This week, we’re opening up a conversation around pregnancy and baby loss, a subject neither of us has personally experienced, but one we know touches so many people within the fertility community.
After finding out she doesn’t have PMOS, Portia shares what comes next, the further testing she’s decided to explore and what’s involved with Fertilysis. Charly has some questions about changes to her periods, which naturally results in Dr Portia attempting a diagnosis.
Our main conversation is about pregnancy and baby loss. We talk about the anxiety that can come with finally getting pregnant after infertility, embryo transfers that don’t result in pregnancy, and the different experiences of loss that can happen during and after fertility treatment and pregnancy.
We also discuss some of the ways miscarriage can be managed, and the emotional impact that can come with each experience. We’re very conscious that we haven’t lived through pregnancy loss ourselves, so this episode is about opening up the conversation, learning and signposting to people and organisations who can offer proper support.
In Between the Lines, we focus on where to turn for help following pregnancy loss, as well as the support available when trying or becoming pregnant again after loss.
And in Closing the Page, we’re closing it firmly on telling someone struggling to have a baby to “just adopt.”
Pregnancy & baby loss support
Tommy’s Baby Loss Support: information and support covering miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death and other forms of pregnancy and baby loss.
Tommy’s Midwives Helpline: 0800 0147 800, Monday to Friday, 9am–5pm. You can also email midwife@tommys.org.
Black & Black Mixed-Heritage Midwife Helpline — a specialist service run by Tommy’s midwives in partnership with Five X More.
Tommy’s Miscarriage Support Tool & Wellbeing After Miscarriage - including personalised information for people considering another pregnancy after miscarriage, mental health support, physiotherapist-led sessions and movement sessions.
Tommy’s also runs Baby Loss and Pregnancy and Parenting After Loss Facebook support groups for peer-to-peer support.
We also discuss the early-pregnancy support available through Plan Your Baby
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