This week Jeremy looks at the useful and disappointing case study of Dan McClellan’s defense of tithing. We look at how smart people can still fall into cognitive biases, how appeals to emotion are successful PR, and how the deconstruction space allows for too much hierarchy still. Jeremy talks about the difference between deconstruction and decolonization, and highlights the importance of looking at power dynamics in cultural critique.

Looking for retreat details? Come hang here at Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

Jeremy is back at it this week tackling the worst part of the internet, the manosphere! After calling out misogyny last week I got all sorts of trolls defending dudes, so this week I’m helping the bros see the parallels between high control religion and high follower count influencers. We’re looking at how these grifts operate in selling a product that keeps you broken, so you always come back as a repeat customer. Modern indulgences are just creatine supplements.

Looking for retreat details? Come hang here at Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

It's not another misogyny episode, except that somehow, it is. Jeremy is looking at the connection from Shane Gillis’ SNL monologue manufacturing consent for the culture wars to how that normalizes an entire culture of sexual violence, political spectacle, and abject cruelty. We're also taking a critical look at how misogyny gets packaged as entertainment and reinforced by the institutions around us. We also talk accountability, because recognizing the problem isn't enough. The real question becomes what we're willing to risk when challenging the people and cultures that reward misogyny.

Looking for retreat details? Come hang here at Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

This week Jeremy is talking about spooky season! It’s almost Halloween, so we're talking reclamation, the strange Christian obsession with Satan and the hilarious fear-mongering to people who don’t believe a fallen angel with a pitchfork is giving us candy. We ponder the fascinating idea that maybe you can keep the ritual, ditch the doctrine, and build a post-religious life that still has room for mystery, meaning, community, and more than a little fun.

Looking for retreat details? Come hang here at Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

This week Jeremy is talking about duels! Ten paces, turn and fire, except, actually, modern violence looks a lot more like insurance claim denials and qualified immunity than any version of fisticuffs. Jeremy digs into why we still think of violence in only person-to-person terms, and who gets to decide which violence is visible and allowable.

Looking for retreat details? Come hang here at Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

Jeremy is joined by one of his favorite collaborators, Emily Lapolice, to announce a retreat for May 14-16, 2027. Jeremy and Emily talk about their thought process in putting the retreat together, share some of their hopes for what might be accomplished in that weekend, and highlight some of the ideas for a safe, calm, trauma sensitive retreat that centers autonomy and community.

To learn more about the retreat and sign up, head over to Rest & Return: A Weekend for Soft Landings

To learn more about Emily and her work, head over to iwtherapies.com or follow her on IG.

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

This week Jeremy grapples with the paradox that everyone wants community but so few people actually do community well. Using some real life examples from his own lived experience, Jeremy highlights some of the common pitfalls of too many humans interacting with one another, and lays out some of the high points of communities that unfortunately still tend to fail at scale. We wrap this week’s episode looking forward to what changes we can focus on to support better communities in the future.

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

This week Jeremy asks why is it so hard to do the things we actually want to do? He explores the gap between desire and capacity, and why exhaustion, perfectionism, and the lure of immediate gratification can make even the things we love feel like chores. Maybe the answer isn't more discipline, but less shame, less friction, and permission to do things badly simply because we enjoy them.

As always, Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. You can donate directly to support religious trauma survivors here. We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well! None of my online work would be possible without my media maven Kenny, so check out their work as well at kenlingdesign.com

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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.