Dr. P discusses how true healing is like a company changing management. You clear out what doesn't work so the new, healthy system can thrive. If you've done the healing work, you need to look at your social dynamics—are they yielding the results you want? Listen to the full episode of The U Problem with Dr. P for more insights!

Starting a life of sobriety is a huge accomplishment, but it can feel incredibly lonely when your old social circle disappears. This week's caller (30) is navigating this difficult transition after 16 years of addiction.Dr. P confirms: A major life change like sobriety is like a "windchime"—everything around you moves and sounds different. The people you knew before were only able to relate to the person who was "not fully integrated"Watch the full episode for Dr. P’s heartfelt and straight-talking advice on building a new social circle.

Are you "on-again, off-again" after a breakup? 💔 This week's caller is feeling bored and uncertain a month after ending her one-year relationship.Dr. P warns: You cannot be "dipping your toes in two ponds". Be truly done with the old relationship before you look for the new one!Watch the full episode for advice on how to get out of the "danger zone" and start your next chapter.

Age is just a number... unless you're using it to dodge responsibilities! 🙄 This week's caller (30) is frustrated because her 52-year-old husband is using his age as an excuse for being "helpless" and avoiding housework or going out.Dr. P calls BS! 🗣️ 52 is NOT too old to cook, have sex, or be an active partner. It's a case of feigned helplessness to shift the burden onto his younger wife.If he's acting 80 when he's only 52, it's time to demand a partnership and a middle ground! Watch the episode for Dr. P's advice on confronting the "age excuse".

Caught in the middle of holiday family political fights? 🥪 Dr. P has a warning for this week's caller: "You are the ham of the sandwich that gets eaten!"

If your family's "humor" is just designed to provoke your partner, the conflict isn't about politics—it's about disrespect. Stop mediating and set a boundary on the behavior, not the topic.

Listen to our latest episode of The U Problem with Dr. P to learn how to validate your partner and tell your family to cool it!

There is redemption in the truth. 💡 The toughest conversations are the ones that save your relationships. Be direct, honest, and always explain the “why” to give them a chance to understand … If you want to preserve a relationship, you need to be willing to face the anxiety of confrontation.

A woman calls Dr. P, feeling overwhelmed and "paralyzed" by her veteran husband's severe, unregulated PTSD, which involves screaming and emotional abuse, despite him being highly respected in the community. She is confused about whether to stay, especially since her daughter is now recording the abuse. Dr. P emphasizes that the caller's confusion is her "U problem," and she cannot wait for her husband to change or for external validation. Dr. P firmly advises the caller to fully commit to a stable therapeutic environment for herself to gain clarity, stating that a decision about the marriage can only be made once she is no longer emotionally "paralyzed" and living in a confusing "rabbit hole."

A caller describes a highly unusual but brilliant arrangement with her boyfriend: a notarized, exclusive "sex contract" detailing their boundaries and desires. The problem is that her boyfriend, who is leading the role-playing, is hesitant to let her take the creative reins. Dr. P advises the caller not to worry about asking for "more," but rather to leverage the contract by asking her boyfriend to specify the limits or things he is unwilling to do (the "not-in-the-contract" items). This creates space for her to explore creative ideas without stepping on his unspoken boundaries.