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What if the strength you’ve been chasing was waiting in the softness you’ve been avoiding? That question sits at the heart of our conversation with human design mentor Kali Tougas, whose story arcs from paramedic grit in a male-dominated field to a life led by deep body wisdom, seasonal rhythms, and a more generous definition of power. We dive into the moment grief broke the spell of proving, and how that rupture made space for a voice that feels steady, not forced.

Kali unpacks confidence as self-trust rather than performance, and why “boundaries” sometimes back us into boxes we don’t need. Her alternative, drawing a line in the sand - honors context and compassion without losing clarity. Together, we examine the hidden costs of stoicism taught in EMS and the healing that comes from naming feelings, debriefing, and letting tenderness back in. From there, we explore how human design becomes a practical, everyday tool: choosing slow mornings if they fit your energy, letting momentum lead on high days, and parenting by understanding how your child’s design truly operates.

We also talk identity after leaving a calling. When a career becomes family, stepping away can feel like losing yourself. Kali offers a way back: ask where you’re losing power, wait out emotional highs before saying yes, and return to your body’s signals as the final authority. Whether you’re a manifesting generator craving flexibility or a projector who needs rest to thrive, you’ll hear simple, humane steps to align your work, home, and inner world without apology.

If you’re ready to stop proving and start aligning, press play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review to help more women find their fire. What line in the sand are you drawing this week?

Where can you find Kali? Right here:

https://www.instagram.com/kalitougas/

https://www.kalitougasservices.com/human-design-chart

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A tiny flame can change a whole room and sometimes an entire day. I share a raw confession about hoarding candles and uncover the deeper reason behind it: a living, breathing comfort system that turns chaos into calm and hesitation into action. From the first spark to the final wisp of smoke, I explore how scent, ritual, and intention can reset a mood, a space, and a story you’re ready to rewrite.

I dig into what it means to stop saving the “good” things for later and start using beauty as a daily tool. You’ll hear practical, safety-first tips from a candlemaker - wick trimming, first-burn rules, placement, and snuffing, so your glow is steady and stress-free. Then I guide you through a simple candle audit to help you light the one you’ve been saving, pair that moment with breathwork, and turn it into a meaningful micro-ceremony that anchors focus, courage, or rest.

To go deeper, I offer five potent journal prompts that transform shame about being “too much” into compassion and clarity. We talk crystals, notebooks, playlists, and mugs - the so-called comfort hoards many of us keep and reframe them as languages our bodies understand. By the end, you’ll have a repeatable ritual for ordinary Tuesdays and tender seasons alike, plus the permission slip to use the beautiful things now.

Ready to claim your vibe and let a small flame do big work? Hit play, light the candle you’ve been saving, and tell us what you collect without guilt. If this spoke to you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a spark, and leave a spicy review to help more firestarters find us.

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Tidy endings make great movies, but real life rarely ties a perfect bow. We open up about the myth of closure and what it costs us when we pause our lives, waiting for apologies, explanations, or a cinematic final scene. Instead of handing your next chapter to someone else’s timing, we show how to choose closure from within, claim your power, and move forward with courage, clarity, and a little flame.

I share a personal turning point: the day I stopped waiting for the text that never came and created my own goodbye. From there, we unpack why our brains chase neat endings and how that chase keeps us stuck. You’ll learn a simple, three-step approach to self-made closure - declare it done, ritualize the ending, and anchor into the new - so you can step out of limbo and into motion. We also walk through a guided door-closing visualization that shifts your body from rumination to relief, and we finish with targeted journal prompts designed to help you process the mess, honor what mattered, and build momentum.

If you’ve been holding out for perfect words or a clean finish, this conversation hands you practical tools to end a chapter with compassion and begin a new one with confidence. Expect real talk, soulful rituals, and grounded steps you can use today to light the match, close the door, and write forward. If this sparked something, subscribe, leave a spicy review, and tag @SheIgnites Candle Co so we can cheer you on. Your next chapter isn't waiting, are you ready to claim it?

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