What if you stopped making yourself earn the right to rest, enjoy your life, and take care of yourself?

In this episode of Unbound And Becoming, I’m talking about what it means to truly pour into yourself—not just when you’re exhausted or when everything else is taken care of, but as a regular part of your life.

We’ll talk about giving yourself permission to rest before you reach your breaking point, enjoying the life you have right now instead of always waiting for “someday,” and recognizing the difference between caring for yourself and simply recovering from constantly running yourself down.

Sometimes taking care of yourself also means being honest about what you actually have the capacity for instead of constantly judging yourself for what you can’t do.

You don’t have to earn care. You’re allowed to give some of it back to yourself, too.

Question of the day:
What is one small thing you can give yourself this week without having to earn it first?

Sometimes we get so caught up in surviving, being realistic, and doing what we're supposed to do that we forget to ask ourselves what we actually want.

In this note to myself, I'm reminding myself to dream again — without shrinking the dream, questioning whether it's realistic, or needing to know exactly how I'm going to get there.

I created these notes as a space to slow down and give myself the words I need to hear while I'm becoming. But I'm sharing them because maybe you're becoming, too. Maybe there's something you've been afraid to want, imagine, or believe is possible for your life.

You don't have to have the whole plan.

You just have to give yourself permission to dream.

And maybe, somewhere along the way, you'll realize the dream isn't as far away as you thought.

We’ve reached ten episodes! In this special Q&A, I’m answering questions about my life, my healing journey, leaving the cult, my relationship with Christianity, discovering my voice, taking solo trips, and what I’m looking forward to in this next chapter. Come get to know me beyond the episodes and hear more about the person behind Unbound & Becoming.

I Don’t Have to Be Okay All the Time

Sometimes I’m not okay. And I’m learning that I don’t have to pretend that I am.

In this short and honest episode of Unbound & Becoming, I’m talking about allowing myself to feel my emotions instead of immediately pushing them down or trying to move past them.

I don’t have to have everything figured out. I don’t have to turn every difficult moment into a lesson. Sometimes something just hurts, and I’m allowed to acknowledge that.

This is a reminder that having a hard day doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. You’re allowed to pause, feel what you feel, and give yourself the space you need.

And also, Episode 10 will be a Q&A! so if you’ve been listening and there’s something you’ve been wanting to ask me, leave your question in the comments or send it to @unboundandbecoming on Instagram.

At 36 years old, I’m realizing that the life I thought I wanted isn’t the life I actually want anymore.

In this episode of Unbound & Becoming, I’m sharing what I’ve been learning as I continue to grow, heal, and become more of myself. I talk about letting go of expectations, learning to enjoy my own company, choosing peace over pressure, setting boundaries, trusting myself, and giving myself permission to create a life that truly feels aligned with who I am.

I also share a little about my journey of deconstructing from Christianity, why I no longer allow others to define what I should believe, and my desire to reconnect with parts of my history, ancestry, and spirituality.

This episode is not about having everything figured out. It’s about asking new questions, allowing yourself to change, and giving yourself the freedom to become who you truly are.

Thank you for being part of this journey with me.

— Aziza

Healing isn't always about feeling lighter.

Sometimes it feels like saying goodbye.

In this episode of Unbound & Becoming, I explore the grief that can come with personal growth—the grief of outgrowing old identities, releasing survival patterns, and stepping into a version of yourself that feels both freeing and unfamiliar.

If you've ever wondered why healing can feel lonely, emotional, or even confusing, this conversation is for you.

Because becoming isn't just about who you're gaining.

It's also about honoring who you're leaving behind.

This episode explores the habit of holding back until conditions feel fully approved—by people, timing, or circumstances. It addresses how this pattern creates long delays in personal growth and decision-making. The core message centers on reclaiming agency and learning to move forward without needing permission to do so.

If you died today, would you be happy with how you lived your life?

When I asked myself that question, my answer was no.

In this episode, I share the three reasons why:

• Fear has held me back from fully living the life I want.
• I've spent too much time ignoring my feelings and what I truly want for my life.
• I've become disconnected from myself and lost touch with who I really am.

This is an honest conversation about self-reflection, regret, healing, and what it means to start choosing yourself. If you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, or like you're living for everyone else but yourself, this episode might be the wake-up call you need.

It's never too late to reconnect with yourself and start creating a life that feels like your own.