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What if the strength you’ve been chasing was waiting in the softness you’ve been avoiding? That question sits at the heart of our conversation with human design mentor Kali Tougas, whose story arcs from paramedic grit in a male-dominated field to a life led by deep body wisdom, seasonal rhythms, and a more generous definition of power. We dive into the moment grief broke the spell of proving, and how that rupture made space for a voice that feels steady, not forced.

Kali unpacks confidence as self-trust rather than performance, and why “boundaries” sometimes back us into boxes we don’t need. Her alternative, drawing a line in the sand - honors context and compassion without losing clarity. Together, we examine the hidden costs of stoicism taught in EMS and the healing that comes from naming feelings, debriefing, and letting tenderness back in. From there, we explore how human design becomes a practical, everyday tool: choosing slow mornings if they fit your energy, letting momentum lead on high days, and parenting by understanding how your child’s design truly operates.

We also talk identity after leaving a calling. When a career becomes family, stepping away can feel like losing yourself. Kali offers a way back: ask where you’re losing power, wait out emotional highs before saying yes, and return to your body’s signals as the final authority. Whether you’re a manifesting generator craving flexibility or a projector who needs rest to thrive, you’ll hear simple, humane steps to align your work, home, and inner world without apology.

If you’re ready to stop proving and start aligning, press play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review to help more women find their fire. What line in the sand are you drawing this week?

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A tiny flame can change a whole room and sometimes an entire day. I share a raw confession about hoarding candles and uncover the deeper reason behind it: a living, breathing comfort system that turns chaos into calm and hesitation into action. From the first spark to the final wisp of smoke, I explore how scent, ritual, and intention can reset a mood, a space, and a story you’re ready to rewrite.

I dig into what it means to stop saving the “good” things for later and start using beauty as a daily tool. You’ll hear practical, safety-first tips from a candlemaker - wick trimming, first-burn rules, placement, and snuffing, so your glow is steady and stress-free. Then I guide you through a simple candle audit to help you light the one you’ve been saving, pair that moment with breathwork, and turn it into a meaningful micro-ceremony that anchors focus, courage, or rest.

To go deeper, I offer five potent journal prompts that transform shame about being “too much” into compassion and clarity. We talk crystals, notebooks, playlists, and mugs - the so-called comfort hoards many of us keep and reframe them as languages our bodies understand. By the end, you’ll have a repeatable ritual for ordinary Tuesdays and tender seasons alike, plus the permission slip to use the beautiful things now.

Ready to claim your vibe and let a small flame do big work? Hit play, light the candle you’ve been saving, and tell us what you collect without guilt. If this spoke to you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a spark, and leave a spicy review to help more firestarters find us.

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Tidy endings make great movies, but real life rarely ties a perfect bow. We open up about the myth of closure and what it costs us when we pause our lives, waiting for apologies, explanations, or a cinematic final scene. Instead of handing your next chapter to someone else’s timing, we show how to choose closure from within, claim your power, and move forward with courage, clarity, and a little flame.

I share a personal turning point: the day I stopped waiting for the text that never came and created my own goodbye. From there, we unpack why our brains chase neat endings and how that chase keeps us stuck. You’ll learn a simple, three-step approach to self-made closure - declare it done, ritualize the ending, and anchor into the new - so you can step out of limbo and into motion. We also walk through a guided door-closing visualization that shifts your body from rumination to relief, and we finish with targeted journal prompts designed to help you process the mess, honor what mattered, and build momentum.

If you’ve been holding out for perfect words or a clean finish, this conversation hands you practical tools to end a chapter with compassion and begin a new one with confidence. Expect real talk, soulful rituals, and grounded steps you can use today to light the match, close the door, and write forward. If this sparked something, subscribe, leave a spicy review, and tag @SheIgnites Candle Co so we can cheer you on. Your next chapter isn't waiting, are you ready to claim it?

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Ever catch yourself saying “I’m fine” while feeling dimmed inside? We go straight at the sneaky grip of survival mode - the autopilot loop that looks productive on the surface but drains joy, creativity, and connection underneath. I share the moment I realized I wasn’t lit anymore, and the specific steps that helped me move from white-knuckling through the day to living in flame mode with intention.

We unpack what chronic stress does to your body and brain, why it blocks big ideas, and how simple tools can downshift your nervous system fast. You’ll learn a calming breath pattern, grounding cues you can use anywhere, and movement ideas that actually clear stress instead of adding pressure. Then we pivot to desire - the fuel survival mode starves - and I walk you through asking for what you want without guilt, from career pivots and creative play to deeper intimacy and everyday joy. To make it stick, we build sustainable rituals: candle-lit mornings, midday resets, and reflective evenings that feed your fire without burning you out.

You’ll also experience a short “survival exit” visualization to rehearse safety and choice in your body, plus five journaling prompts to map where you’re on autopilot, what you truly want, and which relationships stoke or smother your spark. The goal isn’t an overnight reinvention; it’s one spark at a time until your baseline is blaze. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start thriving with clear, doable practices, this one’s your match. Subscribe, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review - then tell me: what would you start today if you weren’t just surviving?

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What happens when you ask the universe for a sign…and a truck stacked with billboards pulls up beside you? That’s the spark that launched educator Sue Penney Bergman from the classroom into a life built around intuition, joy, and unmistakable inner guidance. We share the full story and use it to map a path you can follow: how to ask for specific signs, what a true yes feels like in the body, and why clarity often shows up the moment you choose to trust it.

We get honest about the messages that keep us small, teachers who told us we weren’t “math people,” rooms that label us “too much,” and the cultural habits that teach women to seek permission. Sue’s turning point arrives with a gutting critique: “your light is too bright.” She chooses not to dim and everything realigns. From there, we dig into worthiness as a foundation, the quiet power of presence, and why play is not optional. Sue brings laughter yoga to the table - breath, silliness, and shared release that lowers our armor and resets our nervous systems in ways you can feel.

You’ll also learn soul scribing, a simple method for channeled writing that cuts through mental noise and delivers guidance in your own voice. We talk about personal symbols of connection after loss, how past life reveals can offer practical tools for right now, and the joy of building a safe, like‑hearted spiritual community. If you’ve been waiting for a nudge to trust your inner compass, this is it: choose one specific sign, set a gentle timeframe, and listen for the whisper that’s been speaking to you all along.

If this resonated, share it with a friend who’s ready to stop dimming and start shining. Subscribe for more conversations on intuition, worthiness, and living lit from within and leave a review to help others find the spark.

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What if the bravest move isn’t a leap, but a clear conversation with yourself that ends the second-guessing? Kari sits down with marketing strategist Deanna Martin to explore how a one-year teaching detour became a 14-year career, and how she later designed a thoughtful exit to build a purpose-led business helping health and wellness providers show up online with confidence. No glossy highlight reels here, just honest talk about resentment as a signal, money planning for a safe transition, and the small, defiant choices that restore energy and momentum.

Deanna shares the turning points that mattered: choosing kinesiology over a “safe” family business track, honoring a teaching contract while saving a year of salary, and embracing childcare to protect focused work time. We get tactical about marketing for clinicians, turning “I should post” into done-with-you content systems, mapping a month of posts in an afternoon, and building an email list that actually converts. We also zoom out to the human side of growth: finding community after leaving a school “village,” asking for listening instead of solutions, and navigating the ripple effects when your partner is also an entrepreneur.

If you’ve been waiting for perfect timing, let this be your nudge. Start messy. Send the first newsletter. Book the tiny reset that keeps you grounded. And if an idea keeps knocking, trust it-test it-then iterate. Want help getting unstuck? DM Deanna “Kari” on Instagram @patrona_vs for $50 off a Power Hour, and connect with us for more bold conversations. If this conversation sparked something, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review to help the show reach more changemakers.

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We light a clear path from fear of perfection to the courage of motion, sharing how messy action builds momentum, resilience, and genuine connection. A candid candle-making story, a micro ritual, and a seven-day challenge turn ideas into steps you can take today.

• why perfection delays action and silences courage
• how a chaotic video built trust and engagement
• three-step framework to start before you feel ready
• redefining good enough to focus on impact
• practicing public imperfection to grow confidence
• a simple ritual to act while afraid
• a seven-day messy action challenge for momentum
• celebrating progress with symbols that stick

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A single moment can rewrite a life. When Aimee Christ witnessed a fatal accident that could have been her own, everything sharpened - time, purpose, and the cost of waiting for perfect conditions. We bring that urgency to a grounded, practical conversation about acting despite fear, reclaiming your inner voice, and building a life that matches your values.

We start with listening. Not background noise or endless scrolling, but the kind of silence that lets you hear yourself. Aimee shares how device-free nature walks, simple requests for signs, and reflective journaling create space for intuition to cut through the chatter. From there, we explore comfort zones and brain health, why novelty fuels neuroplasticity, and how to design weekly “friction reps” that stretch capacity without burning you out.

Ikigai takes center stage as a tool for clarity: what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. Aimee’s integration map and her Divine Nine spokes turn purpose into a system you can actually use. We dig into leaving a six-figure corporate job to build a flexible career before the gig economy, navigating divorce and menopause, and launching new creative work through small, low-risk pilots. Radical courage, spelled with a K for knowledge, isn’t about being fearless; it’s about moving with shaky hands, one honest step at a time.

If you’re done dimming your light to fit a life that no longer fits you, this conversation hands you the switch. Subscribe for more bold, practical stories; share this with someone who needs a nudge; and leave a review to help more Firestarters find our community. Your next brave step starts now.

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