Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Lifestyle Stories

EP213 – Sexual Wellness, Performance Anxiety & Pleasure Products for Better Sex in the Swinger Lifestyle (Promescent CEO)

Sex toys, delay sprays, arousal gels, performance anxiety, libido, orgasms, and why using sexual wellness products does not mean you’re “bad in bed.”

In this episode, we’re joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, one of the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brands, to talk about the real science, real psychology, and real-world use of pleasure products — especially in the swinger and non-monogamous lifestyle.

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We dive deep into premature ejaculation, the arousal gap, performance pressure, female pleasure, and why the best lovers in the world use tools.

We also explore the incredible backstory of Promescent, including clinical trials, urologists, turning down a $30M pharma buyout, and why Jeff was determined to keep these products available next to condoms, not behind a prescription counter.

If you’ve ever wondered:

- Is using a delay spray cheating?

- Is performance anxiety mental or physical?

- Do arousal gels actually work?

- What should be in a swinger’s hoe-on-the-go bag?

- How do you last longer with multiple partners?

In This Episode

- The biggest myths about sexual wellness products and what they really mean

- Why the best lovers in the world use performance and pleasure aids

- The real science behind premature ejaculation (and why it’s mostly physiological)

- The “arousal gap” and why most women need more time than most men

- Performance anxiety vs physical dysfunction — which is more common?

- The true story of turning down a $30M pharma acquisition

- How Promescent went from one product to 20,000+ retail stores (Target, Walgreens, CVS, etc.)

- Spray vs wipes: which works best and when to use each

- How long delay spray lasts and how to reapply in multi-partner scenarios

- What swingers should actually carry in their hoe-on-the-go bag

- Female pleasure, arousal gels, blood flow, and why warming/buzzing gels work

Useful Links from This Episode:

Join us at a Swingers Event: https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

Sponsors

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EP212 – Hot Takes: The Hotwife Boom – Trend, Evolution or Opportunism? (Bonus Episode)

Hotwife is everywhere right now, searches are rising, events are multiplying, creators are rebranding, and porn studios are showing up in lifestyle spaces looking for “talent.” So is this a genuine shift in the lifestyle… or is porn culture and trend chasing bleeding into swinging?

Our Hottakes bonus episode, we unpack what hotwifing actually is (and isn’t), why the label is suddenly trending, and whether separate play dynamics are becoming more normal at couples events, or if it’s mostly just branding and algorithms.

• What hotwifing means (and how it’s different from cuckolding and “just separate play”)
• Why “hotwife” searches spiked in 2024–2025 (Google Trends nerd moment)
• The rise of hotwife-specific events, hall passes, and separate-play meetups
• Are we seeing more hotwifing in real life — or just more people using the label?
• Porn studios entering lifestyle spaces (including a couples-only cruise sponsor)
• Content ownership + why “signing talent releases” can follow you forever
• Our 10-year hotwife journey and whether we’re “missing opportunities”
• Why hunting hall-pass husbands at couples events makes zero sense (and feels messy)
• The big question: authentic evolution… or opportunistic trend

Join us in 2026 at a Swingers Event https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

EP211 – Club Rejection, MFM Lessons & Lifestyle Drama at a Swingers Club

What happens when you get rejected from a swingers club, have an MFM at home that doesn’t quite land, and then walk into one of the most chaotic club nights you’ve had in 10 years?

In this episode, we kick off 2026 by unpacking getting denied entry to a Belgium club, lessons from a recent MFM, and a wild swingers club night that included a consent violation, staff intervention, and a serious conversation about safety and responsibility in lifestyle spaces.

And wrap up with a quick 2025 recap, 2026 goals, and why “approaching the unapproachable” (and being the ugliest one in the orgy) might be the new vibe.

In this Episode:

• Getting rejected from a swingers club (and what photos clubs actually want)
• MFM lessons & why home play can be harder than hotels
• Condom fit issues & why your hoe bag needs options
• Dressing down at clubs without killing the vibe
• A consent violation and how quickly things escalated
• What responsibility club owners have for creating safer spaces
• 2025 recap + 2026 goals and lifestyle plans

Club Eroxx Review (Belgium): https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-club-review/club-eroxx-review/

Join us in 2026 at a Swingers Event https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/

Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & extra content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder

Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

• Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine
• Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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What really happens inside a swingers hotel takeover?

In this episode, Cate sits down with multiple attendees from our recent Libertine Events takeover to share raw, funny, and deeply honest stories from inside a lifestyle weekend.

You’ll hear from brand-new swingers, long-term lifestyle couples, empty nesters, solo explorers, and couples still finding their dynamic — all discussing their playroom experiences, nerves, sexy wins, confidence breakthroughs, and what they wish they’d known before their first event.

Expect heartfelt conversations, hilarious confessions (including an accidental cock-block and a 12-hand massage), and genuinely useful advice for navigating hotel takeovers with confidence, clarity, and connection.

• Real-life swinger stories from a full hotel takeover
• Relationship dynamics & long-term lifestyle journeys
• Playrooms vs private rooms
• Lingerie catwalk moments
• Introverts in the lifestyle
• Handling mismatched attraction & veto moments
• Host vibes, accidental interruptions & how to speak up
• Open-door hotel rooms

• Libertine Events – swingers hotel takeovers & parties: https://libertineevents.com/
• Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/
• Patreon – Event photos, behind-the-scenes & lingerie content: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
• Join SDC – Find swingers near you & explore events: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122
• Rob and Linz https://www.instagram.com/anything.but.vani11a/
• Hot Couple Chronicles Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/0egGy8ukwpdUVfUAndCV2V

• Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine
• Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP209 – Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London

What really happens inside a Halloween swingers party in central London? In this episode we share our two-night Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club. From Friday’s single-male night to Saturday’s couples-heavy chaos, plus a very hot dungeon “wine cellar” soft swap.

We talk club vibes, playroom etiquette, and the not-so-sexy realities (hello BV) that can kill the mood, along with practical tips for getting more out of your swinger club nights.

In this episode:

- Our Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club London, logistics, location, and first impressions.

- Friday single-male night vs Saturday’s more couples-heavy energy.

- Dungeon play: a sensual, soft-swap session in the catacombs and how we navigated boundaries.

- Why dress down rules and playroom etiquette matter more than most people think.

- Dealing with vibe-killers (like BV and fully clothed spectators) without shaming anyone.

- Swinger success tips: dressing down, mingling beyond your friend group, and following up on missed connections.

Watch the Le Boudoir YouTube Club Tour https://youtu.be/2aRB5d64lPg?si=mtw9QtXS8k4m02x7

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – Lifestyle takeovers & events: https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – See the Dress Down Lingerie Cate wore: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

• Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine
• Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties) Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers

Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy? In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?

• Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
• Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
• Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
• Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
• Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.

We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?

Coming Up Next EP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

• Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine
• Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP207 – How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events (aka: are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?)

Ever left a lifestyle party with a sore throat from talking…and nothing else? In this episode we unpack why being a charismatic, chatty social butterfly can accidentally cock-block your own fun. Social sexual vs. DTF energy, how mixed signals stall momentum, and the exact moves to shift from talk to touch, without being creepy. Yes, there are wombat and platypus facts. No, we’re not sorry.

• Social V's Sexy: why holding court makes you look “unavailable,” the “talk block,” and how intent signals attraction better than endless banter.
• 6 Social Archetypes that Miss the Moment: the MC, the Talker, the Broad Flirt, the RBF, the “One More Drink,” and the Ghost
• Poll Results: 47% chat and forget to switch to play; 47% sometimes drift that way
• From Flirt to Close: specific lines that move things forward (“Are you free later?” vs. “Wanna go now?”)
• Listener Q: Tiffany’s husband holds court; Cate’s tactics to isolate, redirect, and actually get to a playroom
• Animal Fact Interlude: UV-glowing platypuses and cube-pooping wombats (you’re welcome, Charlotte).

EP208 – Sex Parties vs. Sexy Parties & the Dirty Vanilla Epidemic: how to read formats, avoid “no playroom” traps, and set expectations.

• Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France) https://libertineevents.com/
• Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
• Wanderlust Swingers Website https://wanderlustswingers.com/
• Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

• Comprehensive STI testing (USA Only) with STD Hero - Get 10% off, use code Libertine https://mybls.com/Libertine
• Premature Ejaculation Spray/Wipes + more sexual wellness products with our partner Promescent - Get 15% off their amazing products, use code wanderust26 https://www.promescent.com/wanderlust26

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP206 – Cap d’Agde & Recent Swingers Parties

Is Cap d’Agde still the planet’s wildest swingers playground… or did we just hit it on extra-chaotic mode? In this on-the-road episode (recorded from a very “upgraded” Las Vegas suite), we recap our second 2025 run at Cap d’Agde — from Babylone poolside antics to a Le Glamour Beach foam party so packed you could crowd-surf — plus two very different European events: Flamigo Events in Belgium and the SDC 25th Anniversary World Party in the Netherlands.

We talk wins, fails, costs, dress codes, and why playrooms (or the lack of them) can make or break your night. Cate also shares a real-life health check-in on managing recurring UTIs in the lifestyle and the impact on travel, play, and partnership.

• Cap d’Agde, Round Two: language barriers, daytime soloing while your partner works, poolside flirtation, and making the most of peak-season crowds

• Babylone Pool Party: why it still tops our list for “sex-charged pool vibes” (and how to navigate it as a couple)

• Foam Party at Le Glamour Beach: shoulder-to-shoulder mayhem, VIP bed sticker shock, and strategies when you can’t secure a cabana

• Flamigo Events (Belgium): great DJs, pricey drinks, token systems, and why “sexy party” ≠ “swingers party” if there’s nowhere to play

• SDC World Party (Netherlands): last-minute municipal restrictions, and how to salvage a night out

• Costs & Value: what we actually spent vs. what we got (tickets, hotels, water, and those sneaky cup fees)

• Safety & Autonomy: why Cate feels safer at lifestyle events than at normal clubs — and how to set boundaries when attending with friends or a single guy

• Travel Planning for Lifestyle Events: don’t over-commit for unproven parties, read past reviews, and always have a Plan B (after-parties, club backups, pre-arranged connections)

• Verify the format (swingers club vs. sexy dance party) before you book suites and tailor outfits.

• Have a backup plan: pre-message on dating sites, line up an after-party, or keep a reputable club in your pocket

• Mind the logistics: token drink systems, locker processes, heat/AC, and dress-down rules can heavily affect your night.

• Health in the lifestyle: proactive UTI management, pacing your play, and honest partner communication.

• Trip length matters: 4 days vs. 6 days at Cap d’Agde — what actually feels good for different personalities.

EP207 – How Not to Get Laid at Lifestyle Events (aka: are you “social swinging” your way out of play?).

• Libertine Events – U.S. & EU Takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale and France in 2026)

• Patreon – BTS photos, outfits & bonus audio

• Wanderlust Swingers Website

• Join SDC the worlds largest Lifestyle Swingers Dating Site

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