Have you ever been so focused on taking care of everyone else that you lost yourself?

Today, I talk with Kelsee Feist, a self-certainty coach, about childhood trauma, survival mode, people-pleasing, motherhood, and losing yourself while trying to be everything for everyone.

Kelsee shares what it took to realize she was no longer okay, ask for help, and start rebuilding her relationship with herself.

We also talk about why safety can feel uncomfortable after years of living in survival mode, how unprocessed trauma affects our relationships, and what healing can look like when you finally stop putting yourself last.

⟡ WHAT I TALK ABOUT TODAY

• Healing from childhood trauma

• How to get out of survival mode

• People-pleasing and self-abandonment

• Trauma, anxiety, and mental health

• Losing yourself in motherhood

• How trauma affects relationships

• Setting boundaries without guilt

• Learning to trust yourself again

• Nervous system and survival mode

• Rebuilding self-worth after trauma
  

⟡ ABOUT THE HOST, NAOMI SPARKS

Naomi Sparks is a mom, wife, healing coach, and a cult survivor. She grew up in a tightly controlled religious cult in Northern California and spent years disconnected from her true self. She now helps others heal their nervous system from trauma, rebuild trust in their bodies, and reconnect with who they are beneath survival mode.

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⟡ ABOUT THE GUEST, KELSEE FEIST

Kelsee Feist is a Self-Certainty Coach, author, and founder. Through her signature Self-Certainty Method; Reflect, Refract, Radiate. She helps women recognize the self-abandonment hiding beneath selflessness, break the patterns keeping them stuck in survival mode, and become unshakable in who they are.

Her coaching program, The Unshakable Woman, helps women rebuild the relationship they have with themselves so they can transform how they love, lead, parent, and live—without disappearing inside the roles they hold.

Kelsee’s work is rooted in one powerful belief: Selflessness didn’t make me a good person. It made me disappear.

→ Kelsee’s IG | @kelsee.feist

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You are not broken. You are healing.

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Losing your sense of self is a common response to childhood trauma. Years of people pleasing, survival mode, and unhealthy relationships can leave you disconnected from your own voice, needs, and identity.

Healing childhood trauma means rebuilding self-trust, setting healthy boundaries, and reconnecting with who you truly are. One small choice at a time.

⟡ WHAT I TALK ABOUT TODAY

• Childhood trauma

• Losing your sense of self

• People pleasing and trauma responses

• How to rebuild self-trust

• How to set healthy boundaries

• Healing from childhood trauma

• How to reconnect with yourself
  

⟡ ABOUT THE HOST, NAOMI SPARKS

Naomi Sparks is a mom, wife, healing coach, and a cult survivor. She grew up in a tightly controlled religious cult in Northern California and spent years disconnected from her true self. She now helps others heal their nervous system from trauma, rebuild trust in their bodies, and reconnect with who they are beneath survival mode.

→ Join ⁠The Regulated & Rising Collective

→ Website| theunapologetictruthh.com

→ IG | ⁠ @theunapologetictruthh⁠

⟡ LET’S KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 💚 Conversations like this help break cycles of silence and bring clarity to experiences many people struggle to name.

You are not broken. You are healing.

⟡ Produced by AOLI.fm.

Saying yes when your body is screaming no. Apologizing for things that were never your fault. Feeling guilty just for resting.

Today, I'm talking about why saying no feels so hard, especially for trauma survivors and moms who learned early that being easy to please was the safest way to feel loved.

⟡ WHAT I TALK ABOUT TODAY

• Why saying no feels so hard
• People-pleasing trauma response
• Boundaries vs walls
• Chronic apologizing and trauma
• People pleasing mistaken for kindness
• Setting boundaries as a parent
• Control vs guidance with kids
• Guilt after setting a boundary
• People pleasing and identity loss
• Boundaries without losing love
  

⟡ ABOUT THE HOST, NAOMI SPARKS

Naomi Sparks is a mom, wife, healing coach, and a cult survivor. She grew up in a tightly controlled religious cult in Northern California and spent years disconnected from her true self. She now helps others heal their nervous system from trauma, rebuild trust in their bodies, and reconnect with who they are beneath survival mode.

→ Join ⁠The Regulated & Rising Collective

→ Website| theunapologetictruthh.com

→ IG | ⁠ @theunapologetictruthh⁠

⟡ LET’S KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 💚 Conversations like this help break cycles of silence and bring clarity to experiences many people struggle to name.

You are not broken. You are healing.

⟡ Produced by AOLI.fm.⟡