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Is your relationship feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? You're not alone—and you're not stuck.

In this episode, I'm walking you through the proven framework that's helping couples reconnect and rebuild intimacy in a real, practical way. We'll talk about:

• The four phases of intimacy every couple experiences
• Why sex after kids matters more than you think — for your whole family
• How to break out of frustration and get back to each other

This is the episode for you if you're craving honest conversations, clear steps, and a renewed connection with your partner in 2026.

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Have you ever had sex end in shutdown, rushing, or unexpected emotion, and neither of you knew what just happened?

In this intimate episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I explore why sex can feel heavy, confusing, or emotionally charged for couples, even when there is love and desire on both sides.

This episode is for you if:

• One partner shuts down, goes numb, or gets emotional during sex
• The other feels rejected or unsure how to help
• Sex gets rushed just to get through it
• A body feels unfamiliar after babies, trauma, surgery, or perimenopause

I share my personal story of spending years fighting her body and how learning one key somatic skill, along with her partner learning how to support instead of fix, created the biggest shift in their sex life.

You'll learn why these patterns are nervous system responses, not failures, and how couples can start moving back toward safe, light, and enjoyable intimacy together.

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Why do you feel unchosen, unsexy, and alone, even when your relationship looks "fine"?

If you're the one always initiating hard conversations, tracking emotional distance, or trying to "fix" disconnection... you may be managing the emotional labor of the relationship by yourself.

And over time, that role quietly erodes safety, intimacy, and desire, not because love disappears, but because the mutuality does.

In this final episode of our 4-part Mental Load series, we explore:

• What "managing the relationship" actually looks like (hint: it's not just planning date night)
• Why emotional labor is real labor, especially when it comes to sex and repair
• How the manager–assistant dynamic kills erotic energy on both sides
• The anxious–avoidant loop that drives overfunctioning and shutdown
• A reframe that changes everything (without blaming your partner)
• One weekly check-in that can start restoring connection right now

This isn't about calling your partner out.

It's about calling out a system that's hurting both of you, and learning how to change the dance.

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How do you actually share the mental load without constant fighting, resentment, or feeling like you’re doing it all?

This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the mental load — and today, we're getting practical.

I'm sharing how my partner and I used the Fair Play Method by Eve Rodsky to manage the mental load in our house — what worked, what didn't, and how we adapted it for real life with kids, neurodivergence, and wildly different nervous systems.

We talk about:

• Why Fair Play is not about 50/50 — and what to aim for instead
• What it actually means to "own" a task
• The mistake most couples make when they inventory chores
• How staying in your own lane can feel lighter than "helping"
• And how we started with just 5–10 daily grind cards

Plus, my honest take on the Fair Play book itself — when it's helpful, and when it might make things harder (especially if your partner is already feeling defensive).

This episode is about making the invisible visible — without turning your relationship into a negotiation table.

In the final episode of this series, we'll talk about the mental load of sex... and who carries responsibility for tending the relationship itself.

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If talking about the mental load already feels like walking into a fight, this episode is for you.

Because most mental load conversations don’t fail due to bad intentions — they fail because couples are stuck in an unspoken manager–assistant dynamic that kills safety, teamwork, and desire.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why the mental load isn't just about chores, but responsibility for the life you chose
  
  
• A simple checklist for each of you to assess your role in this dance and what you can shift.
  
  
• A step-by-step structure for opening this conversation without triggering defensiveness
  
  
• How resentment and disconnection show up in your sex life
  
  

This is a grounded, practical episode for couples who want to feel like teammates again — not managers and assistants.

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If the two of you feel like you're living in the same house but carrying completely different worlds, this episode will hit home.

Welcome to Mental Load 101. This is the first in a four episode series that explains why resentment is high, intimacy is low, and why you keep having the same fights no matter how many systems or chore charts you try.

In today's episode:

• What the mental load really is and why it is invisible but exhausting
• How gender scripts sneak back in after kids even in equal relationships
• Why one partner goes into hyper controlling mode while the other shuts down
• How this dynamic kills desire, safety, and emotional connection
• Why it feels like you are fighting each other when you are actually fighting a pattern

This series will change how you see everything.

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Book a free Spark Session. It is a 30 minute call where we map out what is happening in your relationship and how to move forward with less resentment and more connection.
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Next episode we'll explore your first step toward peace, partnership, and intimacy again.

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Porn often feels like the easier option — no pressure, no rejection, no emotional work. But when it becomes your go-to outlet, it can quietly chip away at intimacy, connection, and confidence... without you even noticing.

This episode isn't about shame. It's about clarity. We're unpacking the real impact of porn in relationships — especially if you're a dad, a man, or the higher-desire partner in your relationship.

We're diving into:

• Why so many men learned sex through porn
• How porn becomes a coping tool for emotional overwhelm
• What the neuroscience says about arousal and habit loops
• Why porn use isn't always about attraction
• The difference between healthy vs. harmful use
• How mindful masturbation can reshape desire
• What reconnection looks like (without pressure or shame)

Whether you're feeling disconnected or stuck in a cycle that doesn't feel great — this conversation will help you see what’s really going on... and what to do next.

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If you're the higher-libido partner and every "not tonight" feels like a gut-punch, this episode might change everything.

Because it's not the rejection that turns her off — it's how you respond afterward.

Most men were never taught what to do when sex disappears after babies, stress, or burnout. When connection feels out of reach, every "no" can trigger shame, pressure, or shutdown.

But your reaction in that moment?
It's either creating safety... or silently killing desire.

In this episode:

• Why rejection feels personal (and how to stop spiralling)
• The "pressure energy" that shuts her body down
• How the chaser dynamic kills attraction
• What her nervous system is really responding to
• The 3-step shift to rebuild connection and safety (yes, starting tonight)
  
  
  

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