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In this episode of The Mind I Live In, Katara Lilith breaks down the hidden psychological shift that happens in relationships when love turns into service, desire turns into duty, and a woman slowly loses her polarity without even realizing it.

We explore:

• Why men stop pursuing women they once adored
• How over-giving, people-pleasing, and emotional labor kill attraction
• The neuroscience of attachment, dopamine, oxytocin, and masculine drive
• How women unknowingly train men to stop trying
• The moment love becomes convenience — and how to reverse it
• Why self-respect cannot be faked, performed, or demanded

This episode is for women who:

• Feel taken for granted in relationships
• Over-explain, over-give, or over-function
• Are tired of chasing love instead of being chosen
• Want to restore attraction without manipulation or games

This is not dating advice.
This is deep psychological truth about power, polarity, attachment, and desire.

🎧 Listen if you’re ready to stop surviving love — and start being desired again.

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In this episode of The Mind I Live In, Katara Lilith delivers a deep psychological breakdown of narcissism as a system — not a label, not a trend, but a structure that shapes your reactions, attachments, and emotional survival strategies over a lifetime.

This episode goes far beyond identifying a narcissist.

Katara maps your internal response patterns — the fear loops, emotional hooks, and subconscious conditioning that keep intelligent, aware people stuck in narcissistic relationships, families, and trauma bonds.

You will understand:

• Why you react the way you do — even when you know better

• How narcissistic parents and partners shape your nervous system

• Why logic alone cannot free you

• How emotional dependency forms and why leaving feels impossible

• The exact psychological mechanisms behind codependency and trauma bonding

Most importantly, Katara doesn’t stop at awareness.

She provides clear, practical techniques that dismantle these patterns at their root — techniques that are precise, effective, and rarely discussed publicly.

This work is uncomfortable by design.

Clarity requires confrontation.

Understanding requires honesty.

But when information is absorbed correctly, something fundamental shifts:

• Emotional charge dissolves

• Confusion lifts

• Attachment loosens

• And freedom becomes inevitable

When knowledge reaches the nervous system — not just the intellect — you cannot remain trapped.

You gain distance.

Distance gives you choice.

And choice is power.

This is prohibited psychology — the thoughts we’re told not to explore, yet silently suffer from until light and understanding arrive.

If you are ready to see clearly, regulate your reactions, and step out of narcissistic control permanently — this episode is not optional

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Welcome to ELIKAY Space, where Katara Lilith breaks down the psychology of desire, feminine confidence, and the nervous-system foundations of real pleasure.

This episode explores how sex begins in the mind, how breath and stability shape arousal, and why women must learn their own rhythm before teaching it to a man.

Raw, honest, slow, feminine — this is the training every woman should have had.

Topics:

female pleasure, sexual psychology, nervous system safety, feminine energy, pleasure training, intimacy, sex education for adults, desire dynamics, power and surrender, embodiment

Listen, breathe, learn…

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New Year, Same Brain is a deep psychological and cultural exploration of why New Year resolutions fail, why motivation fades by February, and how humans across history have defined “the New Year” very differently.

In this episode of The Mind I Live In, Katara Lilith breaks down the psychology of New Year goals, the fresh start effect, and the role of dopamine, stress hormones, and the nervous system in motivation, habit formation, and long-term behavior change. You’ll learn why people feel inspired at the beginning of the year, why discipline collapses under stress, and why most goals fail when they rely on motivation instead of systems.

This episode also steps beyond psychology and into history and culture, exploring why January 1st is not a universal New Year at all. We talk about how the Gregorian calendar replaced the Julian calendar, why parts of Eastern Europe still celebrate the “Old New Year” in mid-January, why China celebrates the Lunar New Year in February, and how cultures like Persian, Jewish, Islamic, and Ethiopian societies mark their New Year on entirely different dates. These traditions reveal something powerful: New Year is not a fixed truth — it’s a human agreement.

Katara Lilith also shares a personal family ritual practiced every New Year that shows how long-term goals actually work, how ideas become familiar to the brain over years, and how success often arrives quietly after long periods of compounding effort. This episode connects behavioral psychology, astro-psychology, habit formation, relationships, addiction, business mindset, and identity change into one grounded conversation about how real transformation happens.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why New Year resolutions fail

• Why motivation disappears

• How dopamine affects goals

• Why habits are hard to maintain

• Why people repeat the same relationship patterns

• How millionaire minds think differently

• Why different cultures celebrate New Year on different dates

• What your personal “New Year” really is

This episode will change how you think about time, goals, discipline, and growth — not just in January, but throughout the entire year.

This is not motivational hype.

This is psychology, history, culture, and real life.

Welcome to The Mind I Live In.

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Why does your mind turn dark at night?

Why do the thoughts you avoid all day come crashing in the moment you close your eyes? In this episode of The Mind I Live In, Katara Lilith unpacks the real psychology behind nighttime anxiety, overthinking, childhood wounds, mother wounds, and the memories your nervous system hides until you’re finally alone with yourself.

We explore:

– Why you feel overwhelmed at night

– Why your brain won’t shut off even when you’re exhausted

– How childhood emotional neglect shapes your adult identity

– The mother wound and why it haunts your self-worth

– Why “forgiveness” is NOT required for healing

– How sensory triggers (movies, songs, smells) awaken buried trauma

– The difference between your Day Self and Night Self

– How suppressed memories become nighttime anxiety

– How to finally reclaim the parts of you that were never seen, heard, or loved

This episode is raw, honest, and deeply awakening. If you grew up performing for love, chasing approval, or trying to earn affection that was never freely given — this will hit home.

Watch the full story, full breakdown, and full healing conversation now.

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What if I told you the moment a woman stops loving isn’t dramatic — it’s silent?

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Katara Lilith breaks down the psychological collapse of female love:

the first crack, the emotional withdrawal, the hormonal shift, the disappointment stage…

and the exact point where a relationship crosses from “in love” into “goodbye.”

This is the episode EVERY man should hear —

and every woman will feel in her bones.

Inside this deep, intimate monologue, you’ll learn:

✨ Why women fall in love emotionally, not logically

✨ The three real stages of love: In-Love → Disillusionment → Real Love

✨ How men unknowingly trigger the death of a woman’s love

✨ Why her core emotional need matters more than anything else

✨ The difference between providing… and loving

✨ How men choose partners based on their mother’s imprint

✨ The psychological signs that her heart is slipping away

✨ How to rebuild connection before it’s too late

✨ The 5 Love Languages breakdown — and why they matter

✨ Why most couples fail in Stage 2 (and how to survive it)

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

“Why did she change?”

“What happened to us?”

“Why does she feel so far away?”

— this episode is your answer.

This is not theory.

This is real-life psychology, real relationships, real human behavior.

The truth no one teaches — but everyone lives through.

Listener countries mentioned in this episode:

🇵🇭 Philippines • 🇸🇬 Singapore • 🇬🇧 United Kingdom

(and all my loves worldwide)

For members only:

Don’t miss the exclusive bonus episode “The Art of Feminine Seduction” — where Katara reveals the deeper work of emotional attraction, softness, and connection.

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Middle age isn’t a crisis — it’s an awakening.

In this bold, emotional, and unapologetically honest episode, Katara Lilith explores what really happens to the human mind, body, and soul after forty — when masks start falling and truth finally begins to breathe. Why do so many marriages collapse after decades?

Why do men walk away — and why do women rise stronger?

What’s really happening in the brain when we lose desire, change partners, or suddenly crave freedom instead of stability? Katara dives deep into the psychology of midlife divorce, the biology of desire, and the soul contract of relationships that were never meant to last forever.

If you’ve ever felt lost, unseen, or judged for changing after 40 — this episode will feel like home.

Quote:“Middle age isn’t the beginning of your end — it’s the end of your pretending.”

🎧 Listen now — and meet the version of yourself you were always becoming. This episode is also available on YouTube @Katara_Lilith

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Are you constantly working hard but still not seeing real money flow? Do you feel guilty when you rest, receive help, or ask for more? This episode uncovers the hidden psychological blocks and nervous system patterns keeping abundance away — even when you’re doing “all the right things.”

We explore the deep mind-body connection between trauma, financial patterns, and how your childhood conditioning shaped your relationship with wealth. If love, attention, or safety were only given to you when you performed — your nervous system may now reject money, rest, ease, and success as unsafe.

You’ll learn:

– How to rewire your brain and body to feel safe with wealth

– Why receiving can feel dangerous (and how to fix it)

– What emotional neglect has to do with low income

– Somatic rituals to attract and hold wealth

– How to stop self-sabotage and finally expand

At the end, take the viral “Is Your Nervous System Blocking Your Income?” self-analysis test — and begin the journey to abundance, worth, and nervous system peace.

👉 Take the free test at EliKay.Space

👉 Book your transformation session with Katara Lilith

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