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We dig into why conversations feel so darn hard with ADHD and what you can do to improve your participation in them. We share tactics to track meaning, slow down your speech, steer small talk, and set up your environment so people feel heard and you feel calm.

• ADHD working memory limits and filtering challenges
• focus on themes and emotions rather than details
• paraphrase to confirm understanding
• direct small talk with curious, specific questions
• honest resets when you lose the thread
• pause before speaking to shape one clear point
• slow speech to reduce false starts and interruptions
• prepare short, upbeat answers to common topics
• practical gaze strategies instead of strict eye contact
• arrange your space to cut distractions
• avoid multitasking and leave before energy crashes
• center the goal that others feel understood

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Here are some ADHD-smart strategies to enjoy parties without the food and drink hangover. Simple guidelines, seating choices, and exit cues help you feel good during the event and the next day.

• why parties and holidays increase impulsive eating and drinking
• how poor interoception and dopamine drive overindulgence
• pre-event routines that lower risk
• buffet scanning and one-plate strategy
• seating away from food and staying engaged
• no-seconds rule for buffets and dinners
• starting with a non-alcoholic drink
• mood check-ins to prevent emotional eating and drinking
• setting time or cue-based exits
• planning with compassion for future you

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Here's a practical plan to make holiday gatherings calmer and kinder for ADHD brains. We can't control our relatives, but we can control our expectations, our choices, and our escapes.

• reframing holidays with self-acceptance
• planning for positives and known triggers
• early warning signs and emotional check-ins
• discreet breaks to reduce overload
• food boundaries and bringing safe options
• limiting or skipping alcohol to stay regulated
• focusing on what we can control

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Holidays can overwhelm ADHD brains; here is a practical framework to plan earlier, simplify tasks, and protect energy instead of chasing perfection. Alex describes concrete steps to pick core traditions, delegate with confidence, and keep routines steady so joy comes through.

• drivers of holiday overwhelm for ADHD
• plan early
• write and keep a usable plan
• protect routines and add flex time
• choose core people, traditions, and activities
• say no to low-value events
• delegate, simplify, and use shortcuts
• share the workload at home
• shift perspective when plans go wrong
• manage ADHD symptoms with sleep, food, movement, and mindfulness
• key takeaways and next steps in the series

If you found this useful, come back next Tuesday for tips about making the most of those holiday get togethers!

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We lay out how ADHD shows up at work—mismanagement of our time, poor working memory, disappointing performance, irritability, impulsivity—and how falling behind often feels like a personal failing.

Once you identify which behaviors are ADHD-related, you know what you can change and figure out how to approach it.

• time blindness, time optimism, and missed deadlines

• meeting pitfalls and memory overload

• slow writing, perfectionism and bottlenecks

• environmental barriers

secrecy, shame, and burnout

• irritability, impulsivity and reputation risks

• reframing strengths to land as value

• next steps and where to learn more

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You know you have ADHD, but do you know how it shows up in your social life? Your attempts to make and keep friends are affected by ADHD behaviors that once recognized, might be swapped out for actions that help instead of hinder.

Do you recognize yourself as exhibiting any of the common ADHD traits mentioned in this episode, including:

• forgetting dates, showing up late, not responding
• poor conversation etiquette: tangents, interruptions, and one-upmanship
• ruining game night
• gift stress, overthinking, and last-minute scrambles
• emotional dysregulation
• strengths such as loyalty, openness, and fun

Leave a comment if I missed the ADHD trait that gives you the most trouble or the most help when it comes to making and keeping friends
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We weigh the tension between masking and authenticity for ADHD brains and share a practical way to read rooms, set limits, and stay true to our values. The goal is not perfection but skill: calibrate behavior to context without erasing yourself.

• when moderation serves care rather than fakery
• how context changes expectations and effort
• using pause, scan, ask to read a room
• setting goals and choosing traits to amplify
• planning breaks to self-regulate and exit well
• observing norms before engaging in new spaces
• running small experiments and reading feedback
• debriefing to refine behaviors and protect values
• knowing when environments don’t deserve you
• staying open to find people who love your spark

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Mornings don't have to be a willpower contest. Coach Alex Delmar shares a practical, ADHD-friendly plan to make mornings easier by doing the work at night, priming the brain in bed, and stacking cues that make getting up feel doable. Light, scent, water, music, and tiny rewards replace willpower with a plan you can repeat.

• defining morning by your wake target
• evening prep to cut decisions and reduce overwhelm
• coffee scent and breakfast anticipation as cues
• phone out of reach to prevent time loss
• alarms and light to start the wake cycle
• bedside water, meds, and a visible agenda
• in-bed activation with breath, stretches, and movement
• schedule check to trigger urgency without panic
• playlist, cold shower, and invigorating scents
• sunlight, movement, and social contact to lock in alertness
• rewards that only unlock after following the plan
• self-compassion and seeking coaching or peer support

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