On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam shares a selection of clips from his social media where he has debunked alpha male talking points. This is a collection of shorter videos.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Freya, a sex coach and educator and host of The Labia Lounge. They discuss her “Find Freya a Fella” hybrid PR/social experiment aimed at finding a partner while documenting modern dating frustrations like app fatigue, micro-rejections, loneliness, and Australia’s “nonchalance” about showing interest. Boycotting apps, she attends Melbourne singles events and practices meeting people “in the wild” by initiating conversations, being more approachable, and building community to counter scarcity mindset. They explore ethical “practice” in approaching strangers, attunement to cues, reducing pressure by reframing dates, and her idea for a “Mates and Dates” mixer. Freya shares mixed results—some dates but no long-term match—plus stigma women face for openly wanting commitment, and where to follow the campaign online.

Key points:

07:08 Why Dating Feels Broken

11:43 Meeting People Offline

15:39 Mindset And Scarcity

18:09 Approaching With Respect

26:43 Results And Stigma

31:21 What Makes A Good Date

38:18 Effort, Nonchalance, and Clarity

51:23 Where To Follow Along

Is OnlyFans Social Media? Intimacy, Ethics, and

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Monash University research fellow Emily van der Nagel about her research and book on OnlyFans, focusing on media literacy, platform design, and adult content creation. They discuss the centrality of direct messages for intimacy, monetisation, risks of deception, and parasocial harm. They address creator agency, boundary-setting, audience pressure, demographic uncertainty due to platform secrecy, and how AI may reshape authenticity expectations, disclosure, and trust.

Key points:

01:33 Is OnlyFans Social Media?

04:58 Creator Versus Subscriber

06:24 DMs And Money

08:25 Chatbots And Trust

24:53 Ethical Porn Debate

29:09 Leaks And Consent

33:30 Audience Pressure

40:15 AI And The Future

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Rae Szereszewski, a sexual health educator and relationship coach, to discuss sexual choking/strangulation, noting there is no fully safe way but there are harm-reduction approaches and a need for teen education beyond pregnancy/STIs given porn influence. Rae reframes STI education as “not if, but when,” focuses on non-stigmatizing disclosure and communication, advocates “team disclosure." They also cover sex-positive space etiquette, consent as a spectrum, and aligning words and actions with better check-ins.

Key Points:

08:12 Why Kink Feels Good

16:32 Adult Sex Ed on STIs

29:05 Free Testing Access

35:11 Kink Scene Etiquette

40:51 Consent Beyond Asking

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, we take a trip down memory lane as Cam shares a presentation he gave at Camp Lovehoney back in 2020. He explains how toys and lube can support sexual health and pleasure, including using masturbators to help premature ejaculation and erectile difficulties by retraining stroke patterns and reducing friction, and using edging to prolong arousal. Cam highlights prostate play as a pathway to non-ejaculatory prostate orgasms, multi-orgasmic potential, and greater empathy as a penetrative partner, citing survey findings that partners of men who’ve explored anal penetration report higher satisfaction. He shares Lovehoney study stats on toy use and reviews products including a thrusting masturbator with dirty-talk audio, a vibrating couples ring, and a remote-controlled prostate massager, plus previews upcoming BlowMotion masturbators and answers audience questions.

Key points:

06:56 Toys For Performance And Control

11:10 Edging And Prostate Orgasms

19:18 Thrusting Masturbator Demo

24:54 Couples Vibrating Ring

28:27 Remote Prostate Massager Review

30:16 New BlowMotion Teaser

32:55 Lube And Toy Care Basics

33:32 Audience Q&A

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam discusses how medicine, culture, and commerce intersect in social-media health narratives with Emma Grundtvig Gram, PhD. They unpack Emma's research focusing on “low T” content on TikTok and Instagram. She explains her content-analysis study examining how influencers promote testosterone testing and treatment through narratives rather than evidence, often linking testosterone to confidence, dominance, success, muscles, sexual performance, leadership, and happiness while framing ordinary experiences (fatigue, stress, weight gain, stalled gym progress, sexual fluctuations) as signs of deficiency. The conversation covers regressive gender ideas, disparagement of femininity, manosphere links, optimisation/T-maxing pressures, appeals to fear of aging and masculinity loss, and concerns about young men as long-term consumers.

Key Points:03:07 Why Study "Low T"08:05 Disease Mongering Explained16:36 Sexuality Framed As Deficiency27:46 The Optimisation Trap37:30 Homosocial And Homoerotic Ads41:18 Parasocial Trust And Algorithms44:33 Healthier Testosterone Talk

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Stephanie Ganowski. They discuss how porn and online masculinity messaging create unrealistic expectations, and explain the mechanism of performance anxiety as a fight-or-flight nervous system response that disrupts arousal and erections and can speed ejaculation. Stephanie emphasizes pairing physical techniques (breathing, pelvic floor work) with mindset changes, including answering “what if” thoughts in advance to reduce uncertainty and build trust. Both advocate reframing sex from penis-centered performance to pleasure, presence, and connection, encouraging non-linear intimacy and better communication with partners, including using third-party prompts like podcasts. Stephanie shares her iOS app Ronin, a guided masturbation/meditation tool to build confidence, reduce porn reliance, and train arousal skills.

Key Points:07:01 Nervous System Breakdown13:15 Redefining Great Sex24:22 PE vs ED Practices29:25 Couples Talk About Sex34:31 Handling Hard Feedback41:39 Toys Lube And Solo Practice

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam chats with Jordan Walker, an RSE specialist working with teens (including neurodivergent and trauma-affected youth) in Western Australia. They discuss boys seeking connection online via manosphere content, the loss of third spaces and community sport, the role of parents and upskilled coaches, and the need for facilitated, mixed-gender discussions to build conflict-resolution skills.

Key points:

06:09 Consent Teaching Pitfalls

18:59 What Boys Need Now

20:38 Manosphere And Porn Influence

27:29 Parents and Schools Role

35:19 Connection Seeking and AI Companions

39:11 Teaching Consent Online

45:18 When We Avoid Hard Talks