What happens when you stop chasing the life you were told to want and choose yourself instead?

In this episode of This Wasn’t the Plan, Tara sits down with Victoria for an honest, deeply validating conversation about being childfree by circumstance after infertility. After four years of trying to conceive, two rounds of IVF, and four miscarriages, Victoria and her husband made the conscious decision to stop trying - not because it hurt less, but because continuing came at too high a cost.

Together, they talk about the grief no one prepares you for, the pressure to keep going, and the strength it takes to walk away from a dream that once defined your future. This episode explores what it really means to choose yourself after infertility, how to navigate life without the timeline you imagined, and why being childfree by circumstance does not make your life smaller, less meaningful, or incomplete.

This conversation is for anyone experiencing infertility, IVF burnout, pregnancy loss, miscarriage grief, or redefining their identity and purpose after life takes an unexpected turn. It is also for women who are tired of being asked intrusive questions like “Do you have kids?” without space for the reality of what they have endured.

If you are learning how to rebuild, redefine your future, or trust yourself again after loss, this episode will remind you that your life still matters - and that choosing yourself is not giving up.

Season 2 launches March 2, 2026!

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