We all have things we say we value: faith, grace, honesty, hospitality, community. But do the cultures we create actually reflect those values?

Kendra and Kyler are joined by Pastor Joel Yoon to explore the relationship between culture, values, and habits—and what our everyday behaviors reveal about what matters most to us.

Together, they discuss:

• Why culture can be understood as the “common sense” assumptions and behaviors we rarely stop to notice

• How our cultural context shapes us in ways we may not recognize

• The relationship between our values, our habits, and the cultures we create

• The difference between our aspirational values and the values we functionally live by

• Why moments of stress often expose what we really value

• How our habits can contradict the things we say we believe

• Why simply trying harder to live up to our ideals isn’t enough

• What Jacob’s wrestling with God reveals about confession, identity, and transformation

• Why repentance should be a defining practice of Christian families and communities

• How parents communicate their values through what they celebrate, prioritize, ask about, and make time for

• Why our children—and the people closest to us—often recognize the gap between our stated and lived values

• How practices and habits can intentionally reinforce the cultures we hope to cultivate

• Why creating a culture of vulnerability, hospitality, or spiritual depth begins with practicing those things ourselves

• How cultures shaped by the gospel can bear witness to Christ

The gap between what we say we value and how we actually live can be uncomfortable to confront. But for Christians, recognizing that gap doesn’t have to lead to shame or frantic self-improvement.

Instead, it can lead us back to Christ. We can honestly confess who we are, receive His grace again, and ask Him to reshape our hearts so that our habits increasingly reflect what we say we believe.

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Next Step: Take an honest inventory of the culture you’re helping create in your family, friendships, community group, or another important relationship.

Start by identifying something you say you value—grace, hospitality, vulnerability, faith, generosity, community, or something else—and then look at your actual practices.

Ask:

• What do my habits suggest that I really value?

• What do I consistently celebrate, prioritize, or make time for?

• Where is there a gap between my aspirational values and my functional values?

• What might I need to confess rather than simply try harder to fix?

• What is one practice I could start—and what might I need to stop—to cultivate the kind of culture I want to create?

Invite someone close to you into the conversation. Ask what they experience from you, and be willing to receive what they see as an opportunity for repentance, grace, and growth.

Key Scriptures

• Deuteronomy 6

• Genesis 32

• John 13:34–35

• Philippians 2:12–13

Mentioned Resources

• The Christian Atheist by Craig Groeschel

• The Common Rule by Justin Whitmel Earley

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

Most Christians know we're called to share the gospel. But knowing that doesn't necessarily make it easy.

What if I don't know what to say? What if someone asks a question I can't answer? What if I make things awkward—or worse, push someone away?

In this episode, Kyler is joined by Campus Outreach staff Sam Collins and Sea Choi to explore how ordinary Christians can grow in confidence and faithfulness as they share Jesus with the people God has placed in their lives.

Drawing on their experiences in college ministry (including some memorable evangelism failures), they discuss:

• Why evangelism and discipleship belong together

• How Jesus' compassion for the crowds should shape our motivation for sharing the gospel

• Why fear, lack of experience, and uncertainty can keep us from having spiritual conversations

• What we can learn from evangelism attempts that go badly

• Why sharing the gospel isn't simply about delivering a presentation or getting someone to make a decision

• How to define small, faithful next steps without measuring success by someone else's response

• Why the people God has placed in our workplaces, neighborhoods, and everyday routines are opportunities for gospel witness

• What it looks like to share our faith as part of a community rather than on our own

• How Christian friendship, hospitality, and love for one another can bear witness to the gospel

• Practical ways to move conversations from external circumstances to internal experiences and eternal questions

• Why asking thoughtful questions, listening well, and sharing our own stories matter

• How to recognize that God may already be at work in someone's spiritual journey

• Why we can take risks, learn from our mistakes, and trust God with the results

Evangelism doesn't have to be an intimidating, isolated activity reserved for the most outgoing or spiritually mature Christians. It's part of what it means to follow Jesus—to see the people around us with His compassion, build genuine relationships, and learn to speak naturally about the hope we have in Him.

And because God is the one who brings spiritual growth, we're free to take faithful risks without carrying the burden of someone else's response.

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Evangelism doesn't have to be an intimidating, isolated activity reserved for the most outgoing or spiritually mature Christians. It's part of what it means to follow Jesus—to see the people around us with His compassion, build genuine relationships, and learn to speak naturally about the hope we have in Him.

A Practical Tool: External → Internal → Eternal

One framework Sam and Sea share for cultivating deeper conversations is to move gradually through three levels:

• External: Start with what's happening in someone's life—their work, family, interests, or circumstances.

• Internal: Ask about their experiences, feelings, desires, or how those circumstances are affecting them.

• Eternal: As the relationship and conversation allow, explore deeper questions about meaning, purpose, faith, and what they believe about God.

The goal isn't to force every conversation toward a gospel presentation, but to grow in the ability to listen, love, and engage others with genuine spiritual curiosity.

Key Scriptures

• Matthew 9:35–38

• 2 Corinthians 5

• Colossians 1–2

• John 13:34–35

• 1 Corinthians 3:5–9

• 1 Timothy 4:12

Mentioned Resources

• Campus Outreach San Diego (Redeemer's college ministry)

• The 3 Rs of Heart Renewal

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

When did you become a Christian? For some, the answer is a specific moment of conversion. For others, the story is more complicated. And even after coming to faith, many Christians find themselves wondering: If I'm really saved, why do I still struggle with sin? Am I growing enough? How can I know that God won't give up on me?

In this episode, Kendra and Kyler share their own stories of coming to faith and explore how the theology of salvation speaks to some of our most personal questions about the Christian life.

Together, they discuss:

• Why our testimonies don't need to be dramatic to be powerful

• How God works through both defining moments and ordinary experiences to draw us to Himself

• What theologians mean by the ordo salutis (order of salvation)

• How Romans 8 reveals God's work in salvation from beginning to end

• What regeneration, justification, adoption, sanctification, and glorification mean for believers

• Why understanding justification frees us from trying to earn God's approval

• How to understand Paul's command to "work out your salvation" when salvation is entirely God's work

• Why sanctification is often a messy, lifelong process

• What to do when persistent sin or a lack of visible growth makes us question our salvation

• How spiritual disciplines and the ordinary means of grace help cultivate assurance

• Why God's promise to finish what He started gives us humility, confidence, freedom to pursue obedience, and hope

Salvation isn't simply something that happened in the past. It's something God has accomplished in Christ, is working out in us by His Spirit, and promises to bring to completion.

Understanding that changes everything. We don't have to look to our performance to prove that we belong to Christ. We can look to His finished work, trusting that the God who called us to Himself will never abandon the work of His hands.

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Next Step: Take some time this week to reflect on your own story of salvation. Whether you can identify a specific moment when you came to faith or your story has unfolded more gradually, consider:

• Looking back: Where can you see evidence of God's grace in drawing you to Himself? How does understanding salvation as God's work reshape the way you tell your story?

• Looking at the present: Where are you tempted to measure your standing with God by your performance or spiritual progress? How might the distinction between justification and sanctification change the way you respond to your struggles?

• Looking forward: What would it look like to trust God's promise to complete the work He has begun in you?

Consider sharing your reflections with a friend. Practice telling your testimony in a way that highlights not just what has changed in your life, but what God has done—and continues to do—through Christ.

Key Scriptures

• Romans 8, especially verses 28–39

• Philippians 2:12–13

• Ephesians 2:1–10

• Philippians 1:6

• 2 Peter 1:5–11

• Romans 7

• Luke 7:36–50

• 1 John 3:2

Don’t forget to submit a question for an upcoming Q&A episode using this form.

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

Every episode of Christ In You begins with the question, “What’s forming you?” This time, that question becomes the whole conversation.

Kendra and Kyler use Redeemer’s discipleship framework—living out God’s Word, experiencing heart renewal, and investing in others—to take an honest inventory of how God is at work in their lives right now.

Together, they discuss:

• What Romans 7 is teaching Kyler about sin, grace, and the freedom to repent

• What Kendra is learning from Esther about God’s providence and grace toward imperfect people

• Why Christian maturity doesn’t mean outgrowing our need for repentance

• How comparison can expose what our hearts are really valuing

• How the 3 Rs help us move from heart exposure through repentance to rejoicing in Christ

• Why reflection and anticipation can help us respond faithfully rather than simply react

• How Sabbath and margin create space to pay attention to God and others

• What investing in others looks like in ordinary places like kids’ sports, friendships, and around the dinner table

• Why sharing the gospel begins with genuinely knowing and loving the person in front of us

• How God can be at work in relationships long before we recognize what He is doing

• Why discipleship is something we practice in community, not just something we evaluate on our own

Spiritual formation isn’t only happening in Bible studies, church programs, or obvious moments of growth. God is at work in ordinary conversations, hidden heart struggles, unfinished work, unexpected opportunities, and relationships that unfold slowly over time.

This episode is an invitation to pay attention: Where is God meeting you in His Word? Where is He renewing your heart? Where is He inviting you to invest in someone else? And what might you notice if you asked those questions with someone who knows you well?

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Next Step: Have your own discipleship check-in with a friend this week. Use Redeemer’s discipleship triangle as a framework and ask one another:

• Live Out God’s Word: How has the Lord been meeting you in His Word lately? What is He teaching you that you’re learning to live out?

• Experience Heart Renewal: What has God been revealing about your heart? Where is He leading you toward repentance and helping you rejoice again in the gospel?

• Invest in Others: Who has God placed in front of you to know, love, serve, or share your faith with? Where might He be inviting you to make more room for another person?

And don’t forget to submit a question for an upcoming Q&A episode using this form.

Key Scriptures

• Romans 7–8

• Esther 1–2

• Philippians 1:6, 2:12–13

Recommended Resources / Mentioned Resources

• 3 Rs of Heart Renewal

• GOSPEL Rule of Life - Selected Resources

• Gospel of Mark workshop

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

Every generation encounters the same gospel in a different cultural context. So what does it look like to understand, love, and learn from the next generation of Christ followers?

In this episode, Kyler is joined by Campus Outreach staff Sam Collins and Sea Choi to talk about the world Gen Z is navigating—and what an intergenerational church can learn from listening well.

Together, they discuss:

• What gives them hope about Gen Z

• How social media, COVID, and secularization have shaped the world younger Christians inhabit

• Why Gen Z’s desire for authenticity can create opportunities for meaningful gospel conversations

• How the gospel speaks to deep longings for identity, belonging, justice, and stability

• Why relationships matter when sharing the gospel in a culture saturated with information

• What older generations may misunderstand about younger Christians

• Why younger Christians need more than advice or expertise from those ahead of them

• How honesty about our own weakness can point others toward grace

• What older generations can learn from Gen Z’s energy, questions, and willingness to believe change is possible

• Why intergenerational relationships are essential to the life of the church

• Practical ways Christians of different ages and stages can begin building relationships with one another

The cultural context may change from generation to generation, but our deepest needs—and the gospel that answers them—do not.

An intergenerational church gives us the opportunity to commend God’s works from one generation to another: offering younger believers stability, wisdom, and an embodied picture of long-term faithfulness while receiving their questions, energy, perspective, and faith in return.

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Next Step: This Sunday, intentionally connect with someone from a different generation or stage of life. Learn their name and ask a real question. Consider inviting someone younger or older into your ordinary life—over a meal, into your home, or simply into a deeper conversation.

Rather than thinking only about what you have to offer another generation, ask: What might I have to learn from them? How could this relationship help both of us grow toward maturity in Christ?

Key Scriptures

• Psalm 145:4

• Ecclesiastes

• Acts 17

• 1 Thessalonians 2:8

• 1 Timothy 1

• 1 Timothy 4:12

• 1 Corinthians 1

• Ephesians 4

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

Most of us know the basic story of Jonah: God sends a prophet to Nineveh, Jonah runs away, and a giant fish intervenes. But beneath the familiar story is a deeply challenging question: Do we really want God to be as merciful to others as He has been to us?

As Redeemer begins a new sermon series through Jonah, Kendra and Kyler are joined by Lead Pastor Paul Kim to explore what this short prophetic book is really about.

Together, they discuss:

• Why God’s “pursuing grace” is central to the story of Jonah

• How Jonah becomes a mirror for our own desire for mercy for ourselves and judgment for others

• The Hebrew wordplay in Jonah’s name and how it highlights God’s faithfulness

• The historical circumstances that may help us understand Nineveh’s dramatic response

• How Christians can think about Jonah and the great fish

• Why God’s sovereignty is visible throughout the book

• How Jonah exposes the danger of wanting God to conform to our ideas of justice and mercy

• The surprising parallels between Jonah and Jesus’ parable of the prodigal son

• Why Nineveh’s wickedness makes God’s compassion especially confronting

• What Jonah reveals about God’s justice, sovereignty, compassion, and mercy

• How Jesus is both the true and greater Jonah—and the “anti-Jonah”

• Why God’s grace toward us should transform the way we see our enemies

• What Jonah can teach reluctant Christians about mission and evangelism

Jonah confronts us with a God who refuses to offer “discriminatory grace.” He pursues Jonah when Jonah runs, shows compassion to people Jonah despises, and patiently exposes the self-righteousness of His prophet.

And that same tension between justice and mercy ultimately leads us to Jesus: the One who willingly went to His enemies, bore judgment in their place, and makes mercy possible for people like us.

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Next Step: Read the book of Jonah in one sitting as Redeemer walks through it together. As you read, ask where Jonah’s heart reflects your own: Who are the people you struggle to see as objects of God’s compassion? Who would be difficult for you to pray for—or to rejoice over if God showed them mercy?

Then identify one person God has placed in your life and pray for them. Ask the Lord what a faithful next step might look like to connect or reconnect with that person and reflect His pursuing grace toward them.

Key Scriptures

• Jonah 1–4

• Hosea 7:11

• Matthew 12

• Matthew 16

• Luke 11

• Luke 15

• James 2

Recommended Resources

• The Prodigal Prophet by Timothy Keller

• Gospel of Mark Workshop — October 24

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

Our culture tells us to do more, move faster, maximize our efficiency, and somehow fit more into every day. But what if wisdom begins by accepting a simple reality: we are limited?

In the final episode of their series on wisdom and discernment, Kendra and Kyler explore what it means to live faithfully within the limits God has given us.

Together, they discuss:

• Why our limitations are part of God’s good creation, not simply a result of the fall

• How our desire to overcome every limit can reveal an illusion of self-sufficiency

• Why productivity and efficiency can be good gifts without becoming measures of our worth

• How to discern between limits we should accept and areas where God may be stretching us

• Why saying yes to one good thing necessarily means saying no to something else

• Three helpful questions: What belongs to me? What belongs to God? What belongs to others?

• How our gifts and callings help us discern what is—and isn’t—ours to do

• Why our limits are an invitation to depend on the body of Christ

• How busyness can make us impatient, irritable, and unavailable to the people around us

• Why faithfulness may look different in different seasons of life

• How the four walls of discernment can help us ask, “Am I too busy?”

Wisdom doesn’t mean figuring out how to hack our way out of being human. It means learning to live faithfully within God’s design—receiving our time, bodies, responsibilities, relationships, and even our limitations as gifts to steward.

Our limits remind us that we are creatures, not God. And rather than diminishing us, they invite us into dependence: on the God who sustains us and on the people He has given us.

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Next Step: Take an honest look at your calendar this week and ask three questions:

• What belongs to me?

• What belongs to God?

• What belongs to others?

Consider the responsibilities God has actually given you in this season—and where you may be carrying something that isn’t yours to carry. You might also ask: If I were unexpectedly given a free hour today, what would my heart immediately want to do with it? What does that reveal about what is driving me?

Bring those reflections into community and invite someone who knows you well to help you discern what faithfulness looks like in your current season.

Key Scriptures

• Genesis 3

• Psalm 8

• Psalm 90, especially Psalm 90:12

• Ephesians 5:15–17

• 2 Corinthians 1:8–10

Recommended Resources

• A Place for You by Kendra Dahl

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org

We may know the “right” answers about what matters most—but our calendars and bank statements often tell a more complicated story.

In this episode of our series on wisdom and discernment, Kendra and Kyler ask what the way we use our money and resources reveals about our vision of the good life.

Together, they discuss:

• How culture shapes our definitions of success, comfort, status, and “making it”

• Why looking at where our time and money actually go can reveal what we really value

• Jesus’ warning in the parable of the rich fool that life does not consist in the abundance of possessions

• Why having wealth or enjoying God’s provision is not inherently wrong

• The difference between receiving God’s gifts with gratitude and storing them up for ourselves

• How generosity, hospitality, justice, mission, and enjoyment can all be part of faithful stewardship

• Why wisdom asks more than “Can I afford this?”

• How our spending can cultivate gratitude or entitlement, contentment or dissatisfaction, freedom or dependence

• Why our individual circumstances and temptations matter when making financial decisions

• How comparison can lead us toward either envy or self-righteousness

• Why money is meant to be discussed and discerned in Christian community

The goal isn’t to find a universal dollar amount that separates faithful spending from unfaithful spending. Wisdom asks a deeper question: Who am I becoming through the way I use what God has given me?

Because everything we have is received from God, we’re free to hold it with open hands—enjoying His provision with gratitude, sharing generously, and trusting that the God who has richly provided for us in Christ will continue to care for us.

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Next Step: This week, bring some thoughtfulness to the way you use your money. Before a purchase—or as you look back at recent spending—ask:

• Is this cultivating gratitude or entitlement?

• Contentment or dissatisfaction?

• Freedom or dependence?

• Generosity or self-protection?

• Trust or anxiety?

• Humility or status?

• Who is this choice forming me to become?

Then bring the conversation into community. Money can feel deeply private, but wisdom is meant to be practiced with others. Invite a trusted friend to help you examine what your spending reveals about your heart and to point you back to the abundance you already have in Christ.

Key Scriptures

• Luke 12:13–34

• 1 Timothy 6:17–19

• James 1–2; 5

• Matthew 6:19–34

• Matthew 22:37–40

• 1 Corinthians 4:7

• Colossians 3

• Proverbs 22:7

Christ In You: Conversations on Spiritual Formation is a podcast from Redeemer Presbyterian Church in San Diego, exploring how the gospel forms us in the everyday rhythms of life.

Kendra Dahl is the Director of Women’s Ministry at Redeemer, and Kyler Wright is the Pastor of Spiritual Formation. Together, they host conversations with pastors and ministry leaders to help believers grow in Christ.

To learn more about Redeemer and find additional resources, visit www.redeemersd.org