Today we’re stepping into a conversation that so many people carry quietly: estrangement. It’s a subject filled with complexity, grief, unanswered questions, and deeply human longing.

This episode was sparked by a recent Oprah conversation with mental-health professionals and families navigating estrangement, along with an article by Patty Slo Munson, LCPC, titled “Estrangement: The New Epidemic for Parents of Adult Children.” Both reveal a painful trend—more adult children are cutting contact without explanation, leaving parents in a fog of confusion and heartbreak.

In this episode, I open my heart and share my own experience.
For the past three years, I have been estranged from my adult son—a reality I never imagined. I talk through:

• the moment he told me he didn’t feel loved, despite my unwavering devotion
• the confusion and shock that came after I helped him and his wife during the birth of their baby
• the abrupt shift that led to silence, distance, and unanswered questions
• the pain of replaying years of parenting, searching for where things went wrong
• and the deep ache of loving someone so fiercely while being shut out of their life

I also share a second layer of this journey—my estrangement from my mom, and how that experience unfolded during the most fragile and painful season of my life.
It is honest, raw, and deeply vulnerable.

But this episode is not just about heartbreak. It is also about healing, self-love, and rebuilding from the inside out.

Over the last three years, I have walked through therapy, grief, self-reflection, and the painful but necessary decision to choose myself. I talk about:

• learning to stop begging for love
• recognizing emotional patterns that were harming me
• listening to my own inner voice for the first time
• rebuilding self-worth after years of shrinking
• creating a safer, stronger, more grounded version of myself

If you are navigating estrangement—whether from a parent, a child, or someone you love—please know you are not alone. This episode offers understanding, compassion, and hope for anyone who feels the ache of distance.

You deserve to feel loved, supported, and whole.
Your life is not over.
There is light ahead.

Thank you for being here with me today.
If this episode speaks to you, please like, subscribe, or share it with someone who might need comfort and connection.

At the bottom of this episode, you’ll find a short summary and additional resources

Episode Summary

In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, our host examines a familiar yet rarely spoken truth: how easily we can lose ourselves inside a relationship. From the early excitement of online dating to the whirlwind romance, marriage, blended families, and silent sacrifices — this story unfolds as a powerful reminder of the consequences of abandoning your own needs for the sake of harmony.

The episode explores what happens when a partner prioritizes their family’s expectations over marital unity, when privacy dissolves, and when self-worth begins to erode. But woven through the heartbreak is a message of resilience, self-reclamation, and the slow, patient work of rebuilding a life that centers your own value.

Listeners will walk away with insight, affirmation, and an invitation to ask themselves the hard question: “What have I done for me lately?”

🔑 Key Topics Covered

• The silent act of “boxing yourself away” in relationships
• The evolution of dating from traditional encounters to online platforms
• How societal pressure to marry shapes dating choices
• Early stages of love: chemistry, compatibility, and fast-tracked relationships
• Red flags hidden beneath harmony
• The danger of becoming the “giver” who asks for nothing
• Family enmeshment and blurred boundaries
• The emotional consequences of having no privacy in a marriage
• Realizing when you’ve been taken for granted
• The moment a marriage shifts from partnership to misalignment
• Rebuilding after emotional depletion
• How tending to yourself becomes an act of survival
• The slow, courageous process of healing from the inside out

📝 Episode Highlights & Insights

• “We enter relationships and place ourselves on a shelf… hoping one day someone will notice we’re missing.”
• Meeting a partner online sparked a fast, passionate connection — but harmony without honesty eventually cracks.
• The honeymoon phase masked deeper issues: people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and unequal treatment within a blended family.
• As property was divided and decisions were made, discrepancies and favoritism surfaced.
• Speaking up about boundaries was met with silence, ridicule, and family allegiance — leaving the host emotionally isolated within her own marriage.
• Relearning how to breathe, move, and reclaim life became an act of courage.
• Self-care isn’t indulgence — it’s survival.
• Healing begins with the tiniest shuffle forward, not a leap.

❤️ Powerful Lesson of the Episode

Filling everyone else’s cup while leaving yours empty isn’t love — it’s self-erasure.
And the path back begins with one tiny act of care for yourself.

📌 Reflection Questions for Listeners

1. Have you ever silenced your own needs to keep peace in a relationship?
2. Do you share your truth, or do you avoid it to stay “easy to love”?
3. Are you filling your own cup, or only pouring into others?
4. What is one gentle thing you can do for yourself today?

What do you do when the holidays don’t look the way you imagined? When you're not surrounded by family, when you don't have a village, or when traditions feel more painful than joyful?

In this episode, I share a personal story of a holiday spent alone—a season filled with estrangement, confusion, and a deep sense of abandonment. But it also became the season where I learned the power of acceptance, planning ahead, and choosing to create meaning even when no one else invites you to it.

We talk about:
• When loneliness feels like rejection
• Grieving the family or traditions you hoped for
• Why planning ahead is emotional self-care
• Simple ways to create comfort, even if you’re spending the day alone
• The mindset shift from “just surviving” to “learning to thrive”

Being alone doesn't mean you're forgotten. Sometimes it means you are in a season of rebuilding, growing, and learning to stand beautifully on your own.

You are not alone in your loneliness.

If this episode speaks to you, share it with someone who may need a little extra comfort this season.

In this opening episode, your host shares the honest and vulnerable story behind why this podcast was created. After experiencing a series of traumatic events three years ago — including divorce and a complete identity shift — she turned to online communities, motivational speakers, and podcasts for support. The encouragement she received became the foundation of her healing. Now, she’s here to give that same support back.

What this episode covers:

• How trauma led to a full reinvention rather than returning to an “old self”
• Choosing a legal name change as part of rebuilding identity
• The role social media groups and podcasts played in her healing
• Why sharing stories, research, and resources matters
• Encouragement for those walking a similar path
• The central question of this podcast: “What about me?”

What listeners will gain:

• Validation for the emotions that come with trauma
• Hope from someone who is further along in the healing process
• Practical encouragement, empathy, and direction
• A reminder that healing is possible — even when it doesn’t feel like it

In this heartfelt episode, your host shares her vision for Season 1 and why this podcast exists: to remind everyday people — the ones who feel invisible, unheard, or forgotten — that their experiences matter. She opens up about the moments that made her believe she was alone in her pain, and the truth she learned as she stepped into the world of healing and community:
Nothing happens to us singularly.

Through her own journey of trauma, heartbreak, and rebuilding, she discovered that thousands of others walk similar paths. Now her mission is to give a voice to the people who rarely get the spotlight — the “little man and woman” whose stories deserve to be seen and honored.

In this episode, she explores:

• Why her first season will touch on many different life experiences
• The power of seeing your story reflected in someone else’s
• The loneliness that comes from broken relationships and trauma
• How trauma shapes who we become and why healing feels isolating
• Why everyday people’s stories matter just as much as experts and influencers
• The importance of sharing your truth so others feel less alone
• How knowledge, community, and storytelling help us heal
• The transformation that comes from choosing self-love
• Why loving yourself must come before seeking it from anyone else
• What personal empowerment looks like after deep emotional pain

Core Message:
You are not alone in your struggle.
You are not weak for hurting.
You are not “too much” for needing support.

Your story has value — and someone else’s healing may depend on hearing it.

In this raw and honest episode, your host shares the moment everything shifted — when confusion, gaslighting, emotional abuse, and broken relationships finally collided with clarity. Once the truth was undeniable, she knew the life she was living could no longer continue.

She opens up about walking away from a marriage, grieving multiple relationships at once, and facing the fear of being alone. What followed was the hardest journey of her life: rebuilding herself, choosing peace, and learning to love the person she is today.

In this episode:

• Recognizing emotional abuse and gaslighting
• How clarity changes everything
• Choosing peace over chaos
• Grieving relationships that collapse without warning
• The reality of healing after divorce
• Why shortcuts don’t work — you must walk through the pain
• Rebuilding self-worth and reclaiming your voice
• Learning to pour love back into yourself

In this deeply personal episode, your host opens up about the questions so many of us quietly ask:
When do we realize childhood trauma shaped us? How long does it take to identify emotional abuse? Why is gaslighting so hard to recognize until it’s too late? Why do we stay in relationships where we are taken for granted?

She shares her honest journey of ruminating over broken relationships, grieving connections that ended without explanation, and trying to understand why patterns repeated. Her life changed drastically three years ago when three of her closest relationships collapsed in the same season — leaving her shattered, spiraling, and forced to rebuild from the ground up.

But through the pain came a truth she now lives by: you matter.

This episode explores the importance of self-love, self-respect, and no longer accepting less than you deserve. Your host shares how choosing herself, honoring her worth, and treating herself with the same care she once reserved for others finally brought peace, clarity, and healing.

What this episode covers:

• Recognizing emotional abuse, gaslighting, and being taken for granted
• How unhealed trauma shapes our relationships
• Why unexplained disconnects hurt so deeply
• Grieving friendships and relationships that once felt safe
• The moment everything collapsed — and what it sparked
• Rebuilding identity after loss
• How self-love becomes the path back to wholeness
• Encouragement for listeners who are still hurting