Uncensored U The Sex Ed Podcast, Season 3 Episode 5 Part 2 w/ Gowry Kaliyiluvila Rajesh

This episode continues the conversation with Gowry, focusing on the hands-on prevention and consent education happening on campus. The discussion covers bystander intervention, consent education, healthy relationships, and how student-facing programming is shaped by what students are actually asking and struggling with.Gowry also shares what Reach Day looks like, how first-year students are introduced to safety and support, and why events like Consent Week, Sexual Health Week, and Take Back the Night matter for building a healthier campus culture.

Key topics

• In this episode, Gowry explains Reach Day, a first-year training initiative built around bystander intervention, healthy socializing, and community support.
• She shares that the first eight weeks in post-secondary are a red zone for sexual violence because students are navigating a new environment, new expectations, and new social dynamics.
• The team reached about 900 students across 18 Reach Day sessions, introducing the basics of bystander intervention and campus support options.
• Gowry highlights a common misconception students have, which is that support is only available if they formally report. Part of the work is showing that students can access care without filing a formal report.
• The conversation breaks down the Waves of Change program, including a basic module and an advanced module that explores power, privilege, and scenario-based intervention practice.
• Gowry says student leaders and athletes often do not realize how much influence they have until they work through the advanced training.
• The episode previews Consent Week, including residence outreach, a movie night, Take Back the Night, and Healing Blooms, a reflection and connection event in the Hub.
• Sexual Health Week is also in development, with student educators creating activities that include red flag and green flag conversations around relationships.
• Gowry describes how the Love Me or Love Me Not activity helps students identify relationship behaviors that are healthy, unhealthy, or worth discussing further.
• The discussion closes with advice for students new to relationships: boundary setting is not selfishness, and communicating a disagreement can actually make a relationship healthier.

Key frameworks

• Waves of Change
  • A prevention and education model with a foundational module and a more advanced module focused on power, privilege, and real-world scenarios.
• Bystander intervention
  • Students learn how to notice potential harm, step in safely, and support someone who may be at risk.
• Enthusiastic consent
  • Consent is framed as clear, active yes, with attention to verbal and nonverbal cues, body language, and the ability to stop or change course at any time.

Notable quotes

• "If you want to have like a healthy relationship, you should have a better boundary setting."
• "Pleasure is like an underrated concept."
• "You can still access the support and you can still have that support in health and counseling."

Uncensored U Sex Ed Podcast

Season 3 Episode 4 Part 1

Consent is Sexy w/ special guest Gowry Kaliyiluvila Rajesh

Guest Bio:

Gowry is the Sexual Violence Prevention Education Coordinator at StFX. Much of her work happens alongside students, facilitating bystander intervention training and opening conversations about consent, boundaries, healthy relationships, sexual health, and mental health. She loves what she does and describes herself as a lifelong learner and unlearner.

As an immigrant in Canada, Gowry has learned a great deal from navigating new places, communities, and ways of thinking. She is still learning and unlearning and she shared some of those experiences and reflections on the podcast. One thought she carries into her work is a quote attributed to Maya Angelou: “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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Season 3 Episode 3

Round 2 with Rouge Fatale - Exploring BDSM

In this episode, Rouge Fatale discusses the nuances of BDSM, including flogging, paddling, safety, consent, and the psychological aspects of kink. The conversation provides practical insights for beginners and experienced practitioners alike. In this episode, Rouge and UCU Rouge explore the nuances of consent, safety, sensation play, and communication in BDSM and kink practices. They emphasize the importance of education, trust, and understanding to foster fulfilling and safe experiences.

Join us for a super fun and informative conversation with Rouge Fatale!!

Keywords

BDSM, flogging, paddling, safety, consent, kink, BDSM education, mental health, scene planning BDSM, kink, consent, sensation play, safety, communication, education, trust, BDSM safety, kink misconceptions

Key Topics

Differences between flogging and whipping

Safety zones and precautions in impact play

The mental and emotional aspects of BDSM

Use of safe words and non-verbal cues

Role of communication and consent in scene planning

Materials and tools for impact play

Progression from sensation to impact

The importance of legal and ethical boundaries The importance of consent and non-verbal cues in BDSM

Safety measures and boundary setting in kink activities

Sensory play techniques and their psychological effects

The role of education and experience in safe BDSM practice

Addressing media misconceptions about BDSM and kink

Communication strategies for exploring kink with partners

The therapeutic aspects of BDSM and sensation play

Managing escalation and intensity in kink activities

The significance of trust and psychological safety in BDSM

Creative tools and techniques for sensation play

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