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Recognising the pattern is one thing but finding the confidence to do something about it? Well, that’s a whole different story.

I once kept an actual journal documenting the arguments between my ex and I. I could see what was happening, yet it took another four years before I finally left.

So why do we sometimes recognise the red flags and convince ourselves they’re just a lighter shade of pink?!

In this episode, we’re talking about pattern recognition, emotional intelligence and the uncomfortable gap between knowing something isn’t serving you and feeling ready to change it.

I also reflect on being five years single, how my relationship with myself has changed and how I’m learning to recognise inconsistent behaviour in dating without overanalysing someone’s intentions or falling in love with their potential.

Because understanding someone else’s behaviour doesn’t mean you have to keep accepting it. And being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean becoming so understanding of everyone else that you abandon yourself.

We’re not aiming to become cynical, suspicious or perfect at spotting red flags. We’re learning to trust our own observations, recognise what no longer serves us and have the confidence to respond differently.

Because awareness is the beginning. What you do with it is where things really start to change….

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Life gets so busy that I don’t think we stop to notice the little hills we’ve decided we’re willing to die on.

The tiny ones, like why I don’t listen to music when I’m out walking because my brain doesn’t need any more noise. And the bigger ones, like why I think more women should lift weights, why encouraging a competitive spirit in children can carry into adulthood, and the complicated reality of maintenance money when one parent is raising children 24/7.

This episode is a little more free-flowing, a little more opinionated and probably a little more me.

My brain started whirring and I picked up my microphone late at night, saying the things I’ve realised I’m not really willing to compromise on.

As always… you can disagree. I probably still won’t change my mind. ✌🏼

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This week we are having a little catch- up, a little life update, a little "wait am I actually doing this?"

This week I am chatting about going to a wellness networking event, meeting other women building their own businesses and what it felt like to actually talk about the journal that I have been working on for SO bloody long.

I also get a bit more into why I created You vs You, Always - what I wanted it to be, who I made it for and why I am so passionate about creating something that helps you stop waiting for the perfect moment and start taking those small steps towards the life that you actually want.

Which brings us back nicely to last week's episode, Doing It Anywayz. Sometimes the next step isn't a massive life overhaul, sometimes it is just showing up, putting yourself in the room, having the conversation and seeing what happens.

And whilst we're talking about products, I get into THAT *uh hmm* sports campaign which has dominated my social media feed this week.

Don't worry though, I won't be parading around with footballs on my chest to sell you a journal.

Probably...

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What happens when you stop waiting for the perfect circumstance and decide that you're doing it anyway?

This is the first podcast episode which was recorded last year and intended to be the very first episode of I Should Probably Be In Therapy But...

Obviously things didn't go to plan and I couldn't find the front camera facing footage so enjoy the audio instead! I have released a few smaller spirals but this is where the original version of the podcast began in the summer of 2025!

In this episode, I talk about goals and ambition and the slightly unhinged levels of belief it can sometimes take to keep going when life really does it's thing.

I take you back to when I became a Mum at just 19 years old and how I navigated life thereafter in pursuing my goals and dreams, how goals seem intrinsically tied to my existence, how goals connect us to a higher purpose and why we should be detached in pursuit of those goals.

I truly want you to reflect on this one solo journey that you have been given of life and what are your goals and dreams that you are striving for.

Waiting for the right circumstances just doesn't exist, sometimes you really do need to hit that FUCK IT button, be relentless in the pursuit and don't forget to have fun along the way.

I hope you enjoy this long- form episode!

Love always x

PS. If you have only found my podcast & are yet to see ME then come over to @shouldbeintherapybut on Instagram and say Hi!

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Caught mid- spiral. No editing. Just me trying to steer the Mother ship.

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What if staying single isn't giving up on love.. but finally giving yourself enough space to ask whether the juice is worth the squeeze?

In this episode, I am thinking out loud about relationships, dating and emotional energy. Sometimes it isn't about whether you can make it work or whether you actually want to spend your precious time, energy and peace trying to.

Maybe there is something beautiful about choosing yourself, not because you have stopped believing in love, but because you have stopped settling for anything that costs more than it gives.

A slightly messy, very honest conversation about dating, staying single (4eva?!) and figuring what kind of life is actually worth building.

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An unfiltered glimpse into my inner dialogue. The thoughts that usually stay in my head somehow found their way to the microphone. No script, no perfect ending, no edit.. just an honest conversation about healing, growth, overthinking and figuring life out as I go.

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