Rule 6: Stop cleaning, start creating.

This is the chapter about procrastination. The way we clean instead of create. Faff instead of focus. Suddenly find ourselves reorganising the tupperware drawer instead of writing the thing we've been meaning to write for months.

Ten years ago I confessed in this chapter that it took me four months to film a 37 second video. Four months. All the excuses. My roots needed done. My fringe was too long. My skin looked terrible. I've made hundreds of videos since. I still procrastinate sometimes.

What I'd add ten years on: the women I work with aren't procrastinators. They're depleted. The to-do list isn't the problem. The empty tank is. Creating from a regulated nervous system feels easy. Creating from a depleted one feels impossible.

In my 2026 reflections I talk about why sometimes the most productive thing you can do is lie down for ninety minutes.

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Rule 5: Find your flow of masculine and feminine energy.

This chapter has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with how we move through the world. Doing energy versus being energy. Pushing versus allowing. Giving versus receiving.

Ten years ago I was beginning to recognise my own default. I default to masculine. I always have. I like to be in charge. I like to get things done. The work of the last ten years has been learning that doing isn't the only way to be useful.

If you're a first-born daughter, a fixer, a capable one, you probably default to masculine too. It's how we got here. It's also why we're burning out.

Receiving isn't weakness. It's the missing half. In my 2026 reflections I talk about why the massage table is a feminine space, and why most of the women who come to me haven't received in years.

The full audiobook is available on all the audiobook platforms if you want to jump ahead, or you can get the paperback here: https://amzn.to/4Aw5F6w and the workbook that goes with it here: https://amzn.to/4hfqg63. The exercises are where the real work happens. The exercises need to be done, not just listened to.

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Rule 4: Breathe.

This is the chapter that's aged the best. Ten years ago I wrote a whole chapter about breathing without having the language for nervous system regulation. I didn't know what I was teaching. I just knew it worked.

When I wrote this, I was talking about stress, and sharing what had happened in the years after my divorce. I thought I was someone who didn't let things bother me. I told everyone I was fine. What I now know is that I was in the freeze response. I was very good at numbing.

Ten years on, this is where I start with every single client who lies on my table. The breath is the doorway. Everything else, the fascia work, the lymphatic drainage, the Reiki, all of it walks you through the door the breath has opened.

If you're a first-born daughter carrying decades of holding it together, breath alone isn't going to be enough. But it's where the work begins. In my 2026 reflections at the end, I talk about what's stored in the body when we've been in survival mode for years, and what it takes to release it.

The full audiobook is available on all the audiobook platforms if you want to jump ahead, or you can get the paperback here: https://amzn.to/4Aw5F6w and the workbook that goes with it here: https://amzn.to/4hfqg63. The exercises are where the real work happens. The exercises need to be done, not just listened to.

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