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  • S3 Ep. 13: Why Are We So Afraid of Being Misunderstood?

    S3 Ep. 13: Why Are We So Afraid of Being Misunderstood?
    Nov 6 2026

    Why does being misunderstood hurt so much? In this episode, we explore the difference between being understood and being accepted, how past experiences shape our sensitivity to misunderstanding, and when explaining ourselves becomes more about validation than connection.


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    55 min
  • S3 Ep. 12: Reparenting yourself in your 20s and 30s

    S3 Ep. 12: Reparenting yourself in your 20s and 30s
    Oct 23 2026

    In this episode, we explore re-parenting yourself in your 20s and 30s and what it means to give yourself the care, guidance, and safety you may not have received growing up. We talk about why this work often comes up during adulthood, what re-parenting can look like in everyday life, navigating complicated relationships with parents, and letting go of the guilt that can come with wanting more for yourself.

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    1 ora e 6 min
  • S3 Ep. 11: The Audacity to Become ft. FT

    S3 Ep. 11: The Audacity to Become ft. FT
    Oct 9 2026

    In this episode, we’re joined by Chef Funmilade Taiwo (FT) for a conversation about “the audacity to become.” We explore his journey from mental health and psychology to entrepreneurship and, ultimately, becoming a professional chef. We talk about what it means to evolve beyond the person you once thought you’d become, embrace new beginnings, and have the courage to step into a new chapter.


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    59 min
  • S3 Ep. 10: Is Money Actually The Root Of All Evil?

    S3 Ep. 10: Is Money Actually The Root Of All Evil?
    Sep 19 2026

    In this episode, Paula explores the complex relationship people have with money—how it shapes our beliefs, identity, self-worth, and the way we view success. Together, we unpack whether money changes people or simply reveals who they already are, and what makes our relationship with money healthy or unhealthy. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on their own money narratives and redefine wealth beyond fear, shame, or judgment.



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    48 min
  • S3 Ep.9: Unlearning Shame Around Sexuality ft. Figs

    S3 Ep.9: Unlearning Shame Around Sexuality ft. Figs
    Sep 4 2026

    In this episode, we sit down with Sex Therapist and Podcast Host Figs to explore the complex relationship between shame and sexuality. We discuss how sexual shame is learned, how it shapes our experience of our bodies and desire, and how it can quietly affect relationships.

    We also examine the impact of cultural and religious expectations and offer compassionate guidance for anyone carrying sexual shame—what healing can look like and what it doesn’t. This conversation is a thoughtful, judgment-free space for understanding, self-acceptance, and growth.


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    1 ora e 4 min
  • S3 Ep.8: Gender Roles within Romantic Relationships

    S3 Ep.8: Gender Roles within Romantic Relationships
    Aug 21 2026

    In this episode, we explore how gender roles shape dating and relationships, from the “unspoken script” of who texts, plans, or pays to who carries emotional labor. Guests reflect on acting out of societal expectations versus genuine desire and discuss whether modern relationships are moving beyond traditional roles or creating new ones. The conversation highlights the importance of openly communicating about roles and expectations to build more balanced, authentic partnerships

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    1 ora e 10 min
  • S3 Ep.7: Is Marriage the Ultimate Accomplishment? ft. The Northern Therapist

    S3 Ep.7: Is Marriage the Ultimate Accomplishment? ft. The Northern Therapist
    Aug 7 2026

    Is marriage truly the ultimate achievement, or have we simply been taught to believe it is? In this episode, we sit down with The Northern Therapist to explore the expectations surrounding marriage, the misconceptions about singleness, and what it really means to live a meaningful life. Together, they unpack the difference between what marriage represents and the realities it brings, while challenging the idea that fulfillment is tied to relationship status. This conversation invites listeners to embrace a broader definition of success—one rooted in purpose, healing, and authenticity.


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    1 ora e 4 min
  • S3 Ep.6: Love Island USA Season 8 & Modern Dating: A Therapist's Take (Part 2)

    S3 Ep.6: Love Island USA Season 8 & Modern Dating: A Therapist's Take (Part 2)
    Jul 24 2026

    On this Part 2 episode of the DWHYA Podcast, we continue our conversation about this season of Love Island USA through a mental health lens — reflecting on the key moments, relationships, and lessons that emerged throughout the season. Together, we explore the deep desire to be chosen, the value of genuine friendship, and the roles that accountability, honesty, and emotional maturity play in building healthy relationships.

    As we recap the season, we unpack what reality TV can teach us about self-worth, connection, and the courage to show up authentically. Join us as we reflect on the conversations this season sparked and what they reveal about the way we love, grow, and seek meaningful relationships.

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    1 ora e 6 min