Welcome to the Church of That Man Ain’t Shit. Tashmica Torok and Shannon Perez-Darby get into Netflix’s Death of the Pastor’s Wife, the true crime docuseries about Mica Miller and her abusive (ex)husband, Pastor JP Miller of Solid Rock Church in Myrtle Beach.

Tashmica breaks down how evangelical marriage theology, submission culture, and spiritual authority shape Christian marriages into relationships where coercive control thrives. From there, we connect the dots to former American Idol contestant and music pastor Caleb Flynn, Colorado governor candidate Victor Marx’s own podcast confession about abusing his wife and child, and the Cornell fraternity rape case. And when the news cycle moves on, we’re asking you not to: remember Kendall Francis at LSU.

These stories aren’t new, and the people watching (YOU) aren’t powerless. Participation is the key to harmony.

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Content warning: intimate partner violence, sexual violence, suicide, and child abuse.

When Tiffany goes missing in Insecure's "Lowkey Lost," the police tell her husband to wait. Instead, her friends pull up and join forces to find their friend. Shannon Perez-Darby and Tashmica Torok pull this episode straight from the vault and break down the Season 4 finale of Issa Rae's HBO series.

We talk about why police don't look for missing Black women, how Tiffany's friends track her down themselves, and the postpartum isolation that sent her running. We also get into care as resistance: packing the hospital bag, filling out the power of attorney, and knowing exactly who's pulling up when things fall apart.

This recording may be lowkey old, but caring for one another in a crisis is not.

With people being detained and disappeared, these are questions to answer now. Who knows where you are? Who's coming to look for you? Who are you ready to show up for?

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Hosts: Tashmica Torok & Shannon Perez-Darby

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A queer community venue in Western Massachusetts opened as a mask-required, Disability Justice–centered space. When the Last Ditch loosened its mask policy one day a week to stay afloat, a Boston Globe article fueled a viral backlash.

Pop Culture Besties, Shannon Perez-Darby and Tashmica Torok talk about what the reaction says about our communities: access and abandonment, the money it takes to keep a space open, who gets left holding the loan, and why “participation is the key to harmony.”

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