What happens when you stop chasing the life you were told to want and choose yourself instead?

In this episode of This Wasn’t the Plan, Tara sits down with Victoria for an honest, deeply validating conversation about being childfree by circumstance after infertility. After four years of trying to conceive, two rounds of IVF, and four miscarriages, Victoria and her husband made the conscious decision to stop trying - not because it hurt less, but because continuing came at too high a cost.

Together, they talk about the grief no one prepares you for, the pressure to keep going, and the strength it takes to walk away from a dream that once defined your future. This episode explores what it really means to choose yourself after infertility, how to navigate life without the timeline you imagined, and why being childfree by circumstance does not make your life smaller, less meaningful, or incomplete.

This conversation is for anyone experiencing infertility, IVF burnout, pregnancy loss, miscarriage grief, or redefining their identity and purpose after life takes an unexpected turn. It is also for women who are tired of being asked intrusive questions like “Do you have kids?” without space for the reality of what they have endured.

If you are learning how to rebuild, redefine your future, or trust yourself again after loss, this episode will remind you that your life still matters - and that choosing yourself is not giving up.

Season 2 launches March 2, 2026!

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In this episode, I sit down with writer and creator of The Life Actually Company, Laura Behnke, for an honest conversation about releasing societal timelines and learning how to meet the life you never saw coming....multiple times.

Laura shares how her 30s unfolded in ways she never expected - from letting go of pressure around marriage and milestones, to meeting her now husband later than planned, to navigating unimaginable loss when both of their fathers were diagnosed with cancer and passed away in the same year.

We talk about fertility struggles, needing IVF due to a rare genetic disorder, the emotional toll of trying to conceive, and the curveballs that continued long after she thought the hardest part was over. Laura also opens up about what it was like to finally become a mother - and then face another life-altering diagnosis just months later.

This episode is not about overcoming for the sake of inspiration. It is about reality. About grief, uncertainty, resilience, and what it means to live a life that looks nothing like the one you imagined - and still find meaning inside it.

If you have ever felt behind, blindsided, or deeply exhausted by trying to control an uncontrollable life, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

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In this episode, Jessica Field opens up about navigating life’s unexpected turns - from moving across the continent and starting over, to facing infertility and multiple miscarriages. She shares how trusting herself, embracing change, and building resilience have shaped her journey. Tune in for an honest, empowering conversation about strength, resilience, and finding your path through life’s unplanned challenges.

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What happens when you are childfree not by choice and forced to grieve a life you deeply wanted?

In this solo episode, I speak honestly about infertility, choosing to stop trying, and what it actually means to be ok after letting go of the dream of motherhood. This is not a conversation about positivity, manifestation, or silver linings. It is about grief, agency, boundaries, and learning how to live fully on the other side of loss.

I share how traveling to Paris helped reconnect me to my body and reminded me that life does not end when one dream does. I also address the pressure women face to stay hopeful, trust the law of attraction, consider adoption, or continue trying at all costs - and why deciding to stop is an act of self love, not failure.

This episode is for women navigating childlessness not by choice, infertility grief, or the complicated reality of choosing peace after years of striving. You are not broken. Your life is not a consolation prize. And you are allowed to choose yourself.

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Tara here! I’m on vacation this week, but this quick placeholder episode is perfect for women looking to start over, boost self confidence, and focus on personal growth. Take a moment to revisit past episodes, reflect on your journey, and recharge your mindset. Even a small pause can spark clarity, motivation, and positive change. I'll resume regularly scheduled episodes next Mon. Jan. 12, 2026. Happy New Year!

Dating after major life changes like breakups, divorce or infertility can feel confusing and overwhelming - but it doesn’t have to. In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom from the Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking, shares her insights on modern dating, starting over, and building self-confidence.

You’ll discover how to:

1. Navigate dating with clarity and intention
2. Avoid repeating old patterns that keep you stuck
3. Handle sensitive questions about children with confidence
4. Embrace your story as a source of strength and attraction
5. Build self-confidence and find meaningful connections

Whether you’re reinventing your love life, healing from setbacks, or ready to date with purpose, this conversation offers practical strategies, mindset shifts, and encouragement to help you find love again on your own terms.

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What does it really mean to be childfree by circumstance - and how do you grieve the life you thought you would have while still creating one that feels meaningful and joyful?

In this episode, I’m joined by Adriana Rodriguez-Baptiste and Caroline Bloss from Healing Roots Together, a support community for women who are childfree by circumstance and navigating life after infertility, pregnancy loss, or unexpected childlessness.

We talk openly about the grief that doesn’t have a timeline, the identity shifts that come with letting go of Plan A, and how to find purpose, connection, and joy in a life that looks different than expected. Adriana and Caroline share how mindfulness, community support, and intentional healing practices can help women move from survival mode to actually thriving.

If you are childfree by circumstance, struggling with unresolved grief, or trying to figure out who you are after infertility, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more grounded in what comes next.

Topics we cover:

1. What it means to be childfree by circumstance
2. Grieving the loss of motherhood and Plan A
3. Finding joy and meaning in Plan B
4. Mindfulness tools to support healing after infertility
5. Why community and support groups matter
6. How Healing Roots Together helps women thrive after loss

This episode is for women who want to honor their grief without letting it define their future.

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Connect with Adriana and Caroline:

https://healingrootstogether.com/

Instagram: @healing.roots.together

In this personal update episode, I share the truths about grief, healing and growth after infertility, including embracing life as childfree. I talk about taking time off work for therapy, self-care, and processing, and how it has helped me feel like myself again. I also share my journey with hormone health and the lessons of slowing down and honoring yourself. Tune in for an honest, heartfelt check-in on grief, wellbeing, growth, showing yourself the same compssion you show everyone else and reclaiming your energy.

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