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In this conversation, Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders delve into the controversial topic of ethical pedophilia, exploring the distinction between feelings and actions, the role of shame, and the societal implications of normalizing harmful desires. They discuss the importance of support systems for individuals struggling with these feelings while emphasizing the need for safeguards to protect children. The conversation highlights the complexities of identity and the dangers of acceptance in a context that could lead to harm.

takeaways

Ethical pedophilia is a controversial term that distinguishes between attraction and action.
There is a significant difference between having harmful desires and acting on them.
Shame can play a role in recognizing and addressing harmful desires.
Normalizing harmful desires can lead to dangerous societal implications.
Support systems should focus on preventing harm while acknowledging intrinsic value.
Desires should not define a person's identity; actions do.
Removing obstacles is crucial for individuals seeking help.
The push for acceptance can lead to normalization of harmful behaviors.
Children cannot consent, and their protection is paramount.
Conversations about these topics are necessary but must be approached with caution.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Ethical Pedophilia
04:26 The Distinction Between Feelings and Actions
07:09 The Role of Shame in Human Behavior
12:32 The Push for Acceptance of Minor Attracted Persons
15:45 The Growth of Identity and Its Implications
16:50 Understanding the Complexity of Attraction
18:02 The Role of Art and Expression in Attraction
20:02 The Debate on Control and Responsibility
21:03 Navigating Language and Terminology
22:28 The Importance of Support and Prevention
24:29 Safeguards and Professional Boundaries
25:31 The Challenge of Identity Labels
27:19 Minor Attracted Persons and Support Groups
30:06 The Spectrum of Beliefs within the MAP Community
34:17 Concluding Thoughts on Protection and Prevention
35:12 R&R Outro.mp4

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Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

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In this engaging conversation, Stephanie Olson, Dr. Jen Fry, and Rebecca Saunders explore the critical themes of resilience and relationships, focusing on the importance of conflict, healthy communication, and setting boundaries. They discuss how to navigate difficult conversations, the role of apologies, and the necessity of teaching children about consent and self-advocacy. The discussion emphasizes that healthy conflict is essential for strong relationships and that individuals must be willing to engage in hard conversations to foster growth and understanding.

Takeaways

Conflict is not inherently negative; it's how we handle it that matters.
Healthy conflict can strengthen relationships and build trust.
Setting boundaries is crucial for personal well-being and healthy interactions.
Teaching kids about consent and self-advocacy is essential.
Apologizing can be a powerful tool for healing relationships.
There is no time limit on a genuine apology.
Navigating conflict requires emotional regulation and understanding.
People often avoid conflict due to fear of negative outcomes.
The absence of conflict does not equate to harmony in relationships.
Relationships are worth the effort of engaging in difficult conversations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Resilience and Relationships
00:54 The Journey of Dr. Jen Fry
02:25 Understanding Conflict as a Tool for Growth
04:59 Navigating Difficult Conversations
08:46 Setting Boundaries in Relationships
11:57 Healthy Conflict: A Path to Better Communication
15:15 The Power of Apology in Parenting
16:47 Teaching Consent and Healthy Conflict
17:40 Navigating Online Conflict and Apologies
20:13 Self-Advocacy and Emotional Regulation in Kids
23:48 The Timelessness of Apologies
26:05 The Importance of Healthy Conflict in Relationships
29:43 R&R Outro.mp4

Dr. Jen Fry is a Sports Geographer, speaker, and founder of JenFryTalks, where she helps teams navigate conflict and culture. A former collegiate volleyball coach, Jen brings lived experience into leadership and communication work. She holds a PhD from Michigan State University and is the founder of Coordle, a tech platform simplifying youth sports travel.

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Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

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In this conversation, Stephanie Olson and Rebecca Saunders explore the themes of thoughtfulness in communication, the impact of our words, and the complexities of sharing personal stories. They discuss the importance of being mindful of how our words can affect others, especially in sensitive situations. The conversation also delves into the motivations behind sharing stories and the challenges of navigating cancel culture. Ultimately, they emphasize the need for empathy, reflection, and responsible communication in our interactions with others.

Takeaways

Thoughtfulness in communication can prevent misunderstandings.
Our words can have a significant impact on others' feelings.
It's important to consider the context before sharing personal stories.
Navigating what is appropriate to share requires sensitivity.
Motivation behind sharing stories can influence the outcome of conversations.
Cancel culture lacks grace and understanding for personal growth.
Public apologies should match the nature of the offense.
Civility in discussions is increasingly difficult to maintain.
Everyone has intrinsic value, regardless of their actions.
We must be mindful of the information we share about others.

Sound Bites

"What is your story to share?"
"We don't ever allow that for other people."
"We cannot dehumanize anyone."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Context
01:45 The Importance of Thoughtfulness
05:14 Navigating Conversations in a Divisive Society
09:36 Understanding What is Yours to Share
19:05 Addressing Abuses in Public Organizations
19:45 Navigating Anger and Communication
21:15 The Ethics of Speaking Out
22:22 The Complexity of Public Figures and Hypocrisy
27:18 The Importance of Public Apologies
29:18 Recognizing Intrinsic Value in All Individuals
33:05 R&R Outro.mp4

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Everyone has resilience, but what does that mean, and how do we use it in life and leadership? Join Stephanie Olson, an expert in resiliency and trauma, every week as she talks to other experts living lives of resilience. Stephanie also shares her own stories of addictions, disordered eating, domestic and sexual violence, abandonment, and trauma, and shares the everyday struggles and joys of everyday life. As a wife, mom, and CEO she gives commentaries and, sometimes, a few rants to shed light on what makes a person resilient. So, if you have experienced adversity in life in any way and want to learn how to better lead your family, your workplace, and, well, your life, this podcast is for you!

https://setmefreeproject.net

https://www.stephanieolson.com/