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What if the woman you’ve been waiting to become is actually the woman you’ve been needing all along?

After a little unintended podcast hiatus, I’m back chatting all things Paris, personal growth, the difference between confidence and self-trust, and the limiting beliefs we sometimes carry long after the people who planted them have left our lives.

We talk about keeping promises to ourselves, unlearning the narratives we’ve picked up along the way and recognising that sometimes the biggest transformation isn’t becoming somebody new, but finding your way back to the woman you always were.

This is a little reminder that you don’t have to wait until you feel ready, confident or completely healed to start showing up for yourself.

You just have to start keeping those promises you once made. And one day, you’ll realise you’ve become the woman you once needed in your darkest moments.

And as always, thank you for being here. Especially those of you tuning in from across the pond. New Jersey, I’m looking at you! 🤍

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Recognising the pattern is one thing but finding the confidence to do something about it? Well, that’s a whole different story.

I once kept an actual journal documenting the arguments between my ex and I. I could see what was happening, yet it took another four years before I finally left.

So why do we sometimes recognise the red flags and convince ourselves they’re just a lighter shade of pink?!

In this episode, we’re talking about pattern recognition, emotional intelligence and the uncomfortable gap between knowing something isn’t serving you and feeling ready to change it.

I also reflect on being five years single, how my relationship with myself has changed and how I’m learning to recognise inconsistent behaviour in dating without overanalysing someone’s intentions or falling in love with their potential.

Because understanding someone else’s behaviour doesn’t mean you have to keep accepting it. And being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean becoming so understanding of everyone else that you abandon yourself.

We’re not aiming to become cynical, suspicious or perfect at spotting red flags. We’re learning to trust our own observations, recognise what no longer serves us and have the confidence to respond differently.

Because awareness is the beginning. What you do with it is where things really start to change….

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Life gets so busy that I don’t think we stop to notice the little hills we’ve decided we’re willing to die on.

The tiny ones, like why I don’t listen to music when I’m out walking because my brain doesn’t need any more noise. And the bigger ones, like why I think more women should lift weights, why encouraging a competitive spirit in children can carry into adulthood, and the complicated reality of maintenance money when one parent is raising children 24/7.

This episode is a little more free-flowing, a little more opinionated and probably a little more me.

My brain started whirring and I picked up my microphone late at night, saying the things I’ve realised I’m not really willing to compromise on.

As always… you can disagree. I probably still won’t change my mind. ✌🏼

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