When old wounds start running new relationships

Some of us are in relationships with three people: us, the person we’re with now, and the ghost of the person who hurt us before. And somehow, that ghost still has voting rights.

They’re deciding what feels suspicious. What silence means. Whether somebody can be trusted. How we respond when a text goes unanswered. And sometimes, they’re even deciding how much love we’re willing to receive before we start preparing for something to go wrong.

In this episode of Talk & Toast, Coach Chanel G gets into what happens when old wounds start translating new experiences. We’re talking hypervigilance, trust issues, relationship testing, self-sabotage, confusing chaos with chemistry, and why peace can feel suspicious when dysfunction once felt familiar.

But this conversation goes deeper than “heal before you date.”

What if the real question isn’t simply, “Can I trust this person?” What if it’s also, “Do I trust myself enough to handle the truth if this person disappoints me?”

Whew. Yeah. We’re going there.

We’ll unpack the difference between discernment and fear, boundaries and walls, intuition and anxiety—and how to recognize when your past is informing you versus when it’s governing you. And because we don’t just identify problems around this table, you’ll leave with practical questions and tools to help you slow down, separate facts from fear, communicate your triggers without weaponizing them, and stop making new people stand trial for somebody else’s behavior.

And before we toast, there’s one question I want you to sit with:

What does the person in front of you deserve that somebody from your past stole from them?

Baby…come sit at the table.

🎙️ Talk & Toast with Coach Chanel G
We talk it out. We work it out. And baby, we toast to what happens next.

Somewhere along the way, strength stopped being a choice and started being requirement. In this 45-minute episode of Talk and Toast, we tell truth about softness- especially for Black women who learned early how to brace, how to survive, and how to stay ready in spaces that were never built for their care.

This conversation explores how strength became muscle memory, why softness started to feel risky, and what it costs us when resilience never gets to rest. We name the fatigue that often goes unseen and reframe softness not as weakness, but wisdom.

This episode is for anyone who's been praised for being strong while quietly longing for relief.

Pull up a chair

Lower the armor

And stay for the toast

Talk and Toast is powered by Provoke Change, where we name the problem- and toast to the solution.

In this raw and unfiltered episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G dives into the sacred tension of loving someone deeply—while still figuring out who you are. What happens when your heart is all in, but your identity is still under construction? From personal stories to expert insights, this episode breaks down the psychology, the emotional labor, and the soul work behind showing up in love without losing yourself.

Expect truth. Expect fire. Expect the kind of reflection that shakes your spirit and stirs real conversation at your table. And for the first time ever, Coach G drops an original song—“Loving Someone While Learning Yourself”—right in the middle of the episode, creating a moment that hits all the way home.

Whether you're in love, recovering from it, or learning to love yourself again—this episode is your mirror.

In this raw, unfiltered installment of Talk and Toast, Coach G pulls no punches. Dive into the psychology of why we stop showing up for ourselves—how trauma, survival modes and self‑sabotage mask as “taking a break.” Discover how life experiences shape our decisions, why we keep ghosting our own growth, and how to finally come back home to you. Get ready to feel seen, speak your truth, and toast to real healing.

Tune in, grab your glass, and let’s walk through the fire together.

In this festive episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G dives into the heart of the holiday season by exploring the beauty of traditions. Whether you’re celebrating solo, with family, friends, or a partner, traditions bring connection, joy, and meaning to this special time of year.

You’ll discover why traditions matter, how they ground us during the holiday chaos, and how they can reflect our values and personalities. Coach G shares realistic and creative ideas for starting new traditions—whether you’re decorating your tree with DIY ornaments, hosting a friends’ potluck, or gifting yourself a moment of reflection and gratitude.

Tune in for practical tips on how to make traditions meaningful, how to let go of those that no longer serve you, and how to create lasting memories that you’ll look forward to year after year. This episode is your guide to crafting a holiday season that feels intentional, joyful, and uniquely yours. 🎄✨

Motherhood is a beautiful and transformative experience, but it also comes with emotional challenges that can affect your mental health. In this episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G explores the complexities of maternal mental health, from hormonal shifts and identity changes to feelings of isolation and societal pressures. Discover common mental health struggles mothers face, strategies for self-care and resilience, and how to seek support while embracing the ups and downs of parenting. Whether you’re a new mom or supporting one, this episode offers encouragement and practical tools to navigate the journey with strength and compassion.

In this episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G dives into the importance of choosing the right people to share your life with. We explore what it means to create a trusted inner circle, recognize hidden agendas, and understand how different energies impact your well-being and growth. Learn how to spot the genuine supporters from the envious guests and why curating your circle can transform your peace and success. If you’ve ever questioned who truly belongs at your table, this episode is for you. Join us as we toast to stronger connections and healthier boundaries.

In this episode I explore the tricky territory of expectations- those we place on others that we might not meet ourselves. How often do we find ourselves disappointed in others, only to realize that we don't hold ourselves to the same standard? From relationships to friendships, I break down the impact of expecting without giving, and how these double standard can lead to frustration, strained connections, and even self-deception. Through relatable examples and eye-opening insights, this episode challenges you to reflect on your own expectations and offer others actionable steps to build healthier, more balance more balanced relationships. Join us as we toast to self-awareness, accountability, and creating more genuine connections with the people around us.