’s watching.

Inside this episode:

• Why resilience isn’t about bouncing back—it’s about not leaving
• How pressure exposes identity and forges strength
• What happens to your nervous system under prolonged stress
• Why staying counts, even when progress feels invisible
• Reframing 2025 as a training ground, not a failure

If you’re still standing after a year that tried to take you out, this episode is for you.

Not because it was pretty—but because you stayed.

I would love to walk beside you on this journey. Reach out to www.StandSureCoaching.com and book your free discovery call.

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In this episode, we break down what coaching is for kids—and what it is not. You’ll learn how coaching differs from therapy, when it makes sense as a standalone support, and how it can work alongside counseling. We explore the science behind coaching-related skills like self-regulation, resilience, and goal-setting, and why a non-judgmental, low-pressure space can help kids thrive instead of just survive.

What You’ll Learn:

• The key differences between coaching and therapy
• Why coaching is future-focused and skill-based
• How coaching supports kids who don’t need clinical treatment
• When coaching complements counseling instead of replacing it
• Why a safe, non-judgmental space reduces resistance and pressure
• How weekly coaching builds confidence, clarity, and follow-through
• What research says about self-regulation, resilience, and youth development

Research & Evidence Discussed:

• Self-regulation interventions linked to improved academic, behavioral, and health outcomes
• Resilience-building programs improving youth mental health and coping
• Social and emotional learning research showing gains in confidence, decision-making, and performance
• Professional distinctions between coaching and psychotherapy

Who This Episode Is For:

• Parents whose child feels stressed, stuck, or unmotivated
• Families who don’t feel therapy is necessary but want support
• Parents with a child already in counseling who want practical, skill-based reinforcement
• Caregivers of strong-willed or independent kids who resist pressure

Key Takeaway:

Coaching is not about fixing kids—it’s about equipping them. It offers structure without labels, support without pressure, and growth without judgment.

Next Step:

Learn more or book a conversation at

www.StandSureCoaching.com

I would love to walk beside you on this journey. Reach out to www.StandSureCoaching.com and book your free discovery call.

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