There’s a specific kind of frustration that shows up for high-capacity leaders.

You know what you want.
You’ve thought it through.
You’ve made the decision consciously.

And yet… you still hesitate.
You still circle the same choice.
You still feel slower than you “should” be.

In this episode, I name what’s actually happening and it’s not procrastination, fear, or self-sabotage.

It’s something I call identity lag.

Identity lag happens when your life starts moving faster than your nervous system can comfortably integrate. Your mind may be clear, but your body is still catching up to who you’re becoming.

In this conversation, I share:

• Why feeling “stuck” is often a sign of integration, not failure

• How high-capacity leaders experience identity lag more intensely

• The difference between intuition and nervous system stress

• Why clarity isn’t always the missing piece — and what actually is

• How shifting from self-monitoring to leadership and contribution can unlock movement again

I also share personal stories from my own life — moments when everything was aligned on paper, yet my nervous system reacted with hesitation and fatigue right before stepping into something meaningful.

If you’ve ever told yourself:

• “I should be past this by now”

• “Why does this feel harder than it should?”

• “What’s wrong with me?”

This episode is here to gently take the pressure off.

Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not behind.
Your system may simply be integrating a new level of responsibility, visibility, or truth.

And that deserves support — not force.

• 🧭 Free Energy Audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit
• 🌊 The Intuitive Leader Retreat (March 3–5, 2026 | Lincoln City, OR): https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026
• 🌱 The Spiritual CEO Community: https://www.skool.com/thespiritualceo/about
• The Elixir - https://www.brendawinkle.com/elixir

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Send me a message on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook or leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts to help this work reach more leaders who need it.

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Sometimes the exact thing you want - more leadership, more impact, a bigger decision, a new season - can make you feel anxious, exhausted, frozen, or unusually triggered.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It often means you’re in identity lag and your nervous system is activated.

In this episode, I break down why growth can feel heavy even when you’re ready, how to tell the difference between intuition and stress responses, and what to do so you can keep moving without self-betrayal.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why “I feel scared, so it’s not aligned” is often a misread

• What identity lag is (and why it can make you tired)

• The difference between fear, avoidance, and a stress response

• Why strategy works when identity is stable (and backfires when it’s not)

• The 3 supports that create real identity integration:

  1. regulation

  2. mirroring

  3. spacious, embodied decisions

If growth is making you tired, edgy, emotional, or frozen—nothing is wrong with you. Your body is prioritizing safety during change. And with the right support, you can stabilize into who you’re becoming.

Intuitive Leader Retreat (March 3–5, 2026 | Lincoln City, Oregon)
A small, embodied container for nervous system regulation, identity integration, and real-time mirroring.
➡️ https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026

The Elixir ($77 on-demand)
14 short, powerful tools (3–6 minutes each) for real-time emotional + nervous system regulation.
➡️ https://www.brendawinkle.com/elixir

Ongoing community: The Spiritual CEO membership
Weekly support to lead your life + business with steadiness, ethics, and connection.
➡️ https://www.skool.com/thespiritualceo/about

Free: Download the Energy Audit
➡️ https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit

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Identity isn’t something you “figure out.” It’s something you shift into. In this episode, Brenda breaks down four practical ways identity actually changes - not through mindset hacks or pressure, but through embodiment, nervous system safety, and self-trust.

If you’ve done the training, earned the credentials, and still feel like you’re negotiating with yourself to move forward… this episode will land.

You’ll learn why identity shifts can feel so destabilizing, how child parts and protector parts quietly shape your decisions, and what actually helps you step into the version of yourself you already know is emerging.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why identity change can feel threatening to the nervous system
• The concept of secondary gain (what you may be unconsciously protecting)
• How clothing, roles, and self-permission reinforce identity Child parts vs. protector parts -and how they impact confidence and visibility
• Why you don’t need one income stream to be “legitimate” How turning the spotlight outward makes identity shifts easier
• What internal safety has to do with decision-making Why over-consuming information can stall momentum

Ways to go deeper:

The Elixir – 14 on-demand somatic tools for emotional regulation https://www.brendawinkle.com/elixir

Intuitive Leader Retreat (March 3–5, 2026 | Oregon Coast) https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026

Spiritual CEO Membership https://www.skool.com/thespiritualceo/about

Free Clarity Guide – discern next steps and mentorship alignment

Free Energy Audit: brendawinkle.com/audit

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Thinking harder won’t get you unstuck. In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle—energetic leadership guide, psychic medium, and somatic coach—explores the truth most people miss: your identity is what drives your decisions, capacity, and outcomes.

This episode meets you in the moments when things feel heavy, unclear, or overwhelming and brings you back into your body so you can access the version of you who already knows what’s true. Through real-time somatic practices, identity reflection, and grounded leadership insight, you’ll learn how nervous system safety - not more information - is the foundation for aligned action.

We also name what’s happening in the world right now. Because “protect your energy” can become spiritual bypassing when it’s used to avoid integrity, values, and responsibility. You don’t have to be loud. You do get to be honest about who you are.

• Why identity - not strategy - drives results

• How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn impact decision-making

• Simple somatic practices to regulate your nervous system fast

• Why embodiment can feel unfamiliar (and how to return safely)

• How outdated identities quietly keep you stuck

• What integrity-based leadership looks like in uncertain times

• Nervous system down-regulation through breath and bilateral stimulation

• Body-based awareness practices you can return to anytime

The Elixir - 14 short, on-demand somatic resets (3–6 minutes each) to interrupt overwhelm and support clean decisions https://www.brendawinkle.com/elixir
The Intuitive Leader Retreat - A 3-day oceanfront retreat for intuitive leaders
📍 Lincoln City, Oregon | 🗓️ March 3–5, 2026 | https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat2026
Free Energy Audit – https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit
Free Clarity Guide – https://www.brendawinkle.com/clarityguide

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As the new year begins, many intuitive practitioners feel called toward change, but not the “new year, new you” kind.

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle invites you into a deeper, more grounded reflection on identity, leadership, and what it really takes to step into your next level as a healer, coach, or guide.

Brenda shares why identity - not effort - is the true driver of sustainable success, why affirmations often backfire, and how subtle, embodied shifts create profound change. She also speaks directly to intuitive practitioners who know they’re sensing more than they’re saying—and are ready to trust that information with skill, ethics, and confidence.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• Why identity work matters more than resolutions

• How to shift identity without triggering resistance

• What “I am becoming someone who…” actually changes

• Why intuition alone isn’t enough - and how skill creates safety

• How trusting your intuition impacts pricing, confidence, and leadership

• What’s included in the Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification

• A first look at the upcoming Spiritual Biz Builder’s Retreat

This episode is for practitioners who are done circling and ready to lead with clarity, integrity, and ease.

✨ Enrollment for the Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification closes January 2. We begin January 5. Learn more and enroll here: https://www.brendawinkle.com/somatic
✨ The Intuitive Leader Retreat takes place March 3–5 in Lincoln City, Oregon.

Free Energy Audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit

Spiritual CEO Membership: https://www.brendawinkle.com/membership

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If you’re an intuitive or somatic practitioner who knows your gifts are real but still hesitates to fully commit, this episode is for you.

In this deeply honest episode, Brenda Winkle shares why so many gifted healers struggle to get paid - not because they lack skill or motivation, but because betting on yourself feels like it could cost you safety, relationships, or identity.

Brenda reflects on a year when she nearly quit, the nervous-system realities of visibility and leadership, and the quiet fears that keep practitioners under-charging, over-giving, and second-guessing their work.

This episode explores:

• Why fear -

  not laziness -keeps practitioners stuck

• How staying “uncommitted” actually costs more over time

• The nervous system impact of charging a living wage

• Why letting clients pay you is part of their healing

• How intuitive somatic structure creates confidence, clarity, and sustainability

If you’ve ever wondered whether your healing work can truly support your life, this conversation will meet you where you are—and invite you into your next level.

✨ Enrollment for the Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification is open for a few more days. We begin January 5 and close January 2.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification – Enrollment closes January 2 - Click here to enroll - payment plans available

• Free Energy Audit: brendawinkle.com/audit

• Spiritual CEO Membership (January enrollment open) Click here to enroll

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Why intuitive practitioners still struggle with confidence, client results, and consistency and how somatic translation, ethical restraint, and nervous system regulation change everything.

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle speaks directly to experienced intuitive practitioners, healers, coaches, educators, and guides who already sense deeply, yet feel like something still isn’t landing the way it should.

This episode explores why intuition alone does not create lasting client transformation, and why so many skilled practitioners unintentionally stall despite their gifts, training, and commitment.

Brenda introduces the concept of intuition as information, not impact, and explains why what’s missing isn’t motivation, talent, or insight — but translation.

You’ll learn:

• Why intuitive insight is only the beginning, not the breakthrough

• The difference between sensing and skillful response

• How over-intervening actually blocks client transformation

• Why ethical restraint creates cleaner sessions and faster results

• How nervous system regulation impacts confidence, pricing, and leadership

• Why intuitive and somatic work cannot be separated from equity, inclusion, and bias awareness

• What makes the Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification different from anything else available

This episode is especially for practitioners who:

• Care deeply and feel responsible for client outcomes

• Leave sessions replaying what they said

• Struggle with consistent results or confidence

• Know they’re meant to lead at a higher level

Invitation:
Enrollment is open for the Intuitive Somatic Healing Certification. This is the only time the program will be taught fully live, with direct access, practice, and mentorship.

🗓 January 5 – February 23
🎓 Live certification + graduation
📍 Limited to 20 practitioners

Learn more and register here (payment plan is available)

Join the Spiritual CEO Membership

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You can sense it before a client ever explains it.

The hesitation in their voice or the change in pitch.
The tightening in their body, the fidgeting.
The moment where the words don’t match what’s actually happening.

In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle breaks down what’s really happening in powerful client sessions and why so many practitioners unknowingly coach the wrong thing.

This is a deep dive into somatic awareness, intuitive precision, and nervous-system informed facilitation whether you’re a healer, coach, educator, physician, or leader who works closely with people.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What somatic work actually is (and what it isn’t)

• How to recognize the conversation under the conversation

• Why surface-level problem solving often leads to resistance and stalled results

• How nervous system activation blocks change even when clients “want” it

• The difference between insight and integration

• Why intuition without somatic tracking leads to burnout and projection

• How ethical, body-based facilitation creates deeper results in less time

Brenda also shares real client examples - including physicians, writers, and leaders - showing how somatic tracking helps clients move through identity shifts, fear, and resistance safely and sustainably.

This episode is essential listening if:

• Your clients get insight but don’t integrate

• You feel drained after sessions

• You sense more than you know how to use

• You want to work with confidence instead of overthinking

• You care deeply about ethics, safety, and real transformation

🔮 Intuitive Somatic Healer Certification
Enrollment is open through January 2 or until 20 spots are filled.
This 6-week advanced training teaches you how to track the nervous system, read the field ethically, and facilitate lasting change without projection or burnout. Learn more and enroll here.

🌊 The Reset Retreat – Lincoln City, Oregon
Enrollment open through February 15
VIP + Standard tiers close January 20 (calls begin that week) Learn more and apply here

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