I'm telling that you did that. You're gonna be in SO MUCH trouble. It's okay spacemen, you can admit it. There's no Alphas in the room with you who will mock you. You're in a safe space. We all have fears of upsetting someone. In fact, even though most people will say they don't care about what people think, pretty much EVERYONE does. So, we tackle that today on the show.

Matt, Mike, and Rob explore the feeling of constantly being in trouble or disappointing others, both in relationships and in other areas of life. We talk about how men often express this sentiment and the sources of this feeling, such as societal expectations, authority figures, and fear of disappointing others. And we talk about the common experience of men feeling like they are always in trouble and the impact it can have on their well-being. Spoiler alert, we talk about the importance of having open and honest conversations, understanding and owning one's emotions, and embracing the humanity of the human experience.

Keywords
feeling in trouble, disappointing others, relationships, societal expectations, authority figures, anxiety, stress, fear of disappointing, being in trouble, societal expectations, childhood experiences, open and honest conversations, owning emotions, humanity

Takeaways

• Many men express the feeling of constantly being in trouble or disappointing others. This feeling can arise in relationships, work, and other areas of life.
• Societal expectations and the fear of disappointing authority figures contribute to this feeling.
• Anxiety and stress often perpetuate the belief that one is always in trouble. The fear of disappointing others is often rooted in societal expectations and childhood experiences.
• Having open and honest conversations can help address and overcome the fear of disappointing others.
• Understanding and owning one's emotions is crucial in navigating relationships and communication.
• Embracing the humanity of the human experience allows for more authentic and meaningful connections.

Sound Bites

• "Do you always feel like you're in trouble? Because I feel that all the time."
• "I'm doing something wrong and some overarching authority figure is gonna be mad at me and I'm in trouble."
• "I feel like I am behind, I'm failing somewhere, someone's gonna be disappointed."
• "I don't always get the men telling me this is what I felt. I have to share. This is what I've felt."
• "Where did this come from for me? Because we didn't necessarily grow up in a home where..."
• "I just default in that realm, I defaulted over into he's my dad. I'm the kid who doesn't know anything."

Chapters

00:00
The Constant Feeling of Being in Trouble

18:52
Defaulting to Partners as Authority Figures

35:39
Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

44:40
Understanding and Owning Your Emotions

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Don't worry spacemen. We, the Admirals of the Spaceiverse, have figured out what women want. We scoured the internet and found all the articles (3 in total) that reveal the desires and needs of women. The key takeaway? You should already know.

Turns out, the internet is full of idiots. Luckily, we're here to help you understand what women actually want. But, you might have to ask your partner/spouse.

Keywords
what women want, qualities in a man, emotional availability, connectedness, strong listener, confidence, vulnerability, women, men, understanding, themes, female aggression, body image, emotional experiences, mental load, communication, understanding, conversation, articles, insights, needs, desires, questions, listening, connection, activities

Takeaways

• Women look for emotional availability and connectedness in a man.
• Being a strong listener is an important quality.
• Confidence is attractive to women.
• Vulnerability is valued by women.
• These qualities may vary from person to person. Understanding women's thought processes and experiences is important in relationships.
• Female aggression can be subtle and harder to detect.
• Body image, emotional experiences, and mental load are key themes in women's desires for understanding.
• Some items on the list are amusing and may not resonate with everyone.
• Communication and empathy are crucial for building strong relationships. Have open and honest conversations with your partner to understand their needs and desires
• Ask questions and actively listen to deepen the connection
• Avoid making assumptions and seek genuine understanding
• Engage in activities that facilitate quick connections with other men
• Prioritize genuine communication over relying solely on articles

Sound Bites

• "Emo avail, which sounds like a sweet emo band."
• "It's the only one with a cookie crunch."
• "They want vulnerability."
• "Issues relating to body, emotional experiences, and mental load."
• "Female aggression is a bit more subtle at times."
• "Real men drive stick shift."
• "You should know all this and more"
• "We've been taught to play hard to get forever"

Chapters

00:00
Introduction and Banter

08:02
Overview of Articles and Topics

14:17
How Matt and Mike Scored

27:03
Superficial Desires and Pursuit

33:20
The Value of Open and Honest Conversations

43:47
Activities that Foster Quick Connections Among Men

50:07
Prioritizing Genuine Communication over Articles

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What's up home skillets? That's what the internet tells me we said in the 90s. I don't think I did, but I also thought I was cool and probably wasn't. Remember when we said awesome-sauce? Or Awesome to the possum? Or the bomb.com? Gross. We were gross. But we were so cool too, right?

On today's episode, Mike and Rob get over missing Matt by talking about neural nostalgia and connecting with our true cool 90's selves. We talk about how listening to music from our youth taps into specific parts of our brains and connects us to our sense of self. So listen in and then crank up the Fastball, or Backstreet Boys, or Korn. Whatever you think you grew out of. You didn't. That you is still in there and dying to get out.

Keywords

nostalgia, 90s, humor, therapy, music, identity, trends, generations, science, empathy, nostalgia, reconnecting with joy, music, hobbies, self-care

Takeaways

• Nostalgia for the 90s can evoke positive emotions and a sense of identity.
• Music has the power to influence mood and shape personal identity.
• Trends and generations repeat themselves, with each generation believing they have reached the peak.
• Reconnecting with the things that bring you joy and make you feel like yourself is important for your well-being.
• Nostalgia can have a powerful impact on your mood and sense of identity.
• Embrace your interests and hobbies, even if they may seem childish or out of style.
• Balancing responsibilities with personal passions is a challenge, but finding time for self-care is crucial.
• Don't be afraid to be yourself and pursue the things that make you happy, regardless of what others may think.

Sound Bites

• "Solid as Iraq."
• "Drive through records. They were so cool in the early 2000s, the early aughts."
• "I'm amazing. So you could hear that because she's a little harder hearing. So it's like, I needed you to hear that part."
• "I'm gonna party like it's 1999, which I do wanna remind everyone who is alive for the transition from 1999 to 2000, just how disappointing that was."

Chapters

00:00
Nostalgia for the 90s

08:36
The Persistence of Streaming

14:43
Questioning Assumptions

31:52
Cutting Off Parts of Ourselves to Fit Societal Expectations

41:36
Embracing Your Interests and Hobbies

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