Dr. Temple Grandin is a renowned animal behaviorist, autism advocate, and professor of animal science at Colorado State University. Diagnosed with autism at a young age, she has used her unique perspective to revolutionize livestock handling systems, designing humane facilities that are used worldwide. Dr. Grandin is also a best-selling author and a leading voice in the neurodiversity movement, advocating for early interventions and supportive environments for individuals on the autism spectrum. Her groundbreaking work has earned her numerous accolades, including being named one of Time magazine’s 100 most influential people. A sought-after speaker, she inspires countless people with her story of turning what others saw as challenges into her greatest strengths.

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In this episode, Samantha and Lauren continue their discussion on how to communicate positively with neurodivergent children, ensuring your child receives more positive than negative feedback.

They explore various strategies such as praising effort over outcome, naming invisible skills like regulation and flexibility, and using descriptive feedback instead of generic praise to help neurodivergent kids feel understood and appreciated.

Samantha and Lauren emphasize the importance of catching small, neutral moments and separating behavior from identity to avoid feelings of shame. They also discuss the significance of building positive feedback into daily routines and reflecting strengths during hard moments to establish a predictable, supportive environment.

They wrap up by offering practical questions parents can ask themselves to evaluate their feedback practices and promoting resources available on their website for further support.

00:00 Introduction

00:40 Recap of Last Week's Episode

01:22 The Importance of Positive Feedback

04:17 Strategies for Giving Positive Feedback

04:51 Praising Effort Over Outcome

07:18 Naming Invisible Skills

09:37 Using Descriptive Feedback

12:20 Catching Small Moments

14:43 Separating Behavior from Identity

18:59 Reflecting Strengths During Hard Moments

19:30 Building Positive Feedback into Routines

21:23 Recap and Final Thoughts

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Samantha and Lauren discuss the negative impact of constant corrective feedback and emphasize the importance of recognizing children's efforts rather than just their outcomes.

They share personal experiences and research findings that show how neurodivergent kids often receive more negative feedback than their neurotypical peers. They highlight the importance of creating a supportive home environment that counterbalances the critical feedback children might receive from schools and other settings.

The episode ends with a promise to provide practical tips on giving meaningful positive feedback in the next discussion.

00:00 Introduction

00:39 New Year Resolutions and Positive Feedback

02:05 The Impact of Negative Feedback on Neurodivergent Kids

05:18 Effort vs. Outcome: Recognizing the Invisible Work

06:50 Personal Stories and Examples

10:25 The Role of Parents and Positive Reinforcement

17:15 Conclusion and Next Week's Topic

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In this final episode of the year, Samantha and Lauren discuss the societal pressures of New Year's resolutions and advocate for a more realistic approach, especially for neurodivergent individuals and parents of neurodivergent children.

They highlight the overwhelming nature of setting too many goals and emphasize the importance of focusing on one or two manageable objectives at a time to avoid burnout and shame.

They also stress the importance of self-compassion and creating a supportive environment for personal growth and effective parenting.

00:00 Introduction

00:51 New Year, No Pressure

02:30 The Reality of New Year's Resolutions

05:18 Understanding Burnout and Stress

08:18 Setting Realistic Goals

13:24 Reflection and Self-Compassion

18:32 Final Thoughts and Community Support

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In this episode, Samantha and Lauren talk about the importance of taking a break during the holiday season, particularly for families with neurodivergent members.

They discuss the challenges that arise from the busy holiday schedules and emphasize the necessity of rest for mental health and overall well-being.

Samantha and Lauren share personal experiences and provide insights on how to manage holiday stress, suggesting that prioritizing rest and downtime can mitigate meltdowns and enhance the holiday experience for both parents and children. They also touch upon the societal expectations to be constantly productive and how this goes against the natural cycles of rest observed in nature.

00:00 Introduction

00:36 Hosts' Personal Updates and Reflections

01:17 The Importance of Rest During Breaks

02:22 Managing Holiday Stress and Expectations

06:01 Adapting Family Traditions

10:30 The Natural Cycle of Rest and Productivity

14:51 Why Downtime is Essential for Neurodivergent Kids

16:15 Parents' Need for Downtime and Managing Triggers

19:28 Final Thoughts and Community Support

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Anneke (pronounced UH-nuh-kuh) is a coach with a background in both corporate and clinical settings, having worked as a clinical director, supervisor, and behavior analyst. Based in Pittsburgh, PA, she supports clients worldwide through phone and video conferencing. Anneke specializes in coaching professionals with ADHD, autism, and related neurodivergent experiences. She brings personal insight to her practice, as she has been diagnosed with ADHD, depression, anxiety, and PTSD.

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In this episode, Samantha and Lauren discuss strategies for effectively parenting children with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). They emphasize the importance of collaboration over direct demands to help children feel more in control and safe, which mitigates reactive behaviors.

They explain how giving children choices and involving them in decision-making can prevent the activation of their parasympathetic nervous system, which is linked to anxiety and defensive behaviors.

Practical examples like offering options instead of direct commands are given and the importance of flexibility and patience in parenting, particularly for neurodivergent families is discussed.

Samantha and Lauren also highlight the significance of co-regulation and maintaining a calm demeanor to support a child's sense of autonomy and safety.

A PDA cheat sheet with useful scripts and strategies is available for listeners.

00:00 Introduction

00:39 Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

03:00 Collaborative Parenting Strategies

06:08 Practical Examples and Scripts

09:37 Managing Parental Expectations and Flexibility

21:30 Maintaining a Regulated Nervous System

24:30 Conclusion and Resources

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In this episode, Samantha and Lauren engage in a compelling conversation with Jessica Frew, the author of 'Shove Your Shoulds,' a pivotal book aimed at helping ambitious women shed societal conditioning and make bold decisions without guilt or fear. Throughout the discussion, Jessica shares insights into the importance of setting personal boundaries, trusting one's intuition, and the role of parents in modeling behavior for their children.

Jessica’s teachings are for everyone, particularly those raising neurodivergent children, advocating for a parenting approach free from societal 'shoulds'. She provides real-life examples of navigating difficult relationships, establishing firm boundaries, and making aligned decisions.

00:00 Introduction to Every Brand Is Different Podcast

00:39 Meet Jessica Fru: Author and Bold Decision Coach

01:36 The Concept of 'Shove Your Shoulds'

02:17 Releasing the Shoulds and Trusting Your Gut

06:32 Setting Boundaries and Silencing the Noise

13:40 Building a Support System

20:12 Raising Kids Without Shoulds

26:20 Where to Find Jessica Fru and Her Book

27:34 Jessica Fru's Fun and Family Life

28:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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