Understanding and Combating Boundary Burnout

In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the concept of boundary burnout—a form of emotional fatigue experienced after setting and maintaining boundaries. She explains that this exhaustion often arises from breaking old habits, managing both your emotions and those of others, and lacking recovery time.

La Toya provides practical steps to combat this burnout, including starting with small boundaries, scripting responses, planning recovery time, and expecting resistance. She concludes by emphasizing the importance of mental recovery to sustain healthy boundaries and protect one's peace.

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00:00 Introduction to Boundary Burnout

00:42 Defining Boundary Burnout

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05:22 Strategies to Combat Boundary Burnout

08:26 Recovery Techniques

10:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Unpacking the Emotional Weight of Self-Abandonment

In this episode of 'Say More About That,' La Toya explores the emotional consequences of making choices that don't truly resonate with one's authentic self.

She discusses the concept of core beliefs, particularly the belief of not being enough, and how it leads to self-abandonment in pursuit of external validation.

The episode delves into the importance of identifying and challenging these beliefs, rewriting them, and aligning actions with one's true self. Practical steps are provided for beginning this deep emotional work, aiming to cultivate a life filled with choices that genuinely reflect who you are.

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00:10 The Trap of Self-Abandonment

01:35 Understanding Core Beliefs

02:35 Steps to Change Core Beliefs

03:41 Living Authentically

07:20 Questions for Self-Reflection

Navigating Social Anxiety and Embracing Vulnerability

In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the sensitive topic of social anxiety, exploring the aftermath of feeling exposed when someone makes a casual yet impactful comment. She defines social anxiety using the DSM criteria, distinguishes it from shyness, and discusses the struggle between personal identity and external perception.

LaToya shares personal experiences and offers practical grounding practices for managing anxiety, emphasizing the importance of showing up authentically. She closes with a reminder of the strength it takes to be vulnerable and encourages listeners to embrace their true selves.

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03:29 Defining Vulnerability

04:02 Identity vs. Perception

04:26 Personal Experience and Reflection

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10:15 Grounding Practices for Anxiety

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12:50 Conclusion and Additional Support

Rediscovering Yourself: The Personal Journey of a Quiet Comeback this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya delves into the true essence of a comeback—one that is personal, internal, and not for show. Unlike the performative 'bounce back' often seen on social media, this episode emphasizes healing, self-acceptance, and quiet strength.

La Toya discusses the pressures to appear okay and the struggle with overthinking, highlighting how crucial it is to reset your nervous system and genuinely connect with your inner self. The episode includes practical tips for grounding exercises, such as the '3, 3, 3' method, and encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys of transformation.

Plus, La Toya shares her own experiences in the gym and offers a free three-day nervous system reset program to help listeners on their path to self-recovery.

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02:11 Overthinking and Self-Doubt

02:32 Accepting Change and Moving Forward

03:43 Reframing Your Healing Journey

05:06 Resetting Your Nervous System

06:09 Practical Tips for Grounding Yourself

07:44 Movement as a Form of Healing

09:06 The Soft Return: A Free Resource

09:57 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Letting Go of What Isn't Yours: Emotional Awareness and Boundaries

In this episode, La Toya hosts an episode focusing on the emotional burdens people often carry that do not belong to them.

She explains how high-functioning individuals, especially women, are often praised for managing chaos, which can lead to unnecessary emotional strain. La Toya introduces a three-step framework—awareness, ownership, and release—to help individuals recognize and manage these burdens. She emphasizes the importance of setting emotional boundaries and releasing what is not theirs to carry.

The episode aims to help listeners create space for their well-being by letting go of unnecessary emotional weight.

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01:25 The Weight We Carry: Understanding Emotional Burdens

03:15 Awareness: Identifying Unchosen Responsibilities

04:07 Ownership: Setting Emotional Boundaries

06:34 Release: Returning the Weight

07:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

08:34 Patreon and Additional Resources

The Power of Community: Embracing Support and Letting Go of Isolation

In this episode of 'Say More About That,' host La Toya explores the deep-seated notion that high-functioning individuals must do everything alone. She delves into the harmful effects of emotional perfectionism and emphasizes the importance of seeking support from a community.

La Toya suggests practical strategies for auditing your support system, asking for help, and allowing others to assist during challenging times. She highlights how vulnerability and community can foster resilience, regulation, and relief. Tune in for tips on evolving strength into discernment and delegation to avoid burnout.

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00:12 The Myth of Doing It All Alone

00:52 The Praise and Perils of High Functioning

01:59 The Importance of Asking for Help

03:39 Strategies for Building Support Systems

06:30 The Role of Community in Personal Well-being

09:16 Conclusion and Call to Action

Balancing Burnout and Discipline: Insights for High Achieving Women

In this episode of Say More About That, we delve into the challenging dynamics between burnout and discipline, particularly for high-achieving women and high-functioning black women.

La Toya shares personal experiences of dealing with fatigue post-surgery and the internal conflict between feeling lazy and recognizing the need for rest. The episode offers a comprehensive definition of burnout, differentiates it from mere tiredness, and explores the unique pressures faced by high-functioning individuals.

Practical advice is given on recognizing when to rest versus when to apply discipline, advocating for a compassionate approach to self-care and productivity.

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00:23 Personal Story: Recognizing Burnout

01:35 Understanding Burnout: Definitions and Symptoms

03:34 High-Functioning Women and Burnout

05:40 The Strong Black Woman Stereotype

06:49 The Importance of Rest in Discipline

08:36 Practical Tips for Balancing Rest and Discipline

10:10 Conclusion and Additional Support

Welcome to Say More About That—the podcast for high-functioning Black women learning to feel, heal, and set boundaries without guilt.

I’m La Toya, a therapist turned creator, here to hold space for the deep stuff: emotional regulation, gym-life healing, and what it really takes to choose yourself in a world that keeps asking for more.

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